I feel like Im cursed.....Why cant a job just be right????

MissSarah1972

Can you cycle? If so can you cycle on an A road?

slickc2100

hi Miss,

I'm going to try my best to sort something out..just remembered kids will be on holiday when I finish my traning so I'll be able to take the car in the morning. However I may not be able to do the shifts long term...Is there any way I can ask my employer to change my rota to an 8am start even??

What would be the best road to go down with regards to this..obviously waiting after the 3 month period if Im put on to a permanent contract??/

Thanks

slickc2100

MissSarah1972 wrote: »

Can you cycle? If so can you cycle on an A road?

I can cycle, but have not done so in years:rotfl:saying that I can't remember teh last time I jumped on a bike.
Though i could do with shedding some extra unwanted lbs.:rotfl:
x x

Katexx

You said you couldn't afford a nanny, but could you buy a cheap car for you to use?

kingfisherblue

Congratulations on getting the job

Could you ask at the company if there is anyone who lives near you? maybe they could give you a lift if you pay for petrol. Or you could google a lift sharing site.

Do any neighbours or friends start work in a similar area and at a similar time?

Re cabs - when you say it would cost £7-8 a day, is that one way only?

cazziebo

could your OH walk the children to school? Far preferable- and healthier to spend 15 - 20 minutes walking than get them up so early. (Is your OH going to be a stay at home dad? If so, don't worry about him being able to get them ready. He'll manage)

If none of that works out, speak to the employer and explain that logistically you can't start at 6am and ask if a later start is possible if not immediately, then soon. If the employer says that it will be possible, do your best to get that commitment in writing.

Congratulations on the job offer!

marybelle01

Yes, congratulations on getting the job and if you have only been looking for work a few weeks that really is an achievement.

I'd suggest that whilst your worries are understandable, I think you are fretting unnecessarily. Your OH may get a baptism of fire when suddenly faced with the sorts of issues that many women have to manage on a day to day basis, but like them he will learn to cope. Your job right now is to impress your employers by getting to work on time, doing a good job, and making yourself so invaluable to them that they can't imagine losing you. Remember, a permanant job doesn't really mean very much because you need two years employment before you can claim unfair dismissal, so it isn't going to be that difficult to get rid of you if they want to. A great many employers may be willing to arrange shifts better etc., but you may have to prove yourself first, and obviously, their business requirements are going to come before your wishes.

It may take a bit of time to adjust for both of you, but I think you'll find that your OH can be just as good at coping and juggling as you have had to be. He's just never had to before!

Sambucus_Nigra

slickc2100 wrote: »

hi Miss,

I'm going to try my best to sort something out..just remembered kids will be on holiday when I finish my traning so I'll be able to take the car in the morning. However I may not be able to do the shifts long term...Is there any way I can ask my employer to change my rota to an 8am start even??

What would be the best road to go down with regards to this..obviously waiting after the 3 month period if Im put on to a permanent contract??/

Thanks

We don't know where you are, where you are going to, who else lives nearby that could offer a lift, or your employers or their shifts and rota systems. I think starting there, and seeing how it goes with regards to options is the best way. By then, you may have worked out a solution with your OH with regards juggling all this. It's no different to men going off to work and leaving their womenfolk to deal with getting the kids to school and looking after the little ones.

How far away is the school?

Are there any public transport options available at all to you or your OH?

inmypocketnottheirs

MissSarah1972 wrote: »

Can you cycle? If so can you cycle on an A road?

Was going to be my immediate suggestion!!

cte1111

Well done on the new job, even more well done on tackling these challenges to make sure that you can work.

Re the OH being able to get the kids ready - he'll get there, it may well be tough for the first week or so but I'm sure after that he'll find his own routine. Maybe you could write down the schedule that you roughly follow, to show how long it usually takes to get the little ones dressed, do everyone's hair, find appropriate PE kit etc.

Getting everyone up for 6am isn't ideal, but if that's the only way you can work, then for now that's what you'll have to do. I would suggest taking the kids in their PJs and they can then go back to bed for an hour after dropping you off. It's only a few weeks until the summer holidays so go for it for now.

Flexible working - once you've worked for an employer for 26 weeks, then as a parent you have a right to ASK for flexible working. Here's more info about that:
http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Employment/Employees/Flexibleworking/DG_10029491

It does sound though that your employer has various different shift patterns, they've offered you the only one that they've got available at the moment. Fingers crossed that once you're working there and proved yourself that they might well be able to move you across to a more convenient shift (other people might leave or be happy to swap).

I'd also agree that looking into public transport or walking for the school run would be a good idea it at possible.