School Prom vent....

jellyhead

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Yes I agree.

I only found out today that one girl my daughter knows did not go because she could not afford a dress. She thought she would be alright about it until the day itself and then she really felt she was missing out.

If I had known I would have bought her one myself.

A girl I was talking to last week said that school have paid for her dress, which cost £55 (school would have paid more, but she liked the cheap dress) and have also given her a free ticket. None of the other kids know that school paid though, I only know because I know her mum, and they know I wouldn't tell my son or anyone else.

She has borrowed shoes, and the girls don't really go in for nails and spray tans in our town anyhow. Some do, but it's not the norm and not expected among the more alternative kids.

I'm facebook friends with some year 11 girls and they all seem to be keeping things simple - they like to look pretty but they're not competitive.

My son isn't going - he didn't even give me the letter. He's socially awkward though, and his girlfriend is a few weeks younger than him and is in the school year below, so she's not allowed to go with him.

Some people have told him he will regret it, but he really won't. He told his ex back at the start of year ten that he wouldn't be going. She was planning it way back then, imagining it like 'pretty in pink' I think.

Janepig

itzmee wrote: »

He came home with horror stories of orange girls with big hair and bigger dresses looking like they were part of Big Gypsy wedding - he wasn't impressed!

Wasn't there a recent-ish episode of BFGW where one of the girls was going to her school prom in one of those massive dresses they like to wear that they can hardly move in. I seem to remember she turned up for school about three times in her final year, just so that she would be allowed to go to the prom :rotfl:.

Love your DD's dress and necklace Notakid. She'll be the belle of the ball! Her hair sounds fab too.

Jx

jellyhead

balletshoes wrote: »

I don't really understand why, if you're not friends with the girls who are vying with each other to outdo on the cost of their dresses,hairdos, nails, tans etc etc, you'd be remotely bothered about them. If you are going to prom with your own friends, surely thats the important thing, and your friends aren't going to make snide comments about your dress if it didn't cost £500 (well, not if they are real friends).

My DD is 11, she's seen her best friend's big sister and our next door neighbour go off to their year 11 prom, both looking stunning in long dresses, hair and make-up done, little tiaras etc, and she can't wait to be doing the same, in a car with her friends. I know both the dresses (and a lot of the accessories) came from TXMaxx.

Same with my niece last year - she and her friends looked amazing, but the dresses were from TK-Maxx ... they're pretty anyway, and with their hair done and all different coloured dresses they were like beautiful butterflies

Shouldn't it be about the dress looking nice and flattering the figure, rather than the price tag?

janninew

Dunroamin wrote: »

There doesn't seem much point in spending 11 years in school uniform as an instrument of social equality, only to then turn round at the end of it all and have an occasion that shouts "I'm richer than you are"!

I'm surprised that schools don't do something to curb some of these excesses or to at least discuss the implications with the students. Hopefully some of them actually do this.

They may spend the school lives in uniform but there are still plenty of ways a child could basically say that I'm richer than you. You can tell in the school where I work who is from a family who are reasonably well off as they have IPhones or Blackberries, the less fortunate have cheap pay as you go phone. Same with trainers/shoes and coats.

My school has done lots to curb the prom 'excesses', all children have to meet at school and arrive at the venue by coach together, so nobody has limo's or sports cars.

I do think its amusing that you think 15/16 year olds are to young to learn these things, yet you still thanked the post that labelled some young girls as sl*ppers! Totally inappropriate name to give children.

janninew

jellyhead wrote: »

Same with my niece last year - she and her friends looked amazing, but the dresses were from TK-Maxx ... they're pretty anyway, and with their hair done and all different coloured dresses they were like beautiful butterflies

Shouldn't it be about the dress looking nice and flattering the figure, rather than the price tag?

Nobody would have any idea how much a particular dress cost, if you got a bargain you could still tell a little porky and 'exaggerate' the cost!

itzmee

Janepig wrote: »

Wasn't there a recent-ish episode of BFGW where one of the girls was going to her school prom in one of those massive dresses they like to wear that they can hardly move in. I seem to remember she turned up for school about three times in her final year, just so that she would be allowed to go to the prom :rotfl:.

At my son's school the kids had to qualify for an invitation to prom by getting points for attendance, hard work, attitude etc. If they didn't get the minimum points then they didn't go to prom! Attending school three times in a year wouldn't have got an invitation.

Mrs_Imp

I actually think that this is the saddest quote from the DM article

'Our boyfriends from outside school will be coming along to that — including mine, Michael, 17, who I’ve been going out with for a month — so there will be more romance than at the actual prom, especially with girls getting drunk.'

That such a young person equates girls getting drunk with 'romance'.

looby75

notakid wrote: »

Thanks for asking!

This is her dress!


And this is her necklace.


She has also got a sequinned shrug to cover her arms! As I'm a fuddy duddy!

gorgeous dress, I just showed it to DD and she said that must have cost a fortune, she was shocked when I said it was only £80!

Janepig

looby75 wrote: »

gorgeous dress, I just showed it to DD and she said that must have cost a fortune, she was shocked when I said it was only £80!

I just showed the pictures to DD before she went up to bed and she said "oh Mammy, they're lush, I love that necklace with the skellingtons" :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Jx

kezza1234

notakid wrote: »

Thanks for asking!

This is her dress!


And this is her necklace.


She has also got a sequinned shrug to cover her arms! As I'm a fuddy duddy!

I need this necklace. Where did you get it from???