Things do do before becoming a dad

juliethemuse

its so nice to read this after that depressing thread further down with that awful father.
i would go on a balloon trip for the 2 of you. you have to get up mega early, that is the only downside. but its such an exhilarating experience. and a lovely treat.

fluffnutter

I've just run this past my husband because we're expecting our first in a couple of weeks.

His suggestion is lots of blowjobs. HTH

dizsiebubba

fluffnutter wrote: »

I've just run this past my husband because we're expecting our first in a couple of weeks.

His suggestion is lots of blowjobs. HTH

Hmmm I think I know who your husband is... sounds like my OH moonlighting!

Gigglepig

juliethemuse wrote: »

its so nice to read this after that depressing thread further down with that awful father.
i would go on a balloon trip for the 2 of you. you have to get up mega early, that is the only downside. but its such an exhilarating experience. and a lovely treat.

Funnily my OH did book a balloon ride - but we thought we'd have to cancel now that I'm pregnant...

Fluffnutter, you made me giggle. Thanks to you and your OH for his honest feedback!

Gillyx

Agree with cinema. Its the thing we miss most (well maybe not the only thing.
. fluffnutters suggestion )

marisco_2

Gigglepig wrote: »

We recently found out we are expecting our first, and I am thinking of a nice surprise / holiday / special days out / treats for my lovely OH to enjoy before he becomes a dad.

I have asked him for example if there is a non-child friendly holiday he'd like to take, or any activities, but he did not really have any ideas.

So, for those of you who have kids, in hindsight what would you have loved to do in the last 6 months before becoming parents?

I would recommend lots of couple time. Whether that involves big things like travelling or day to day activities like going out for dinner, to a concert, the theatre, the cinema. All the things that are not easy to do when you have a newborn.

I also second those who have advised getting lots of sleep over the next few months. Might sound silly but taking some time to really talk to each other about when the baby arrives and how each of you will contribute to raising him/her is a good idea. Easier to talk it through now than when you are bouncing off the walls with tiredness and likely to snap at each other.

stiltwalker

Something I'm glad we did was go out for meals (a lot!) My OH worked front of house for me (I ran a tearoom and was short of a waitress) on his day off for about 3 months and we used this money to go out for dinner that night. Bump is now our amazing 3 yr old and I can count the number of meals out we've had out on our own without taking my socks off! We were a fairly new couple when I got pregnant (planned though as age was catching up with us both!) so it was good to do some lovely datey stuff before the responsibility!
We also upgraded our Sky package round about the time she was due as we then realised that it was going to be our main source of entertainment for the next however long!

pinkclouds

shortdog wrote: »

Slept, slept, and slept a bit more.

go_cat wrote: »

Saved,saved and saved a bit more:)

Agree with both of the above. For your husband's sake though, I'd also add "spend more time in bed" as you will lack inclination and both of you will lack opportunity for... well, depends on how lucky you are really. If you get a high need (clingy) baby who is an appalling poor sleeper then child #2 might be delayed for at least a couple of years! On the other hand, you might be one of those lucky sods with a textbook baby who sleeps round the clock and never experiences anything approaching colic.

Anyway, I wish you all the best for your pregnancy and birth. It is truly wonderful and totally worth it. But, unless your mom lives next door to babysit, the internet will probably become your new best friend as no one else will be awake at silly o'clock in the morning, when you're wearing 2 day old clothes coated in sick and you daren't move in case your little one, who is apparently allergic to beds, opens their eyes.

cottonhead

Yeah a holiday where you can lie in and relax and do stuff you cant do wih kids. Im sure you will get a babysitter some times but not for a whole week. If I could have afforded it, I would have gone on one last adult holiday. Now our child is getting old enough that we can all go together. I enjoyed the baby stage so much but this next stage is exciting too. Being a parent is the best ever !

rachbc

fluffnutter wrote: »

I've just run this past my husband because we're expecting our first in a couple of weeks.

His suggestion is lots of blowjobs. HTH

its ok your still allowed those after having kids!