3 year old still not sleeping through the night please help!

spartacusthe1st

Yea you are right,as soon as I hear her I go to her room so I guess I should give her a chance to whinge for a bit before I go in there.
He is hard of hearing but if I leave her to scream for ages he will wake up and I feel bad coz he has to get up at 4:30 for work.
Agh it's going to be awfull and no one will get any sleep but it has to be done!

SunnyCyprus

all of the above! Just leave her be, she has trained you, now you need to train her!!
if she is healthy/well and just calling for you for her own reassurance, maybe just call back from your room, once, twice maybe, then just 'night night darling'.. and stay in your bed!!!
Good Luck, give it a few nights, 4 or 5 and you'll be fine xx

Becles

I was stern with mine if they woke me up for frivolous reasons, like a teddy on the floor that they could easily pick up themselves.

They soon understood that it was fine to wake me if they were poorly or had a nightmare or if the duvet fell off and they couldn't put it back on, but I'd be cross if I was woken for something trivial.

pinkclouds

spartacusthe1st wrote: »

She has always been a very bad sleeper I can count on two hands how many times she has slept through the night since she was born.

First of all she is fully potty trained and has been since 2 1/2 including through the night.
She wakes up calling me and not crying but whinging, her excuses are she needs a drink/wee/teddy that has fallen on the floor/cuddle/dummy that has fallen on floor or lost in bed. Etc
She has a toddler bed so she is only 2 foot off the floor so can easily Rach down and pick up item fallen on the floor, and she has a small table attached to bed so she can easily get her drink/turn on her music.

I have tried cutting out her sleeps/cutting them down and also cutting them out.
She still wakes up regardless of naps she does/doesn't have, due to being overtired or not tired enough?

I can't leave her to cry because she is so stubborn she will literally cry all night long,also my hubby gets up for work at 4:30am so it's not fair on him.

Has anyone got any suggestions? Thanks:o

I don't see the problem unless you are too tired/exhausted and you need to change the routine. If so, there are a wide number of sleep training methods and everyone will have their personal favourite. If you want to go that route, I'd suggest the gradual withdrawal and sshing method. Over however many nights, you move from the bed to beside the bed to the door to the doorway to the hall and so on. When you need to resettle her, you go in (with light off) and simply "sshh", perhaps with a hand or patting as needed.

My son is 3 years old, toilet trained, etc, and has slept through a handful of times since birth. I was expecting him to do so from 2.5 years like his sister but I'm sure he'll do it soon. As much as I complain about it occasionally, it doesn't really bother me. Every stage passes and you miss it when it's gone. Well... I don't miss the early days of changing meconium poo nappies! But you know what I mean. You won't remember this when she's a teenager. And you certainly won't when she leaves home and you're crying over your "baby". lol

susancs

My children were younger when I tried it, but like others have said I found the controlled crying technique worked very quickly with my babies. With a three year old I would be inclined to use it, but also am a great believer in bribery when needed. I would talk happily about how big 3 year old girls sleep all night long in their beds, don't call out for drinks etc and no longer take naps during the day. If your daughter attends pre-school or Nursery you could also ask her teachers to mention how big girls sleep in their beds (they may even have a class book they can read to her). You could then do a sticker chart and give her a treat of some sort when she sleeps for so many nights without calling out. Good luck, it is just a bad habit, that needs to be broken.

Air_Cooled_75

I don't know if it is a coincidence but once hubby started putting LO to bed he started to sleep much better. He's nearly 23 months and has been sleeping through (and until much later, he was a 5am riser!) for about a month or so now (finds something wooden to touch...I hate saying it in case I jinx things ) we personally didn't want to try CC so I'm glad he's worked it out for himself. He'll even amuse himself with toys and books for a bit when he wakes up in the morning too whereas before he'd start whining straight away.