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terrierlady

years ago a friend brought a real oak kitchen with worktops, it made the kitchen very dark had cost her 40k plus everyone who viewed it didnt like it........if u must, drop the price to reflect the work required or fit bulk standard kitchen with neutral colour tiles or splash back.

Ames

Thanks everyone, lots of good points raised.

roger196 wrote: »

I am not clear on whether your Dad and Mum lived together or not. They bought the house together, mum got it in the divorce 12 years ago. Is Dad living in the property. No but he wants to buy it which is why he's had his on the market for six months but with no interet.
Who is the executor of the will. What does the will say about the house. Does Dad have a claim against the estate. There is no will. I applied for probate, I'm the administrator, and dad has no claim.
It is the executor(s) who decide whether to do the house up or not. This has the potential to get very messy. It's already very messy. Sister wants to sell to dad. Dad wants to buy. Dad has started doing mum's house up to make it what he wants. (I did say no to all this by the way but they didn't listen). Dad can't buy it because no-one wants to buy his. I've just engaged a solicitor to deal with the estate (read: to deal with them).
Subject to what the will says, it needs to be made clear to Dad that he has no authority to do work on the house I did do that, they ignored me. and that he will not be paid for any work that he has done I said that, they ignored me and have decided he'll be paid., but could be liable for any damage caused so far. I've told them that, they're ignoring me and not calling it damage. Dad has apparantly (he hasn't spoken to me since I got the solicitor) said he'll finish the kitchen in the next few weeks.
What do you intend to do with the sale proceeds? If you were able to buy a property to live in yourself, the capital would not affect your benefits. I want to do that but there's a strong chance it'll be classed as deprivation of capital. I have DIAL working on getting permssion and if not appealing. I'm not expecting it to succeed though. So I'll have to live off the proceeds for as long as the DWP say it should last. A lodger would help to meet the expenses of running the house I can't live with anyone else due to my mental illness ( but needs clarification whether this counts as income for benefits purposes). Another option is for you and sister to use sale proceeds to buy a house together in an area both wanted to live. No chance of that happening, she's barely speaking to me as it is, and we don't get on well except in very small doses.
The quality / variety of advice will depend on how much info you are willing to disclose on a public forumOh my life's played out on here long eough that I'm happy to disclose just about everything bar real names and addresses!.

DocProc wrote: »

Aaaargh! Silly old fool or wot? yes

All that hassle and expenditure and he might only get back just about what he has financially put in. And all that hassle too! Oh he's insisting he gets back what he's put in, plus a bit for labour

Meanwhile, the market moves downwards, for example by 1-2%, and knocks down the price of the property by more than the price of the kitchen.

And you couldn't get on with selling the house because the kitchen wasn't yet finished, etc, etc. Can't - it's still not finished.

Yes. Silly old fool or wot!

Thanks for the advice on finding an EA.

Mojisola wrote: »

I hope you haven't given him any money towards the new kitchen! Not yet, he wants the cost to come out of the proceeds of the sale.

You control the purse-strings and you are a joint owner. Your Dad has no right to do anything without the agreement of both owners. Technically my sister isn't joint owner yet so it's only my agreement he needs. It's only my agreement he doesn't have. He doesn't care about my agreement.

Put your foot down - no more money and no more "improvements"! I'm not going to give them any money but they're insisting improvements need to be made. I agree about a fresh coat of paint because mum was a heavy smoker, but nothing else.

Thanks everyone.

Mojisola

Technically my sister isn't joint owner yet so it's only my agreement he needs. It's only my agreement he doesn't have. He doesn't care about my agreement.

Then change the locks and stop him getting into the house!

Put it in writing that he must not do anything more to the house and that you will not reimburse him for anything he has spent.

Ames

Mojisola I know I need to do that but him and sister are the only family I have left and I have no friends, if they cut me off then I'll literally have no one, I'll go weeks if not months without speaking to anyone. It's why I've engaged the solicitor so she can tell them that stuff. I hoped it'd make it less personal and reduce family arguments, but it seems to have done the opposite

Mojisola

I hope the solicitor can make them see sense.

It's very cheeky of your father - he wants to buy the house so he's installing a kitchen that he wants and is expecting you to pay for it!

Honestly, I think family are extremely important but there comes a stage when you've got to wonder whether it's good for you to be around people who obviously don't respect you at all.

Ames

He doesn't want us to pay for the kitchen if he buys it, he's very generous in that...

It's funny what you say about respect. In the email I sent earlier in the week giving a few home truths about how I'm sick of them bullying me which is why I've seen a solicitor I said to him that I know he's ashamed and disappointed with me but it would be nice if he didn't just dismiss everything I say and do. I haven't heard from him since, although I know he and sister have been discussing what I said about the house in it.

I think it speaks volumes that he doesn't see it worth replying to that.

Cheeky_Monkey

I'm curious to know why you think that your sister isn't technically a co-owner yet?

Although you are the administrator of your mum's Estate, that simply means that it is your responsibility to deal with the disposal of your mum's assets and, as far as I know, that doesn't make your sister any less a co-owner/beneficiary than you.

Ames

Because the letters of administration haven't arrived yet so neither of us own it.

Even when they do I'll be the only one who can make decisions. That was her choice when she couldn't be bothered applying for probate and leaving it all down to me.

Of course she's co-beneficiary which means I have a responsibility to make sure everything's done in both our best interests.

Mojisola

Cheeky_Monkey wrote: »

I'm curious to know why you think that your sister isn't technically a co-owner yet?

Although you are the administrator of your mum's Estate, that simply means that it is your responsibility to deal with the disposal of your mum's assets and, as far as I know, that doesn't make your sister any less a co-owner/beneficiary than you.

Ames wrote: »

Because the letters of administration haven't arrived yet so neither of us own it.

This is right. Until everything is sorted out, Ames has full responsibility. It doesn't belong to either of them at the moment.

Ames, was there a will that said the property was to pass to both of you? Or that the house should be sold and the money divided between you?

Ames

There wasn't a will, legally me and sister are the only beneficiaries and it's split between us.