could some 1 help 2 kids going through divorce x

tasha24

hi there been with my hubby 10 years got a 10 yr old daughter 2 year old son my hubby and are not getting on tried to sort it out but no joy loooong story x my mortgage is 70 k housse is worth bout 140 k its the marital home i work 3 full days earning around 100 per week my child care is 55 pw i have been to see solicitors they have advised me legal jargon lol x can any 1 help me with roughly how much benifits i would recieve i have been on the gov site just wondering if any1 else can help roughly my maintenance is 88 pw x just need some figuers xx

Becles

Have a look on www.entitledto.co.uk

If you put your figures in, it will tell you what you can claim. From the brief details given, I would suspect you could claim working tax credits, child tax credits and help with childcare costs.

tasha24

hi theer thank you for your reply just wondering if any 1 went through the same situation and is it as scary as i think lol also does my hubby have to rehouse me x

jules68

sorry to hear about your lot.My husband walked out 2 months ago and cancelled everything.It is all going through solicitors at the mo, so I dont know if I can stay in the house.It has got to go to mediation first and then prob on to court to be sorted.It is a messy situation but try and stay strong.You will get tax credits and i think it is 80% of childcare costs paid. Phone them up straight away and get a form sent through.Good luck

Becles

tasha24 wrote: »

hi theer thank you for your reply just wondering if any 1 went through the same situation and is it as scary as i think lol also does my hubby have to rehouse me x

I've been through it, and trust me there is light at the end of the tunnel.

At the end of the day, the courts will want to see you both settled in a home that is suitable. That might mean you buying him out of the family home, or both of you moving to smaller properties.

If you can't raise the money to buy him out now, you can have a charge put on the property to give him his share when the youngest reaches 18 (check that as it might be different depending on if they stay in education or not).

It's not just the value of the property. It's the value of all the assets in the marriage. You might be able to give up a share in his pension or investments to keep the property if you want to.

Best to get advice on what is best in your circumstances though.

Keep your chin up and keep smiling for those children *hugs*

amani_2

I went through the same thing 9yrs ago now it has taken me 8yrs to settle the house issue, but my ex could not be found and if he could would not have cooperated anyway.

my house at the time had no equity in it so i managed to keep the house and the endowment policy this was in return for not asking for maintainace for the children. He would not have paid it anyway, so did not lose anything there.

tasha24

thank you its actually a little bit easier knowing other people been through simular things x it just confusing all of it as far as money side goes he is a bit of a controll freak ie ill pay bills im the man and wont tell me anything bout money at all so it scary and my kids and i just want simple things in life x i was hopin to sell this house get bout 60 k from it then buy another house with 100k mortgage and do my house up with a few thousand ie do the kids bedrooms all special for them as its going to be tough for them x court really scares me though my hubby is a bully i tend to back down alot x

Becles

Keep strong and fight for your fair share of the marriage assets. Don't let him walk all over you. You need your share to provide for the children, and they will appreciate it in later life, although they probably won't understand now.

If you have any money questions, ask in the relevant sections of the forums here and people will help. You're not on your own here

tasha24

thank you every 1 x any more top tips lol

Greggie

Hi

My husband left me and three children all under 10 at the weekend!!
What is it with men, they just cannot cope with reality or responsibility.
I'm in a rented accommodation, which is in his name which makes me feel really insecure. He is back with mummy for now!! :eek:

I believe he is going through a breakdown, he cannot tell me if it is over for good, one day he is nice to me, the next he is horrible.... As for me, I just have to cope, get on with it, live with this uncertainty.

Well I am looking up this site to see what benefits I am entitled to and with the money he will have to pay I think financially I will be better off without him!! How sad is that!

I'm not angry, just sad for my children, I wish he would grow up, look after his responsilblilites and family and get on with it, but that would be too easy.....

Anyone want to private email for support or encouragement to get us through these awful times, give me a shout.......;)

Greggie,

p.s i miss him..........i'm hurting bad.......:o

peter999

Greggie wrote: »

Hi

My husband left me and three children all under 10 at the weekend!!
What is it with men, they just cannot cope with reality or responsibility.
I'm in a rented accommodation, which is in his name which makes me feel really insecure. He is back with mummy for now!! :eek:

I believe he is going through a breakdown, he cannot tell me if it is over for good, one day he is nice to me, the next he is horrible.... As for me, I just have to cope, get on with it, live with this uncertainty.

Well I am looking up this site to see what benefits I am entitled to and with the money he will have to pay I think financially I will be better off without him!! How sad is that!

I'm not angry, just sad for my children, I wish he would grow up, look after his responsilblilites and family and get on with it, but that would be too easy.....

Anyone want to private email for support or encouragement to get us through these awful times, give me a shout.......;)

Greggie,

p.s i miss him..........i'm hurting bad.......:o

Chin up. Good luck.
Hope things sort out.

peter999