School gave personal information about my child

Tiddlywinks

I'm confused... your son lives with you? Your mum has a legal ruling to say that the child should live with her?

In one post you say you've removed the child but in another you say he has lived with your mum ever since she got the ruling - which is it?

Less than clear information = less than relevant advice.

Tiddlywinks

emsywoo123 wrote: »

I don't get this.

Mother or not, I would destroy anyone that did that to my child, and do *whatever* was needed.

I know. I've been there.

I hope that whatever happens your child gets the best resolution from this mess.

... and in doing so, you would demonstrate immediately that you might be unfit to care for a child.

Fortunately or otherwise, depending on your view, we all need to live within the Law. You can't just go around 'destroying' people and 'doing whatever it takes' - that is just a hysterical response that will end up doing more harm than good.

Mado

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

I'm confused... your son lives with you? Your mum has a legal ruling to say that the child should live with her?

In one post you say you've removed the child but in another you say he has lived with your mum ever since she got the ruling - which is it?

Less than clear information = less than relevant advice.

I *think* that her mother is refusing to return the boy from a recent visit and that's when the OP learnt about the court order and the fact that school discussed the situation with her mother.

OP, you say your son was visiting relatives;is there anyone else in the family that would support you against your mother?

esmy

Mado it seems from the OPs second post that this all started last year, not recently.

OP, I'm a bit puzzled about the sequence of events. You moved away with your child, later you sent him to stay with your grandparents - was it during that time that your mum applied for the residence order? Did you get a legal advice when you got the papers for the application? There will have been further court hearings after the application was made - did you go to court and challenge her application? Has your mum now got a full residence order?

If you do have new information to put to court then you may be able to make an application yourself. If you aren't happy with the advice from your solicitor, speak to another family law solicitor.

(BTW a school would be able to give your mum information if she had a residence order because it would give her parental responsibility.)

green1970

Why are you only starting to try and get your child back now if he's been living at your mother's since last year, why not call the police immediately and have her arrested for kidnapping. I'm confused, there still seems to be lots more to this than you've said.

emsywoo123

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

... and in doing so, you would demonstrate immediately that you might be unfit to care for a child.

Fortunately or otherwise, depending on your view, we all need to live within the Law. You can't just go around 'destroying' people and 'doing whatever it takes' - that is just a hysterical response that will end up doing more harm than good.

Did you not read what the OP said? Her mother said she would "see her in court"

I think there are some very significant details missing somewhere here, as what has been described are not a viable chain of events in the circumstances given.

I'm bowing out as this is a subject very close to my heart and OP is either a troll (although I don't think so) or leaving out some major details

Either way, until the path is walked on this particular one, I don't know it's imaginable.

Anthorn

Supplementary to the advice in the previous posts, schools and school teaching staff act in loco parentis which means that they have the rights of a parent while the child is in school. But in exercising that right they must act purely in the interests of the child. I would say that the school would not provide personal information about the child to anyone other than the child's parents unless there is something in the child's file that makes it reasonable for them to do so. You have the right to see your child's files.

keystone

Anthorn wrote: »

in loco parentis which means that they have the rights of a parent while the child is in school.

I thought it meant that daddy was a train driver.

Sorry - couldn't resist. I'll get my coat shall I?

Cheers

GobbledyGook

The fact that the grandmother has a residency order changes everything. Parental Responsibility is automatically given to the person with a RO (otherwise they wouldn't be able to organise schooling and medical treatment for the child in their care) so the school haven't freely given information to a grandparent - they've given someone with PR information. A whole different ball game. Your mother currently has as many legal rights over your child's information as you do.

They have to give information to those with PR. That's how parents who are being messed about with ex's are able to get (correctly) information directly from the school.