I'm feeling sensitive and need to let it out - pregnancy

suki1001

It seems to me they get het up about certain things that might affect the baby and they go through phases.

When I had my children, they didn't seem that bothered. I personally think they should maybe mention it once when you go for your first session and that's it, but they should do it to everyone, because lots of people can be thin and then put on loads of weight during pregnancy.

Also, what should be focussed on more is diet, the reason why I say this is I was a fat thin person, by that I mean I used to be an unhealthy thin person. I ate loads of junk during my pregnancy and didn't put much on, which wasn't good, unfortunately by looking at waistlines rather than lifestyle, it cuts out a lot of people who don't make the right choices.

hngrymummy

Women with high or low BMIs are at risk from complications during pregnancy and birth. The MWs and Drs have to be aware of this so that they can take the appropriate precautions.

I have a low BMI, so have been referred for consultant care. I have been sat in a room and asked about my relationship with food, and if I have ever had an eating disorder. They really didn't do it to humiliate me or make me feel bad. They just need to know what extra care they might need to take of me and my baby during pregnancy, birth and afterwards. In my case they keep a close eye on my morning sickness and always check that I am taking suppliments.

Please try not to take what they say as insulting. Next time you have a MW or consultant appointment, ask them for advice on what you can do to reduce the risks to you and your baby. Talk it through with them and explain how it makes you feel. They should be able to point you in the right direction for the support you need.

mildred1978

Nicki wrote: »

That is one of the most hysterical excuses for being overweight Ive ever heard. I am slightly taller than average (5'6") and to have a BMI of 34, I'd have to be 55lbs heavier than the top of my ideal range of weights. Now I am well endowed in the breast department too (an E cup) but there is no way each breast of mine weights 27.5lbs or the equivalent of two and a half large bags of potatoes (each!)
.

I'm 5' 10" and was a 34K before pregnancy. That's 9 cup sizes bigger than you. They easily weigh 3 stone each (that's based in how much water they displace as its not easy to weigh boobs individually).

I wasn't weighed either until I was 18 weeks gone, so it was hardly an accurate reading in any case!!

delain

ognum wrote: »

the question is do you want the truth or not?

yes it probably is hurtful for you to know you are obese but you can actually do something about it while you are pregnant. Many people manage to maintain the weight they are rather than putting on weight while pregnant.

don't use it as an excuse to eat for two and use this to show the health professional that you do care about your health and your babies health and you can lose weight.

Turn the negative into a positive if you can

I'm 5ft 7in, dress size 16 and never been told i was obese! When I had my.squeak I was 14st and no one batted an eye.

5ft6 and a size 14 is far far from obese and the OP should tell the people upsetting her to get stuffed, imo.

Btw my BMI at my size is 27, as done by the gp, who also stated that I'm healthy and that I don't 'have' to lose weight iyswim.

Mojisola

delain wrote: »

I'm 5ft 7in, dress size 16 and never been told i was obese! When I had my.squeak I was 14st and no one batted an eye.

5ft6 and a size 14 is far far from obese and the OP should tell the people upsetting her to get stuffed, imo.

I think the NHS (and schools) are starting to get an obsession with people's weight. If they were really having an impact on the numbers of obese people, it would be worthwhile but they just seem to be upsetting a lot of reasonable weight people instead.

Your waist measurement (pre-pregnancy, of course) is a much better indication of whether you need to lose weight. The dangerous weight is the stuff that accumulates around your organs.

People can have an acceptable BMI and have a dangerous fat to muscle ratio in their body. They can be considered to be obese on the BMI charts and be very fit and healthy.

embob74

Wasn't Jessica Ennis, an amazing athlete, classed as obese recently due to the BMI reading?
I am shorter than the OP and also a size 14. I am overweight but it was never mentioned as an issue in my 2 recent pregnancies.

OP only you can know whether the hospital staff have a valid point. If you feel your weight is an issue you should address it

hngrymummy wrote: »

Women with high or low BMIs are at risk from complications during pregnancy and birth. The MWs and Drs have to be aware of this so that they can take the appropriate precautions.

