Grrr being put down again

susieanne

I had a massive acheivement well it was something that i felt proud about doing . I told a few people about it and they all said well done but when i told a distance relative they never said well done just said "well i know such abody and they did better " which i replied thats brilliant for him but im proud of what i did . Its not the first time this person has tried to put me down in this way . I have since seen the person who suppose to have done so much better than me and that person didnt know what i was on about so it seems that my relation seems to have just said it to me to make me feel bad . My first thought is just dont say anything to my relative about seeing this other person as it may be best just to ignore as i think they have been childish to try and put me down again , and its not worth arguing over but i feel really annoyed now and i feel like saying ive seen that person and its nothing of the sort and why have you lied . What do you think ?

tiernsee

I would just ignore them. My sister is very like this and I put it down to her lack of self-confidence and esteem - it used to really bug me but as I've got older I can accept that it is her problem and not mine, and let it pass.

sassyblue

Susiann honey you need to ignore your relative. It was upsetting what they did but they clearly have bigger issues to want to do that. Hold your head up high and pity them.

Well done for whatever it was x

Desperado99

Ignore them. By confronting them all you do is let them know that they've got to you.

It's kinda like 'don't feed the trolls' but real life

Whatever your achievement is, Well Done :T

j.e.j.

susieanne wrote: »

i feel really annoyed now and i feel like saying ive seen that person and its nothing of the sort and why have you lied . What do you think ?

Well, the trouble with doing that is that 1) this distant relative who put you down then knows that they've got to you, and they've got their reaction, and 2) they'll then probably make something else up!

You've chased it up with the person concerned who has confirmed that 'distant relative' is talking utter b*****ks, so you now know not to set any value on what they say. For whatever reason this distant relative wants to 'put you in your place'. Don't waste your time and energy arguing with a stupid real-life troll

Brighton_belle

In future, protect yourself form this distant relative by not sharing anything personal or special to you.

PinkLipgloss

Susieanne,

I think this quotation from Eleanor Roosevelt is perfect in this instance:

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

I always bring it to mind when appropriate (IMO I think your relative has envy/jealousy issues!).

Lotus-eater

susieanne wrote: »

I had a massive acheivement well it was something that i felt proud about doing . I told a few people about it and they all said well done but when i told a distance relative they never said well done just said "well i know such abody and they did better " which i replied thats brilliant for him but im proud of what i did . Its not the first time this person has tried to put me down in this way . I have since seen the person who suppose to have done so much better than me and that person didnt know what i was on about so it seems that my relation seems to have just said it to me to make me feel bad . My first thought is just dont say anything to my relative about seeing this other person as it may be best just to ignore as i think they have been childish to try and put me down again , and its not worth arguing over but i feel really annoyed now and i feel like saying ive seen that person and its nothing of the sort and why have you lied . What do you think ?

I think you are thinking about things too much and over analysing.

Firstly, as PLG says above, if they make you feel bad, it's because of you.
If you need people to tell you how great you are and how great you've done all the time, then any potential put down or negative thought, will make you feel bad.
If you're self confident enough to not be that bothered if someone obviously is jealous/ and/or pathetic/small minded, then it won't matter what they say anyway, because you'll already be thinking about something else.

Sambucus_Nigra

Try making them an even more distant relative.

susieanne

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Try making them an even more distant relative.

Thanks you made me giggle may well do that


Thanks everyone and i dont know why im even bothering giving it a thought , your all right i will ignore there comments

poet123

I am going to be different! Leave it awhile and then say to your relative that you bumped into xxx and wanted to have a chat with them about their achievement, and, guess what, they didn't have a clue what you were talking about, so clearly you must have got it wrong, smile and shake your head and make a "silly you" comment. They will get the message and you will feel better.