Taking children out of school a week before summer hols as I am disabled.

The_mangler

sangio wrote: »

Who cares what the kids want. My grandson hates school full stop.
Should my daughter pander to him and give him what he wants?
Kids get what they are given. Like it or lump it. Until they are old enough to pay for it themselves, they do as they are told - holidays or no holidays.

No wonder the kids are in the state they are in today. 'Would little Johnny prefer Disney Florida or to play on the park? Need I ask?

BH! I was in hospital for 10 weeks, most of the time in the HDU touch and go. Wife was told on many occasions to prepare for the worst.
After coming home was that an excuse to take the kids out of school and go on a jolly? Was it heck!!

You are far too soft!!

*Wasn't like that in my day, we used to get up half an hour before we went to bed and suck on a tea bag*

Children are to be enjoyed and loved - I was never hugged as a child but I made sure my kids grew up knowing different. Just because things were done like that 'in your day' does not mean its the only, or indeed, the right way.
Your experience is not the only measure we should all adhere to my friend.

Ellejmorgan

sangio wrote: »

Who cares what the kids want. My grandson hates school full stop.
Should my daughter pander to him and give him what he wants?
Kids get what they are given. Like it or lump it. Until they are old enough to pay for it themselves, they do as they are told - holidays or no holidays.

No wonder the kids are in the state they are in today. 'Would little Johnny prefer Disney Florida or to play on the park? Need I ask?

BH! I was in hospital for 10 weeks, most of the time in the HDU touch and go. Wife was told on many occasions to prepare for the worst.
After coming home was that an excuse to take the kids out of school and go on a jolly? Was it heck!!

You are far too soft!!

Did it affect your kids when in hospital are they little ???

My kids have had 2 holidays in 11 years, as in post it was booked then school said not in September, was already paid for...

My kids are very well behaved thank you very much, they deserved a holiday, and they love school actually...

Wasn't Disneyland was Spain....

whitesatin

Oh, please.......

Never got much hugging myself as a child but I didn't see it as an excuse to over indulge my children. Learn from your experiences, by all means but don't get carried away.

We do no favours to children by over compensating them. It is, actually, o.k. to say "No" to them.

Quality experiences are what matters, not material things.

Ellejmorgan

The_mangler wrote: »

*Wasn't like that in my day, we used to get up half an hour before we went to bed and suck on a tea bag*

Children are to be enjoyed and loved - I was never hugged as a child but I made sure my kids grew up knowing different. Just because things were done like that 'in your day' does not mean its the only, or indeed, the right way.
Your experience is not the only measure we should all adhere to my friend.

And only got an orange for Christmas...;)

whitesatin

This thread is going nowhere. People believe what suits them at the time and don't want to listen to advice/truth.

So glad I retired early.

The_mangler

whitesatin wrote: »

Oh, please.......

Never got much hugging myself as a child but I didn't see it as an excuse to over indulge my children. Learn from your experiences, by all means but don't get carried away.

We do no favours to children by over compensating them. It is, actually, o.k. to say "No" to them.

Quality experiences are what matters, not material things.

Maybe we view things from different angles but I do not consider giving my kids a 1 week break in the UK an act of 'over indulgence'. Their baby brother died suddenly, Dad was sectioned, I developed depression and OCD, Nan has cancer etc etc. It has been a real rough ride that with the nature of my husband's illnesses does not show much sign of settling down any time soon. I consider time with my children time well spent, and we all need a break from routine. But as I said, I guess we see things differently. As a carer, I would love respite care but that was removed from us due to financial constraints 4 years ago. A week with someone else taking care of my husband is a god send to us all, and helps us survive the next 51 weeks of the year. But certain things he will only let me help with so I cannot go away without him, yet his many illnesses and conditions mean busy and crowded times are impossible for him to manage. therefore that week is taken when things are much quieter. It is as much for me as it is the children. Maybe I should shove him in a home for a week........or we could all stay at home tearing our hair out with no break. Not much of a choice really

The_mangler

whitesatin wrote: »

This thread is going nowhere. People believe what suits them at the time and don't want to listen to advice/truth.

So glad I retired early.

Ah you're a teacher....... that explains an awful lot :cool:

You wouldn't really understand then about how grateful some people are for one week's holiday.

whitesatin

The_mangler wrote: »

Ah you're a teacher....... that explains an awful lot :cool:

You wouldn't really understand then about how grateful some people are for one week's holiday.

No, of course I wouldn't.

I have only ever known a life of privilege.

themull1

sangio wrote: »

As a family with twin girls, we never took our children out of school to go on holiday - from when they were 5 right up to when they were 17) All of the family holidays took place during the summer break.
We believed that no amount of money saved or easier transport was worth the loss of any education.

Like the other poster said. We travelled through the night to arrive either at the airport or wherever.

When living in the North West, we owned a holiday home on the South coast. It was exciting setting off at midnight and with stops off along the way, watching the dawn rise, we arrived just in time for breakfast and a full day to look forward to.

Its great that you could do that, but a lot of people can't afford the vastly inflated prices that holiday companies put on holidays when schools are off. I take my kids out of school to go on holiday, and i'm not going to stop doing it, its not every year because i can't afford it, but i'm not going to feel guilty about doing it.

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some posters should remember that this isn`t a place to judge people!