Parental contribution..does this sound right?

Benny24

No no private school fees. She got the house, he took nothing left her with it all. She is with partner who has well paid job, and no other children.
Think he needs to sit down with her and try and arrange something more suitable!

kelloggs36

Good luck!! Although please bear in mind that the new partner's circumstances are totally irrelevant. It is a matter which involves both parents and nobody else. Start with the CSA calculation and work from there.

Crazychik

Wow! £800 is an excessive amount to pay! To be honest - I think there is more to this than he is telling you, like it was mentioned, perhaps it was part of his divorce settlement agreement. Is he paying her money towards any debts they used to share? But for her to take time off to go abroard (even if its with his money) is rubbing his nose in it. She is entitled to a break - dont get me wrong, but not to squander on his money. (read below)

Im seperated, and my ex pays me £50 a week for 2 children DS 11 & dd 7.
He has the kids every Friday night after school until 8.30pm and
every other wk end, from Sat 2pm - Sun 7pm.
He never has them over Bank Holidays, and he'll have them for a week during the summer hols. (this yr he's having them for 2wks whoo hooo) and during the time he takes them on holiday, I never take that £50 from him. For the simple reason, I use that money for the children, (pack ups,after school clubs,childcare,clothes, etc) so I think I should reverse the situation and let him keep the money for the children! (how he spends it - is his business) Myself & partner do go away on our own, when the kids are with their dad, but the money used for that, is money we've saved ourselves. Money I receive from ex is solely used for the kids, and I would never take that away from them!

He works part-time as a postman, and I know he works over time and sometimes nights to earn more money, I could take the matter to the CSA, but him and his boss are clicky clicky, that they will fiddle his wage slips in order to prove he works 20hrs only! And that I will only recive the 15% allowed. Thats why I keep the arrangement as it is!

My new partner, has a son from his previous marriage, and pays £32.50 a wk through the CSA. That was 15% calculated on his wages. He doesnt see his son at all. Not through choice, but through a very nasty divorce, where is ex stopped all rights! (another long story) but he doesnt be-grudge his responsibilites.

Anyway, thats my situation, and I personaly think, you need to get a break down in figures and the whole story behind it, why he's paying this large amount!

I agree, offer to pay less (as advised from the CSA - He could bluff this) and put the rest in a savings account for his daughter.
Depends on the age, Im sure he would be within his parental rights for access!

I think she's taking him for a ride!

seven-day-weekend

Is she allowed to just withdraw access if he reduces the money??

I think he's being taken for a ride, it doesn't cost that much to keep one child.

aMeLia'S~MuMMY

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Is she allowed to just withdraw access if he reduces the money??

Yep, as long as contact has not been decided through court ~ even if it had been decided by court the contact could still be stopped but they would have to go back to court and they would'nt look favourably on the pwc.

:A

thesaint

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Is she allowed to just withdraw access if he reduces the money??

I think he's being taken for a ride, it doesn't cost that much to keep one child.

She is not 'allowed' as such, but nothing will be done about it in 99.9% of cases.

The cost of raising the child is irrelevant with regards to CSA payments, if he earns a lot he will pay a lot, if he earns nothing, he pays nothing.

seven-day-weekend

thesaint wrote: »

She is not 'allowed' as such, but nothing will be done about it in 99.9% of cases.

The cost of raising the child is irrelevant with regards to CSA payments, if he earns a lot he will pay a lot, if he earns nothing, he pays nothing.

But if I have read the thread correctly, he doesn't earn a lot.

Mrsmilim

How much does he want to pay? Thats the real question. Is he happy with what he pays? Does he want the CSA to be involved? There are practical ways of sorting this out - like the CSA who can do "proper" assesments - but if he's happy with what he's paying then let him deal with it. The more important thing is how happy he is with the contact he has with his daughter - after all - money doesn't buy her love.
If her mother does withdraw contact on the grounds that he's not paying enough then he can go to court for a contact order - which has NOTHING to do with money!!!

MJMum

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thesaint

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

But if I have read the thread correctly, he doesn't earn a lot.

He doesn't seem to be paying the correct amount, but the point I was making(Not clearly), was that someone brought up the subject that "It doesn't cost that much to bring up a child". This is irrelevant, the CSA do not decide how much it costs to bring up a child, they simply deduct a percentage of wages.

If it was a private agreement, then the two parties can decide how much it costs to 'Bring up their child' and how much is payable.