From the overweight people I have know it has never been that much of an issue with regards to childbirth. They have not been any less able to birth nor to breathe properly.
I find it more of an issue that there seems to be a trend towards more medicalised care of pregnant women and any reason seems to be given.
The biggest cause of complication in labour IMO is medical intervention. You have one and it leads to another....which leads to another....

OP you can refuse to see the same MW again. And you don't have to see a consultant if that's what they wish you to do. In fact you don't have to see anybody you don't want to in pregnancy.
My advice would be to eat well, sleep well and exercise regularly. I found when I was more active in pregnancy the labour tended to be so much easier.

Nicki

mildred1978 wrote: »

I'm 5' 10" and was a 34K before pregnancy. That's 9 cup sizes bigger than you. They easily weigh 3 stone each (that's based in how much water they displace as its not easy to weigh boobs individually).

I wasn't weighed either until I was 18 weeks gone, so it was hardly an accurate reading in any case!!

Your breasts weigh 6 stone :rotfl: :rotfl: Are you being serious! To put that in context that is roughly what my 11 year old daughter weighs. Are you telling me that if she put a foot in each of your bra cups and I lifted her up to 5 feet off the ground by the straps, that the fabric of your bra would not shred immediately under the weight?

There is lots online about how much breast tissue weighs, and it is a lot less than that. The heaviest I was able to find was a lady who had 36JJ breasts, which together weighed 5kg, which is just under 1 stone

http://www.channel4embarrassingillnesses.com/video/embarrassing-bodies/consultation-breast-reduction/?page=2

Lots of people are in denial about their weight and it's implications for health. But just because unfortunate women like Georgia Davis are classed as morbidly obese at 63 stone, doesn't mean that you have to be anywhere nearly that size to be categorised as obese or morbidly obese from a medical point of view. Carrying an extra 3-4 stones more than your ideal weight will easily push you into that category.

mildred1978

Nicki wrote: »

Your breasts weigh 6 stone :rotfl: :rotfl: Are you being serious! To put that in context that is roughly what my 11 year old daughter weighs. Are you telling me that if she put a foot in each of your bra cups and I lifted her up to 5 feet off the ground by the straps, that the fabric of your bra would not shred immediately under the weight?

There is lots online about how much breast tissue weighs, and it is a lot less than that. The heaviest I was able to find was a lady who had 36JJ breasts, which together weighed 5kg, which is just under 1 stone

http://www.channel4embarrassingillnesses.com/video/embarrassing-bodies/consultation-breast-reduction/?page=2

Lots of people are in denial about their weight and it's implications for health. But just because unfortunate women like Georgia Davis are classed as morbidly obese at 63 stone, doesn't mean that you have to be anywhere nearly that size to be categorised as obese or morbidly obese from a medical point of view. Carrying an extra 3-4 stones more than your ideal weight will easily push you into that category.

Oh yes, my comedy boobs are hilarious. Glad they give you a good laugh.

I said that it is very difficult to weigh boobs properly. I certainly don't have any equipment to measure them accurately. It may be that they are 3 stone together. I don't know.

What I do know is that my spine has adapted to them (I was a DD at 14, a G at 25 and a K at 34). My adult body has always been around a size 14, but you couldn't have pinched an inch up to the point that I had my son. Now I have a little bit of mummy tummy left but am almost back to a flattish tummy. My legs are slim as are my arms and face. Have been offered boob reduction surgery numerous times, but have declined. The changes to my hips and lower back during pregnancy do mean that I occasionally get two he's I'd I bend down so far that my boobs are below my waist, but that's not so hard to manage really.

Undoubtably there are things I have to do differently to someone with smaller boobs, but as don't remember life without them, it seems as normal to me as being left handed.

I did have to have special nursing bras made for breast feeding, and have to be very careful that normal bras support without pulling in my neck and shoulders.

Person_one

Have you been to a doctor Mildred? If your boobs continued to grow while the rest of you stayed slim after you reached adulthood, that's not normal.

mildred1978

Person_one wrote: »

Have you been to a doctor Mildred? If your boobs continued to grow while the rest of you stayed slim after you reached adulthood, that's not normal.

Interesting, because my sister's did, as did my mother's, her 3 sisters, her cousin, my grandmother, my great aunt and my great grandmother.

We're all clearly genetic freaks.