Deleted - not worth sweating the small stuff!

Birdy12

Deleted as not worth sweating the small stuff! Thanks j.e.j. for the advice.

cheepskate_2

No wonder families fall out over the silliest things, with vindictive people like you who actually take delight in being vindictive

moneypuddle

Annoying? Yeah? Bit thoughtless? Yeah. But I wouldn't have bothered texting about it. You've probably just embarrassed them now. Sometimes people have major things going on in their lives that they dont care to share with you, and things get forgotten!

j.e.j.

To make a sweeping statement here.. men are notoriously bad at getting cards for people. They just don't see buying and writing in a bit of paper/card as something important. It's a man/woman thing :rotfl:

Yes it is irritating, but not worth falling out over, in the grand scheme of things, if he has a good relationship with your kids for the other 364 days of the year.

McKneff

Bit of an over reaction to be honest.

Its a man thing, my OH would never ever remember birthdays let alone send a card.

We only send them to Sisters/brothers/ son/daughter.

Vindictiveness isnt nice, If I innocently forgot to send a card and someone was vindictive to me they wouldnt get another one, ever. Why would I bother buying a card, buying a stamp, posting it to someone who had been vindictive to me. Dream on.

Birdy12

You're right, I've just gone to loo and come back thinking I'll delete the thread as there's better things to worry about! Ignore me, I'm not having a great morning!

Can anyone tell me how get rid of a thread?

Lifeforms

They're your kids, not his. They are his Nephew and Nieces, and ultimately it is down to them to decide to send cards (broke or not). Over the top, reactive, and WOW comes to mind.

Yes he could've probably gotten a cheapy card, but I wonder if the thread would then be my BIL (by marriage, not even by blood!) got my DS a cheapy birthday card. RAWR!

Not everyone wants to share their finances with their family. And quite possibly you've embarrassed him and his family about it.

As posted, this is silly things that start family feuds.

It was a card that didn't come, move on, get over it. I'm sure your DS would'nt be traumatised for life that he didn't get a card from his Uncle in law (again, marriage, not blood!)

chickywiggle

lol SERIOUSLY?????

i don't think my husband has bought a birthday card for his family in his life. If I am VERY lucky i get a valentines/ birthday/ christmas card- but i don't hold my breath.

I have family who have never seen my 1 year old son. To me no amount of birthday cards will make up for this. but I don't text them to beg them to see him.

Penny-Pincher!!

Its a birthday card! Its not worth getting stressed hun. What you doing today with the bank holiday? Chin up.

PP
xx

globetraveller

I forgot my nieces birthday this year. I really felt awful, even though she is too young to notice. She did get her gift a day late. I love her to bits but sometimes things happen and you are focused on major things and forget the little things. I certainly would not have appreciated a text from my sister along the lines you sent.
God help you if you ever slip up like the rest of us mere mortals.
edit - i just saw your post about having a bad day- so you ARE just like the rest of us:)

martinthebandit

another one here who thinks you over-reacted a bit, well no actually I think you over-reacted a lot.