What if...wife expecting other mans baby but still living with hubby at home

bridgedino

Friend's wife has been having an affair and may be pregnant, def not friend's. They have young children of their own. Marriage has broken down but neither can afford to move out of joint home. Friend doesn't know what to do next, can't go to solicitor as yet as wife cleared out joint account. If she is pregnant and has the baby, could friend barr the father from visiting the baby in the marital home?

Has anyone been in similar position. Hopefully he be able to save a little money over the next few months to go see a solicitor but having done a little research, if he wanted to proceed with divorce based on her adultery, he would have to do so within six months.

Any advice or guidance would be appreciated

bridgedino

Forgot to mention, friend lives in England

VfM4meplse

bridgedino wrote: »

Friend's wife has been having an affair and may be pregnant, def not friend's.

Are you for real? You are asking this question in the absence of a confirmed pregnancy?

bridgedino wrote: »

Any advice or guidance would be appreciated

I would highly recommend that your friend's wife bought a pregnancy test from the 99p shop and puts your mind to rest. Honestly, some people are so inconsiderate towards their husband's friends!

bridgedino

Yes I am for real.

Emmzi

my top tip is always to nod sympathetically and then stay the hell out of it. they may get back together and then you will be the evil one. Point your freind to web resources and lend him £200 for an hour with a solicitor.

but under no circumstances give him advice.

pawsies

Is this the next eastenders storyline?

pogofish

bridgedino wrote: »

Friend's wife has been having an affair and may be pregnant, def not friend's. They have young children of their own. Marriage has broken down but neither can afford to move out of joint home. Friend doesn't know what to do next, can't go to solicitor as yet as wife cleared out joint account. If she is pregnant and has the baby, could friend barr the father from visiting the baby in the marital home?

I have known someone who got stuck in exactly this position (no I didn't get involved) and frankly it ended in the worst possible way imaginable.

Your friend needs to get his own bank account again and draw-up an agreement on continuing shared financial issues, then contact Shelter or some other homeless/resettlement charity/advice org with a mind to getting right out of there ASAP!

Seanymph

I would wait until the pregancy was certain before scaremongering too much.

And he needs to decide whether or not to leave her surely?

blacksta

interesting - looking out for episode 2

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow

bridgedino wrote: »

Friend's wife has been having an affair and may be pregnant, def not friend's. They have young children of their own. Marriage has broken down but neither can afford to move out of joint home. Friend doesn't know what to do next, can't go to solicitor as yet as wife cleared out joint account. If she is pregnant and has the baby, could friend barr the father from visiting the baby in the marital home?

Has anyone been in similar position. Hopefully he be able to save a little money over the next few months to go see a solicitor but having done a little research, if he wanted to proceed with divorce based on her adultery, he would have to do so within six months.

Any advice or guidance would be appreciated

To answer your question - whether or not his wife is pregnant and whoever the father is, your friend does not have to allow anyone into his home if he doesn't want to.

Mojisola

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow wrote: »

To answer your question - whether or not his wife is pregnant and whoever the father is, your friend does not have to allow anyone into his home if he doesn't want to.

The problem is that it's her home too but if she is stupid enough to invite her lover into the marital home to see his baby, he'll be well rid of her.

If they are still married, the baby will be legally his. All children born within a marriage are deemed "children of the marriage". Will he want to go down the dna route to prove that he isn't the father?