Not feeling good

aliasojo

cavework wrote: »

Although I agree that 2 weeks is a very short period for a dog to settle into a new home I think the OP has been very brave in deciding to post on here and tell people she/he has returned the dog.

The OP did not post to say she had issues with the dog and ask for help.

She did not post for any other reason other than to say what she was doing.

Why would she do this?

The only reason I can fathom is that she expected (hoped) people would sympathise with her and tell her she'd done her best and not to worry.

Your interpretation of 'brave' is interesting to say the least.

cavework

Perhaps it would have been better not to bring this subject to the boards and open it up for debate?
If this is the case , half of the MSE posts should not appear on lots of different sub boards
It is an uncomfortable topic that has attracted some judgemental replies but also provided some great advice for anyone thinking of adopting a rescue animal
Yes I do think it was brave of the OP

aliasojo

cavework wrote: »

Perhaps it would have been better not to bring this subject to the boards and open it up for debate?

That's not what she did. She didn't post for 'debate' or to 'discuss'.

If she had posted in order to discuss this or to mull over what to do for the best whilst admitting her leaning was more for returning the dog, then I might have agreed with you.

She did not do this, it was a fait accompli....her post was titled - 'not feeling good', it went on to describe how she was feeling bad about what she was doing, then ended it by saying 'thanks for listening'.

She posted purely in the hope people would sympathise.

I see nothing brave in that.



Edit: I feel as though I'm labouring a point now and that's really not my intention. I just really dislike when things are dressed up in an effort to take away from the main facts.

HeatherintheHills

To be honest, it begins to look as if only paragons of pet care are welcome to post here.

We all had to learn how to care for pets.
We all get it wrong sometimes.
We are all subject to different circumstances which have to be considered.
None of us are perfect.

I'm ashamed of some of the comments directed at the OP. They work in a school, safety of the children the dog comes in contact with is paramount. The OP sounded gutted to me that they had to give up the dog. Who likes having to admit defeat?

I respect the fact that the OP thought they could offer a home to a dog and chose to go the rescue route. I thought they acted quickly, responsibly and unselfishly when they realised they were possibly putting children at risk. What would your reaction have been if a young child had been knocked over and hurt or nipped before training could be given to the dog?

I had expected this board to be one of the more compassionate ones on MSE. I am wrong.

aliasojo

HeatherintheHills wrote: »

What would your reaction have been if a young child had been knocked over and hurt or nipped before training could be given to the dog?

Excellent. There's always room for 'wont someone please think of the children'. :rotfl:

HeatherintheHills

aliasojo wrote: »

Excellent. There's always room for 'wont someone please think of the children'. :rotfl:

I'd usually be the last to say think of the snivelling little brats (sorry, I really don't much like kids). But the OP did say they live and work in a primary school. Jobs with accommodation are kinda hard to find these days.

Parents who think their little darlings are in danger can quickly become a baying mob. Do you think they would have stopped to say "aaaah, it is a rescue dog, of course its needs should have come before our little darlings".

Nah, OP would have found themselves and family jobless and homeless before they knew which way up is. And the dog would probably have been destroyed just for being a bit excitable.

So you won't persuade me that the OP didn't do the right thing in this very particular set of circumstances. I'd normally say 2 weeks isn't long enough, but this time I think it was.

cavework

aliasojo wrote: »

Excellent. There's always room for 'wont someone please think of the children'. :rotfl:

OH come on . have you never admitted you have made a mistake or put your hand up when you feel you have failed?

You seem intent on proving your opinion of the OP without taking other peoples views of how they handled the situation into account.
Once again how about the dogs on Preloved and Gumtree who have been with their owners since pups and are now advertised as surplus to needs or the owners lifestyle has changed and they can no longer be a**** to take the dog for a walk every day? Some have been with the same family for years.. there are also people with a genuine need to rehome but once again , surely it is better to go through a rescue in this case?
The OP didn't buy the dog off one of these sites, they tried to give a rescue dog a new home.. that is admirable and when they realised the dogs temperament wasn't suited they had the courage to return it and admit their mistake before the dog had become used to it's new home.

aliasojo

cavework wrote: »

Once again how about the dogs on Preloved and Gumtree who have been with their owners since pups and are now advertised as surplus to needs or the owners lifestyle has changed and they can no longer be a**** to take the dog for a walk every day? Some have been with the same family for years.. there are also people with a genuine need to rehome but once again , surely it is better to go through a rescue in this case?
The OP didn't buy the dog off one of these sites, they tried to give a rescue dog a new home.. that is admirable and when they realised the dogs temperament wasn't suited they had the courage to return it and admit their mistake before the dog had become used to it's new home.

I have absolutely no idea why you 'argue' your point by discussing other (unrelated) situations.

Situation are not measured by what other people do in other circumstances. That's just silly.

Other people beat their children. Am I to be applauded because I don't and there are worse out there than I?

Argue on the standalone facts, not added extras.

cavework

..you have your opinion of the OP and the reason the thread was posted , I respect that and the fact you considered it important enough to reply.
My views, which I stand by, do not agree with yours ..
Beaten children ..?

catkins

HeatherintheHills wrote: »

To be honest, it begins to look as if only paragons of pet care are welcome to post here.

We all had to learn how to care for pets.
We all get it wrong sometimes.
We are all subject to different circumstances which have to be considered.
None of us are perfect.

I'm ashamed of some of the comments directed at the OP. They work in a school, safety of the children the dog comes in contact with is paramount. The OP sounded gutted to me that they had to give up the dog. Who likes having to admit defeat?

I respect the fact that the OP thought they could offer a home to a dog and chose to go the rescue route. I thought they acted quickly, responsibly and unselfishly when they realised they were possibly putting children at risk. What would your reaction have been if a young child had been knocked over and hurt or nipped before training could be given to the dog?

I had expected this board to be one of the more compassionate ones on MSE. I am wrong.

I am surprised the school agreed to them getting a dog to be honest. ANY dog could knock a child over or worse nip or even bdaly bite them. A lot of children are scared of dogs. As a dog owner I am amazed at just how many children show fear when they see my dog.

The OP could have made sure the dog could not get out of the house if they were worried about the children. To say "the dog might get out" is silly just make sure it can't. I have had many dogs over the years and not one of them have ever got out of my house on it's own.

You can have a dog from a pup and it can be the calmest, gentlest, friendliest dog you can imagine but it could still bite a child in certain circumstances. Did you see my post about a friend's dog who nipped a child? A school full of noisy, excitable children could be the worst scenario for lots of dogs