crossdressing partner

Millie2008_2

Would you consider going to Relate to talk this through? I have no experience of cross-dressing, but can highly recommend them in terms of talking through relationship issues

You sounds like lovely people and I hope you can find a way to work through this together

kink

i have seen him tonight, he had the kids for tea, he is scared to death that this is bigger than he or i can handle and i have said i may not ever understand but i will always be there for him and i know he will always be there for me. i have given him details of where to go for counselling, it costs but we are lucky to have family who know we are having problems and wealthy and supportive enough to help him with that. to the poster who advised relate, thank you, i think he needs to know who he is before we go down that road but it is something we may look at. I am not sure if i sound like a mug or a saint lol but I can't and neither of us want to let our 17yrs together go without giving it all we have and if at the end we are left with each having a best friend thats not so bad is it? hopefully the person who said "it's just clothes, take him back" will now see that it is much bigger than that and he needs time to find himself and he cant do that with a house full (3) of teenagers, dog and a hormonal/upset wife lol x if anyone is still reading thank you x

jamespir

hopefully you can sort things out i dont see why people make such a big deal about cross dressing

from what you said he feels like you would never accept him if he dressed and you say your upset about it
you need to ask yourself why

i know you have kids like but he does not have to parade it around them like

kink

jamespir wrote: »

hopefully you can sort things out i dont see why people make such a big deal about cross dressing

from what you said he feels like you would never accept him if he dressed and you say your upset about it
you need to ask yourself why

i know you have kids like but he does not have to parade it around them like

I think you may have missed the point about it not maybe just been him dressing in womens clothes, he has no idea at which end of the spectrum he lies/lays

C_Mababejive

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

I don't think I need to know what they are, and by the way I think what you really meant was "Charlie's Aunts" not Aunt Sallys. Who's Aunt Sally?

I definitely meant Aunt Sally..Are you perhaps too young to remember Worzel Gummidge?

Emmzi

kink wrote: »

hopefully the person who said "it's just clothes, take him back" will now see that it is much bigger than that and he needs time to find himself and he cant do that with a house full (3) of teenagers, dog and a hormonal/upset wife lol x if anyone is still reading thank you x

That was me and to be fair all you said was he liked wearing women's clothes in your first post. So that is what I based my opinion on!

But frankly if he has 3 teenagers regardless of his "stuff" he is dealing with, they need their dad! So I now think he is being a little selfish.

When you say "spectrum" does he think he is gay or bi? Does he want to be a woman? There are organizations that can help (both him and you) but it depends what he needs help with.

Gingham_R

jamespir wrote: »

and you say your upset about it
you need to ask yourself why

Her husband, whom she loves dearly and with whom she has a happy marriage, has left home for now and is dealing with some issues that are so big to HIM that he needs to be away from his family.

You may see that as nothing to make a big deal of and you may ask the OP to question herself but to be honest, I think that's simply a little lacking in understanding on your part.

Kink, whatever it is he's going through, I truly hope that you manage to keep your marriage intact. You sound so respectful and loving of each other. Whatever happens, it sounds like you'll be able to support him and I hope that you also have someone to support you through this? I'm guessing that he's not really in a position to do that for you at the moment.

Raksha

Aunt Sally was the female scarecrow in Worzle Gummidge - it was the name for a female 'scarecrow' often used in fairground games like a coconut shy. So equally suitable as Charlies Aunt as a description for a man who cross dresses but doesn't do it very well.

C_Mababejive

Presumably the OPs fear is that her husband may be homosexual or bisexual and has been perhaps confused/living a lie for some time? This is clearly a very painful experience and now is the time for honesty on his part. I am no expert but my feeling is that men dont cross dress just because they like the look of themselves in a flowery frock. It runs deeper than that.

kink

quick update for those interested, he has realised that hiding it was the big issue and it is merely a release with no sexual agenda, he is not gay, does not want to be a woman or be seen outside as a woman, he does not need me to see him dressed. the worry of telling anyone has made this a bigger issue than it may be and has hidden some much deeper childhood and self esteem issues. he has been to docs to be referred for counselling. we had a lovely family dinner yesterday and are both very much hoping for a future together. thanks for reading x