Problems with my Brother

Sugar_Coated_Owl

If I don't give my Dad extra money then I'll end up sitting in the dark as the electric will go off. On top of that we won't have any food either.

I understand what you're saying and you're right but the reality of the situation is as above.

Jinx

My brother was the same - I know it is highly irritating but it is for your dad to deal with. Its his home and I presume his name on the bills.

My daughter (age 20) has just moved back home and we have already had discussions re petrol costs as I've been running her to her temp job and digs and these will start being paid on her first payday. If your dad doesnt set the rules then the son will continue.

As an aside OP, does your brother maybe think as you dont currently pay rent that he should be the same?? Not saying its correct but could it be an aspect of the issue?

KxMx

Sugar_Coated_Owl wrote: »

If I don't give my Dad extra money then I'll end up sitting in the dark as the electric will go off. On top of that we won't have any food either.

I understand what you're saying and you're right but the reality of the situation is as above.

As long as your Dad and Brother don't go hungry or have to sit in the dark, nothing is likely to change.

Let the situation progress without you making up the shortfall and see what happens.

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Jinx...I do contribute, obviously not as much as I'm relying on ESA at the moment but I do help my Dad out. My brother is one of these people who thinks the world owes him.

Jinx

Sugar_Coated_Owl wrote: »

Jinx...I do contribute, obviously not as much as I'm relying on ESA at the moment but I do help my Dad out. My brother is one of these people who thinks the world owes him.

I wasnt trying to imply that you werent... But I know my brother in his late teens/early 20s would have taken me not paying rent as a sign he shouldnt too if you know what I mean?

If its any consolation at all, my brother went on to join the military has travelled the world and earns some serious cash (waaaay more than me) - there is always hope Sugar Coated Owl

BitterAndTwisted

Your brother is the kind of person who has learned that he doesn't have to pay his way. Blame the people who have taught him that lesson. And it wasn't you.

KiKi

Let it go dark. See how long he doesn't contribute then.

meg72

KiKi wrote: »

Let it go dark. See how long he doesn't contribute then.

Think thats your answer here, its not your responsibility, I would stock up on candles, torch, munchies etc and take myself off in my room, let them sort it.

cottonhead

I agree that it sounds really annoying but your dad is the parent and the one who has to set the boundaries. Pay what ever it is you agreed to contribute and no more. If your brother fails to contribute then your dad must deal with it. If it mean sitting in the dark then do what was suggested earlier and go to your room and read / watch tv etc by candle ! he will get the message once he knows others will not always sort his mess out. It will help him be more responsible in future.