Really need advice please.

MissMonkeyMoo

Trust me, these things have a habit of coming out in the end! tell your Mrs the truth - it will be far better to be up front about it now than have to explain why you kept it from her when it comes out further down the line! If your OH knows that this girl is like then reason with her to just let it go and let her brother deal with the situation himself.

Desperado99

MissMonkeyMoo wrote: »

Trust me, these things have a habit of coming out in the end! tell your Mrs the truth - it will be far better to be up front about it now than have to explain why you kept it from her when it comes out further down the line! If your OH knows that this girl is like then reason with her to just let it go and let her brother deal with the situation himself.

Yep, that's my worry. She sounds like someone with real 'issues' so it should be pretty easy enough to convince your OH that there's nothing to these allegations, especially as her brother (the boyfriend) doesn't see any truth to them.

sassyblue

Tell your fiancee
Tell your fiancee
And erm.... Tell your fiancee!

You will never get this chance to nip things in the bud again and if you don't tell her anyone else telling her at a later date will be the death of your marriage.

Unless your fiancee wasn't as drunk and saw nd heard you all evening and KNOWS you didn't make a pass then she can't go all guns blazing because you might well have said something.... Besides what is making a 'pass at her' did she say you blatantly asked her into bed or just made a cheeky comment that a drama queen could blow out of proportion?

There's a lesson in there somewhere drink wise....

geoffky

Let blowing winds blow....i would not say a thing but write a little letter to myself with all the information in it you have been told..I would then write the reasons why i was not telling others and about the damage this could cause and then stash it in a very safe place..If it ever blows up i would show your girlfriend this dated letter and why you never said a word.. Because if you tell your gf now it will go mental in all kind of places...get her brother to sign it..
good luck

Welshwoofs

1) Rethink your choice of girlfriend - being violent is not an attractive quality
2) Don't plan 'big alco fests' for your family because:

a) People being 'para' also isn't attractive
and
b) Misunderstandings inevitably happen; as you've now discovered

3) Tell your girlfriend what is being said before someone else does and then reconsider my first point.

NickyBat

the longer you keep quiet the worse it will look when it does come out, and trust me it will come out at some point.

Melonade

NickyBat wrote: »

the longer you keep quiet the worse it will look when it does come out, and trust me it will come out at some point.

Agree 100%. You really should tell your OH whats been said... it may cause trouble but I expect the trouble will be a lot bigger if this comes out futher down the road.

Hiddenidenity

Agree with the other posters. You need to tell her and sooner rather than later. If she finds out from someone else you will guilty just by hiding it x