First Fatherless Fathers Day

melymay

Evening all,

My Darling Dad died on 23 Dec last year, so almost 6 months have passed, the thing is is seems to be getting harder rarther than easier . . Maybe because of the constant advertising over the past month . .

So today I have done the things he would have liked . . Bacon sandwich, long walk (when he was able but years ago), Sunday Times and Observer, red wine with dinner and now enjoying a Jamieson . . all I need now is for someone to fire up a cigar so I can smell the smoke from the garden . .

Just need to find some Irish music to sing along to and I cam imagine him with me . .

Hope all of you with Dads have had a fabulous day !!

MM

marisco_2

Im so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you spent today fondly remembering your dad. I think its lovely you did all the things he enjoyed. Sending you a huge hug and hoping that memories of your dad brought you lots of comfort.

snapping_crocodile

{{hugs}} to you melymay

My lovely dad died three years ago on father's day. I haven't found it any easier each year he has been gone. I find the constant advertising hard too as it reminds me of both him, and losing him It sounds like your dad would have been proud of the way you have remembered him today though. Whenever I hear Louis Armstrong it reminds me fondly of my dad, but I also have a tear in my eye at the same time

Tiddlywinks

These special days are always hardest aren't they?

Just wanted to add my hope that you managed to remember the good times and share a few stories in memory of your dad.

I had my first Mothers day without my mum in March and I found it really hard.. just had to try to get through it.

Sending kind thoughts...

melymay

Thanks for your kind replys . . I decided to spend the day with my memories, my brother and sister both have kids and I felt they needed to enjoy the day with their respective Dads . . I'm taking Mum out for lunch tomorrow and we can chat about it then .

Time is teaching me that we all deal with things differently and in a different time frame . .

A friend has recently lost both her parents and become a mother and she is nowmost compassionate person I know . . Sometimes grief makes you so much more aware and rather than talk, listen x

Lucky94

It's also my first Father's Day without my Dear Dad :-(

I've made it as special as I can for my hubby and our beautiful children, but instead of giving my Dad a card and present I had to leave a card and flowers at his resting place..so sad.

Everyone told me that time is healer, it'll get easier..etc I don't think it has it's just that I have learned to deal with it better.

I love and miss him so much each day, he told me 2 days before he died that he loved me so I keep those words with me for comfort.:A

killerpeaty

Yeah, my dad went into a coma over 7 months ago and will not survive so it's kind of my first father's day without my dad. It's been a weird day.

Massive hugs to everyone without a dad today.
x

bright_side

Big hugs melymay xx

I also lost my daddy just four months ago and you are right, the masses of advertising is really difficult when things are so very raw. It's just a constant reminder that our loved ones are no longer here and will be a source of dread every year here on in.
I have spent the day with my second mum, half brother and step sister, which was lovely and made the day a little easier. I know he would have been looking down on us and smiling, just as your Dad will have been with you

There's no right or wrong when it comes to grieving, we can only do what feels right for us.

Take care of yourself xx

melymay

@Killerpeaty,

Hope that when that happens your Dad will be in peace and that you and your loved ones can have good memories to fill your hearts and minds X

bright_side

Lucky94 wrote: »

Everyone told me that time is healer, it'll get easier..etc I don't think it has it's just that I have learned to deal with it better.

Five years on from losing my big sister, I also believe that's exactly what happens - the pain never goes away, but somehow we just learn to live with it - because we have no option xx

killerpeaty

melymay wrote: »

@Killerpeaty,

Hope that when that happens your Dad will be in peace and that you and your loved ones can have good memories to fill your hearts and minds X

Thanks. It means a lot.

I hope you made it through the day ok.