Just got married. How do we double barrel our names?

Gigglepig

McKneff wrote: »

My own opinion in the past has been that it has been a bit pretentious and people trying to put out that they are something that they are not but Im quite happy to have my mind changed.

Two people with separate surnames get married and put their names together to one, so they have the same family name. Not sure what else they would be trying to 'put out' as you say, but do tell?

jason1231972

Gigglepig wrote: »

Two people with separate surnames get married and put their names together to one, so they have the same family name. Not sure what else they would be trying to 'put out' as you say, but do tell?

I think I get what McKneff means. Double-barrelled surnames are traditionally the reserve of the upper classes/aristocracy.

McKneff

Gigglepig wrote: »

Two people with separate surnames get married and put their names together to one, so they have the same family name. Not sure what else they would be trying to 'put out' as you say, but do tell?

I did tell, in the last two lines of my post.

And Jason (thank you kind sir) says it quite succinctly what I actually mean.

Im 62, a bit of a traditionalist so Mr X marries Miss Y becomes Mrs X. That's the way it alwasy has been, traditionally.

You have to give us oldies time to catch up with these modern times, I'll get there, I always do. Eventually.

I'm even contemplating buying my self an Ipad, (polishes fingernails on lapel lol) my son is impressed, hope you are too.

Person_one

McKneff wrote: »

Could somebody tell me why you want to double barrel your name.

I can understand you wanting (female) to keep your single name.

Would you expect your husband to do this also or would be still be Mr xx and you would be mrs xx yy.

Genuine question,

My own opinion in the past has been that it has been a bit pretentious and people trying to put out that they are something that they are not but Im quite happy to have my mind changed.

I imagine they want to have the same name without either having to give up the one they've had all their life so far.

What are they pretending to be by double barrelling? Its not just for posh people anymore!

Valli

a few years ago a couple round here married and double barrelled their names and put an announcemnt in the paper. His name was Smith; hers was much more unusual and hers went in front of his, to become Mr and Mrs (unusual name)-Smith.
I always assumed she couldn't bear losing her unusual surname.

A former colleague of mine changed HIS name to his wife's when they married! She just had to change to being a Mrs W instead of Miss W!

McKneff

So in legal terms when a baby of Mr X and Mrs X Y and it is registered what would be the surname to be registered. It couldnt be Miss XY because that is not the 'legal' surname of the mother, its only a 'known by' name unless of course mother had the XY changed by deed poll.

Would the registry have to be

Miss Janet x (first names) with Y as a surname.

Valli

You can change your name by 'custom and usage' and register the baby in whatever name. Friends of mine (not married) toyed with the idea of mixing a surname for their firstborn - part of mum's surname + part of dads - in the end they gave him dads. Baby two had her surname.

S'minefield in my job - we know the child's surname but parents can have different ones - we don't mean to offend when we call mum Mrs Whatever...

Person_one

McKneff wrote: »

So in legal terms when a baby of Mr X and Mrs X Y and it is registered what would be the surname to be registered. It couldnt be Miss XY because that is not the 'legal' surname of the mother, its only a 'known by' name unless of course mother had the XY changed by deed poll.

Would the registry have to be

Miss Janet x (first names) with Y as a surname.

There's no rule, the parents can decide what to do about children's names, if they even have children. My nephew's have the same surname as me and a different surname to their mother.

They've being doing it in Spain for a long time now with no issues.

mildred1978

McKneff wrote: »

Im 62, a bit of a traditionalist so Mr X marries Miss Y becomes Mrs X. That's the way it alwasy has been, traditionally.
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I don't believe it has "always been that way" at all.

I was Miss X. I married Mr Y. 8 years on I'm still Miss/Ms X and never ever Mrs X or Mrs Y.

Our son is Master Y but he has X as his 2nd middle name.

Works perfectly for us.

McKneff

I didnt say 'always' or if I did I meant it in the traditional sense,not just in the last 8 years or so ie since marriage began and carried on generation after generation, even in the 60's, I cant go much further than that, women who lived with men without marriage usually called themselves Mrs (with the male surname) just for 'respectability' and so the neighbours wouldnt class her as a wanton woman and much worse name calling than that. Life and thinking were very very different 50 years ago.

2 things spring to mind and these were the norm,

A head in the gas oven was a very preferred way of 'topping' yourself. Did you know that if you survived this suicide attempt you were prosecuted, fined or jailed.

Homeosexuals were imprisoned for their sexuality.

Can you imagine anything like that happening these days.

Like I say, things were different then, thank God those times have gone, it makes me wonder though what the world be like in 50 years from now.