Humans & Dogs... Mmmmmm.....

sassyblue

redwineguzzler wrote: »

I guess that the falling out came out of her separating from her partner and needing lots of support (which we gave), but when she insisted that 'Dad' gave all his attention to her (being the only girl), almost all of the time even when my hubby had stroke which he was in intensive care for, she got upset that he/we were not at her beck and call she felt she wasn't being given enough attention to (ie looking after her daughter every weekend) etc, so she could go out with her friends/drink etc.... We acknowledged that she needed a bit of 'her time' , but physically & emotionally couldn't be there ALL of the time, we also had a family to take care of, during this time she would still arrive at our home every weekend for babysitting/meals etc.... (which she was made very welcome) and when we eventually talked to her about this, she just kicked off, saying we didn't love her enough,etc etc, and so the saga went on - and now it's been 6 yrs.... and now we are at this point..... very sad really...

Agree with krlyr..

There's a thread on here somewhere about narcissism and narssicistic behaviour, sound like you might find it rings a few bells about her.

Best wishes to you and your son and all xxxx

Tiddlywinks

redwineguzzler wrote: »

I'll firstly say 'I DO NOT WANT TO UPSET ANIMAL LOVERS'....

As some of you know my son is very ill with terminal cancer, and every day we spend with him is precious now...

BUT, my hubbys DD from a previous marriage (she's in her early 40's - with a daughter of her own) has not even bothered to get in touch with us (even though she knows all about our son), after a family row over 6 years ago, even though we have tried the 'olive branch' several times over the years especially so when we found out sons diagnosis Dec 2010.

Now all she keeps posting on FB that her dog has cancer.... this has really upset me and hubby, I know that she loves her dog, BUT it's still a dog? are we so wrong to feel so upset that she thinks more of her dog than her half brother????

I am not you and can't comprehend what it is to see your child in pain and so poorly; my thoughts are with you. Though perhaps I understand a little of what you might be feeling based on my experience.

My mum died recently from a brain tumour and I wanted so much to provide a perfect environment for her... I wanted to get all the family involved and show her how much she was loved. Sadly, her oldest brother let us all down very badly and this has left me very angry with him and I am trying extra hard to just let it go - he made his choice, it was outside of my control and he will have to live with his decisions - as will your stepdaughter.

I can understand how difficult it must also be for your stepdaughter - from your post it appears that you made more contact once you knew of your son's condition. Your relationship with her had already broken down and this contact would have put her in a difficult situation.

Would it have been better if she'd responded to your contact and pretended to be devastated and came around regularly just putting on an act?

As to her posting on FB about her dog - to some of us animals are part of our lives and our families. Why shouldn't she be posting about her dog? Would you really want her (a comparative stranger to your son in recent years) posting about his illness? She hasn't made any comparisons on FB; she has just chosen to only write about her dog.

She has made her choice, let her be - she will have to live with her actions.