Have you heard the saying "you can have the figure or the face?"

jetplane

I agree with the poster who said we need to adjust weight as we get older. Yes there are people who maintain a healthy weight during life and still look well at the same weight but I think it's when it comes to loosing weight that older women get the drawn / scrawny look. Im 50 and most of my friends and colleagues around the same age are discovering that the middle age spread is not a myth but as soon as we start to lose weight we find it coming off our face and neck and not the waist, by the time the waist is as it should be the face is not

Don't know about curly hair mine is dead straight and I spent most of my youth having tight curly perms which fell into a demiwave with in a week :cool: All I can say about your skin is use a serum, moisturise like mad and find an illuminating base.

Or have fillers as someone suggested don't know if they're permanent though.

Gloomendoom

jetplane wrote: »

I agree with the poster who said we need to adjust weight as we get older.

This may be true for women but I don't think it is true for men. You certainly need to adjust the amount you eat as you get older, to the tune of 200 cals less per day for every decade aged (I'd post the source of that info if I could remember where it was.)

Unfortunately, I found that my weight naturally adjusted upwards as I got older. I've spent since January re-adjusting it back to what it was in 1985. I may be a bit biased, but I think it suits me better and my face is just less chubby, not gaunt. My wife seems to think so anyway.

BlondeHeadOn

Gloomendoom wrote: »

This may be true for women but I don't think it is true for men. You certainly need to adjust the amount you eat as you get older, to the tune of 200 cals less per day for every decade aged (I'd post the source of that info if I could remember where it was.)

Unfortunately, I found that my weight naturally adjusted upwards as I got older. I've spent since January re-adjusting it back to what it was in 1985. I may be a bit biased, but I think it suits me better and my face is just less chubby, not gaunt. My wife seems to think so anyway.

I think it can apply to men as well, it depends on the man. I knew a bloke who lost about 3 stone in his 50's, and ended up looking really lined and haggard facially - but a lot younger looking in his body shape.

I thought he ended up looking gaunt and ill, but he was very happy with his weightloss so I diplomatically didn't mention the lined and droopy face!

repeatoffender

Congratulations on losing weight i would ask you to give yourself time to get used to your new image. i lost weight a few years ago with s/world and was unhappy with the way i looked i disliked my wrinkles more than my fat and i am sure this has contributed to me regaining much of the weight. I read an article by dawn french who said it took her a long time to like her new self as she did not recognise the person in the mirror. Have you thought of speaking to someone with afrocarribean hair or a hairdresser who does this type of hair as they have products that might relax your hair.

Gloomendoom

BlondeHeadOn wrote: »

I think it can apply to men as well, it depends on the man. I knew a bloke who lost about 3 stone in his 50's, and ended up looking really lined and haggard facially - but a lot younger looking in his body shape.

I thought he ended up looking gaunt and ill, but he was very happy with his weightloss so I diplomatically didn't mention the lined and droopy face!

Oh dear! Well, I'm in my 50's and have lost two and a half stone. I'm glad to say that my face isn't particularly lined or at all droopy.

It must be due to my skin care routine.

Actually, I think a lot of it is to do with genetics as the rest of my family are blessed with the same kind of skin.

System

Before i got pregnant with my son i managed to get to a size 12. At 5ft 1 i was still overweight but it was suggested by one of the doctors who i was under at the hospital not to lose any more weight. He'd seen me a few months previously and had remembered me and was taken back by the weight i'd lost since i'd seen him last. He suggested that i'd lost enough weight and didnt need to lose any more.

Around the same time a man i knew from my usual social gatherings saw me for the first time for months but he got me on my own put his arm round me and instead of flattering my new found figure he whispered. 'I want the old Judi back, youve lost too much weight'.

Whereas everyone else was telling me how good i looked only two people were honest with me as to how i looked, i must admit i didnt like what i saw in the mirror. My face was thin and i looked gaunt and my boobs had near dissappeared.

The best of it was i thought losing weight would improve my sex life (not that it needed much improving but i did think there would be a difference) but the fact was, although my husband loved his new 'improved woman' it didnt alter our sex life one little bit in fact it dropped off slightly.... Mind you, not that putting on weight was going to be an issue as i got pregnant whilst i was still dieting. I gave up at that point.

Padstow

Artytarty wrote: »

Well I think it is true. I am back a t a good weight for my height Yay!
However I look older, hands are wrinkly face thinner and less full of vitality. I can reasses my makeup ( htinking I might try serums)and my wardrobe without too much difficulty but there is something I find I can do nothing about...
my biggest vanity problem is my hair. it is naturally very curly which all the mags, forums etc etc tell you is very aging. I look like Crystaltips if anyone can remember that childrens cartoon. Itis basically a curly triangle of hair. Quite boho/gipsy looking. Slighlty mad cat lady look at times too! Not too good.
When I try to straighten it then it just sticks out in a slightly wavy triangle. I am scared of more layers as they add to the curl and I could end uo with a curly tennis ball of hair!
ps Im 51.

Has anyone else had the same problem and what did you do?

Sorry for ranting but I just caught sight of myself and AAAARRRRGGGH!

I will suggest two things that I want but cannot afford.
First the babyliss big hair hot brush. The videos are convincing and members here love it. I want one, but can't afford it.

The other is a non surgical facelift, either by machine such as CACI or manually. It puts the fat pads back high on the cheeks from where they have slipped below.

Not many can do it manually as I saw on "Make me ten years younger" in London, but by research today due to this thread, I saw one in Derby.
It is a subtle difference, but then who wants to look like they were caught in a wind tunnel with the risks and downtime as well?

I have a salvaged machine here, not CACI, but with probes, and if I do one side of my face, it is visible higher than the other just like the link.

Why am I not using it then? I will tomorrow and I'm also going to peel.

Found the subtle difference pic at last.

http://twitpic.com/9vkqlb

Artytarty

You did your right side, right?
Quite impressive, I'm going to do an aspirin face mask and I have bought some lovely faciIal care stuff from Essentiially Yours.
I still cant quite believe that it arrived here (not mainland UK) the day after ordering!
The geranium and lavener facial oil is just gorgeous, but I only oredered the sample size, so I'll have to get some more.

busiscoming2

jetplane wrote: »

I agree with the poster who said we need to adjust weight as we get older. Yes there are people who maintain a healthy weight during life and still look well at the same weight but I think it's when it comes to loosing weight that older women get the drawn / scrawny look. Im 50 and most of my friends and colleagues around the same age are discovering that the middle age spread is not a myth but as soon as we start to lose weight we find it coming off our face and neck and not the waist, by the time the waist is as it should be the face is not

Don't know about curly hair mine is dead straight and I spent most of my youth having tight curly perms which fell into a demiwave with in a week :cool: All I can say about your skin is use a serum, moisturise like mad and find an illuminating base.

Or have fillers as someone suggested don't know if they're permanent though.

Yes, yes, yes

Padstow

Artytarty wrote: »

You did your right side, right?
Quite impressive, I'm going to do an aspirin face mask and I have bought some lovely faciIal care stuff from Essentiially Yours.
I still cant quite believe that it arrived here (not mainland UK) the day after ordering!
The geranium and lavener facial oil is just gorgeous, but I only oredered the sample size, so I'll have to get some more.

That's not my face, I found it on a website. That result is through hand massage, I'll be using a machine.

If you apply Aspirin to your skin, is it not absorbed into the body?

Please take care, we don't want the membership diminishing through Aspirin poisoning.