Mothers Day how do I cope ?

bluenose1

My heartfelt sympathy to you. It sounds like you are trying to be too brave and coping without support. Lots of good advise about getting support from other posters.

I suppose we all cope differently. My mum died aged 57 several years ago and I find even after all this time I get tearful whenever anyone talks about her.
My coping mechanism to get through Birthdays/ Mothers Day etc is to arrange to go out and do something rather than sit at home dwelling. I normally find there is that much going on the day is quickly over. My sister is the opposite, she will go to the grave, look through photos and have a good cry. We all cope differently.

Thinking of you.

Snaggles

I've no advice to offer, but just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss, and how incredibly brave and strong you seem from your posts. I hope Sunday isn't too painful for you. Take care xx

sticher

I think you have been given some good advice and i really feel for you.#
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I lost my mum last year and am not looking forward to mother's day at all (I have 3 children myself though so will cope for them).
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I think the best thing that helps is talking to others in the same position - it has really helped me.
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Take care x

gregg1

sticher wrote: »

I think you have been given some good advice and i really feel for you.#
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I lost my mum last year and am not looking forward to mother's day at all (I have 3 children myself though so will cope for them).
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I think the best thing that helps is talking to others in the same position - it has really helped me.
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Take care x

A parent's worst nightmare - I really feel for you.

Just looking at some of the posts on this thread and I realised, the posts on MSM seem to have been hitting a low lately with an unusual amount of nastiness going on. But you only have to look on this thread to see there are still kind and considerate people on MSN.

astonsmummy

Hiya hun, sorry no advice here either but wanted to give you big (((((((((((hugs)))))))))))

Ellie2758

I dont know what I can add - others have offered such good advice. She will always be your daughter, even though she is no longer here. You dont say how old your sons are but I guess maybe they too grieve for her. I hope Sunday is bearable for you all. Losing your child has to be the worst grief of all - I hope you can allow yourself to let others help you.

smokybabe

I am so sorry for your loss and will be thinking of you tomorrow ktflosspot.

Stormybay

KTflosspot,
I'm so sorry for your loss, I cannot imagine how you must be feeling, I just wanted to say I'll be thinking of you tomorrow.....HUGS
Stormy

quietheart

This is so sad. You must try and remember how recently this happened to you, you really need time and space to grieve your daughter. Tomorrow you need to do what feels right for you. Maybe your husband could take the boys out and you could have a few hours to yourselves, go through her things, allow yourself to be with her and just have a good cry. Talk to her and say the things that you are bottling up inside.
I can't begin to imagine how you have coped with this so far, I really admire that you still manage to be positive.
It's time to take care of you now.

catznine

Just wanted to send some ((((Hugs)))) and to let you know that I am thinking of you.

Catz x