Being polite/well-mannered towards children (Ranty)

Ginger_Poodle

Gingerjar wrote: »

Totally agree with you GG. I work with teenagers and hate the way people are so rude and negative about them.

Boo to the grotty neighbour!

Full agreement on both points. Great experience today. Had been to a new deli near us 3-4 weeks ago and my 4 year old daughter had a great chat with a young (18/19ish) chap working there, to the extent that she wanted to take her new toy to show him when we went in today. He clearly didn't recognize me (why would he???) but the minute he saw her she got a lovely smile and hello. Even remembered that she had been starting swimming lessons and asked if she was enjoying them. It made her day. Children and teens get nonsense thrown at them but in reality, the vast majority don't deserve it!

mrcow

I'd report him for the swearing too. It's a criminal offence if he does it in the street.

No one should be speaking to anyone like that (let alone children).

http://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/1986/64

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Violetta_2

Your poor little girl GG hope she is ok. (&snigger at the bloke being gvisited by the police, I wonder if they were told about his language too?) I was really shaken up a few months ago when a young woaman (20ish) shoved past my daughter in a shop, I said to my daughter "I'm sure that lady meant to say excuse me" the "lady" turned round & started ranting saying don't you be F**king cheeky to my you effin etc etc, you get the picture. I really rattled me in front of my dd. What is it with some people?

Pollycat

Re the door incident, some people are just plain rude.
She probably would have done the same to an adult.

I always check behind me and hold a door open if someone is close by.
I always say 'Thank you' if someone holds a door for me and if it's a child who's opened the door for me, I make a point of saying something like 'Thank you, that's very kind of you'.

I dislike intensely those ignorant people who just barge through and don't acknowledge you holding the door.

I usually say 'Thank you so much for allowing me to hold the door open for you'.
Some even have the decency to look sheepish.

OrkneyStar

You'd think some folk were born 55 and have never been kids themselves? I wonder if some of them were treated like carp and that's why they do it? Still no excuse though.
I think nice manners in a child are lovely to see, I always try to be kind to kids when they are just being kids (even if they are slightly naughty at times, which it doesn't sound like yours were being in this case though).
Re the door thing, I have an on-off back problem, some days it is really sore and I hate having to hold doors, this said I'd NEVER let it swing onto anyone especially a child. I suppose some children are just having to learn that not all people are nice or kind or helpful- sad but true .

Cat501

puppypants wrote: »

I was in a restaurant in Bath last year and a family of Mum Dad and three children were sitting having a meal. I was so impressed with their manners etc, that I took the time to compliment the parents on the way the children were behaving. It made their day!

It definitely does make your day! At the end of a long 9 hour train journey with DDs (5 and 7 at the time) and DS (2) an elderly lady came up to me and said she'd never seen such well behaved children.

It was lovely of her but she'd clearly missed the bit where DS mooned at the entire carriage.....:o

Margaret52129

I agree that there are some really mean/rude people around and not only towards children. Like pollycat I also say some comment on the same lines, but sometimes it's way over their heads!

I always taught my DD's to be polite in all areas. My DGS's are being taught the same.

Recently I had taken my eldest GS to shops and he held the door for me but I was taking too long to come so he stood there holding the door for a while when he suddendly rushed up to me and said that a lady had said 'thank you' and given him 50p! It was very heartwarming to know that he was appreciate and it confirmed that it was the right thing to do. He's only 3 but remembers it very well!

So, thankfully, not everyone is so rude!

Welshwoofs

GobbledyGook wrote: »

He did the same last weekend when some kids were playing on their bikes.

Many people are rude in general and I don't think that it's particularly confined to being taken out on kids. It does sound like your neighbour is unreasonable however in regard to the bit above - were the kids riding their bikes on the pavement? If they were he'd have a point as riding a bicycle on the pavement (unless on a designated bike lane) is prohibited by Section 72 of the Highway Act and can be punishable by a fixed penalty notice of £30.

alleycat`

To go on a tangent, I've become somewhat iffy about holding doors open as I've had several women "have a go at me" for doing so.

Apparently they are quite capable of managing doors themselves.
There was me thinking I was polite when in reality i was out to get them... :mad:

I do make a point of not letting it whop people in the face :eek: