Delegation failure :-(

podperson

Lol, I wasn't exactly meaning it from a women's lib point of view but merely that if OP's DH is anything like my OH he may not actually realise there is a problem if the OP hasn't brought it up with him.

A messy house gets on my nerves, it doesn't seem to bother my OH at all. Probably the ideal from his point of view would be that we did the bare minimum possible, ie wash clothes when there's none left, do the dishes when there's not a clean one in the house - we don't have kids so technically who's to say my way is the 'right' one and he should have to conform. Therefore if I'm expecting him to do more then he probably would if he lived on his own then why wouldn't I ask instead of demand - not to mention a bit of civility helps in most situations.

There are things about me that drive my OH mad - when they bother him I would much rather he ask me nicely about them rather then say 'do this or else.'

JimmyTheWig

epskie wrote: »

Yes he is in the 501st. And the 99th garrison. Hmmm cool is a matter of opinion ;-)

Maybe he could give one of them up for a while and see how it goes? You can tell him I said that, despite thinking it's cool.

Basically I think you just need to divy up the jobs between you. A timetable might help.

heartbreak_star

Heh, a couple of my mates are in the Rebel Legion. Looks like fun but like all cosplay/re-enactment, far too much faf for me - I like larp which has less constraint but all the fun.

That was off topic, sorry!

Do you have a loft where all the less-used stuff can be put? Or even floored out for an extra room?

HBS x

Mojisola

heretolearn wrote: »

'you'd really appreciate it if he helped out more?'

see I think this is the mistake a lot of women make. Household chores are not for men to help the women with, that still makes them the woman's responsibility.

Hear! Hear!

A household takes a lot of work to keep it going - some of that involves earning money, some of it childcare, some of it housework and maintenance.

Everyone in the house has to do their share, according to their age and health. If there are two adults who are out earning money for about the same hours every week, the other work should be divided fairly equally.

You might "help out" a friend or neighbour - you just do your share in your own home!