Wedding Plans Help

davehughes182

Hi guys.

I dont know if this is the right place to post this as I have not been on this thread before but...

I am proposing to my OH some time next week and I am already looking ahead to potential wedding stuff (venue/date etc) and have come up with some good ideas. Anyway, what I actually needed to know and need help with is this:

How much is it to hire wedding suits. I am talking myself/bestman/father/brides father/usher/pageboy

Also, rings, do wedding rings need to match?

Over all, I am looking to spend enough to make the day amazing for her amd myself, but not an amount that will cripple my finances. Whats a 'normal' amount to spend on a complete wedding day?

Thanks

browneyedbazzi

Hiya Dave,

I'm sorry but I can't help with questions about costs but think the people on the Special Occasions board further down could probably assist on that and any other wedding related questions.

I think it's really up to you and your fianc! as to whether you want your rings to match. When I got married ours didn't and no one commented!

I also don't think there's a 'normal' in terms of budget. I've been to brilliant weddings that had both big and small budgets - you should do what suits you as a couple and what you can afford to do.

Congratulations!

Seanymph

Do it the other way around - set your budget, and make the day fit it - you can spend a limitless amount and have no better day..

fluffnutter

Wait until she says yes first

fluffnutter

davehughes182 wrote: »

Hi guys.

I dont know if this is the right place to post this as I have not been on this thread before but...

I am proposing to my OH some time next week and I am already looking ahead to potential wedding stuff (venue/date etc) and have come up with some good ideas. Anyway, what I actually needed to know and need help with is this:

How much is it to hire wedding suits. I am talking myself/bestman/father/brides father/usher/pageboy

Also, rings, do wedding rings need to match?

Over all, I am looking to spend enough to make the day amazing for her amd myself, but not an amount that will cripple my finances. Whats a 'normal' amount to spend on a complete wedding day?

Thanks

Weddings are expensive. If you're on a budget it's really not that important that you hire wedding suits for the men. Your day won't be in the least spoilt if you're not all in identical morning dress. There are other things that are worth the money; decent food, decent wine, as nice as venue as you can afford. Peripheries like party favours and a wedding photographer (ask friends and family to take pictures) really add to the cost but not to the experience.

Re. rings, no, they don't have to match in the least. Entirely up to you.

And a 'normal' wedding day? Unfortunately it doesn't exist. The average price of a wedding is about 20 grand I believe, which, to my mind, is ridiculous. It's the next 40 years that are important not the day itself.

PinkPrincess83

Pop over to the wedding and anniversaries board that comes under the special occasion board, theres loads of brides and grooms to be sharing advice and money saving tips.

But in answer to you queries:

Suits, I budgeted £100 per suit and this was spot on budget, but it depends what type of suit you want. Also lots of suit hire places do a groom goes free offer if you hire over a certain number of suits (usually between 4 and 5). Its completely up to you who you hire suits for, people like the ushers could just wear a suit they already own and you could just get them say a matching tie.

Rings- nope, I dont think it matters if they match. (just make sure the wedding ring is the same matal as the engagement ring, ie both 9 carat).

I would set a budget and then work out what you can get for that budget.

mummybearx

You can honestly spend as little or as much as you like on your wedding day.

Hire varies depending on what you order, where you live etc. Glasgow (where I live) hires suits for about £50-ish. Contact local companies and ask them. Debenhams do suit hire as well, can't remember if they have prices on their website or not.

Rings do not need to match. My wedding ring was £149 from Argos, it perfectly matched my engagement ring I bought from an antique shop. DH's wedding ring was a £399 ring from Ernest Jones, he picked a heavy palladium one.

If you plan a wedding 'out of season', ie not July/August on a Saturday, you could get some real bargains. Try to look at package weddings, where you get the full day from ceremony to meal to evening reception for a set price. Usually means a set number of guests for the daytime though. Lots of packages include the bridal suite the night before for the bride to stay at the hotel to get ready, then the bridal suite for you both in the evening

Good luck!!

LameWolf

Cut your (wedding) suit according to your cloth! Weddings can be cripplingly expensive, or can be done quite reasonably.

Firstly - assuming (and of course hoping) that she says Yes, you need to discuss everything with her - she might have some definite ideas about what she wants!:o

Wedding rings don't *have* to match, that's up to the bride and groom if they want them to. Shop around - when Mr LW and I got married, we did indeed get matching rings made, but we got them done by a goldsmith who we met at a craft show; and he did a lovely job for the same money we'd have paid a high street jeweller for bog-standard, off-the-shelf rings.

Bridal wear can be hellishly expensive - if you let it. Have a budget and stick to it! (I chose a dress I could use again after the wedding, but not all brides want to do this).

Mr LW wore his best suit, a new shirt, and his favourite tie (one that his mum had given him, with an MC Escher design on it!):D

Photography - we got a mate who was a keen amateur photographer to do ours; he'd have been on his own at the wedding anyway, and it gave him a useful function, and this was his wedding gift to us. If you don't have such a mate, is there a local college who would send a photography student for a reasonable sum?

Guest list - are you planning to have a sit-down meal for 200 or a buffet for 20? All stuff to think about - the choice of venue will depend on how many folks you intend to have along.

All this is just off the top of my head; no doubt there's loads more I've forgotten in the eight and a half years since I got married.;) Whatever you decide, I wish you all the best for the future.:o

londonsurrey

Put your energy into setting the scene for where you're proposing.

I'm not a standard female, but I gather that at least 95% of the female population expect to have total control of the wedding plans.

ellay864

londonsurrey wrote: »

Put your energy into setting the scene for where you're proposing.

I'm not a standard female, but I gather that at least 95% of the female population expect to have total control of the wedding plans.

And the other 5% will take it anyway :rotfl:

This is the link for the wedding forum - I 'lived there' for about 18 months in the run up to my wedding and still pop in most days. You'll get a load of great advice.
In terms of what you NEED to have...a licenced venue, giving notice of intent to marry, a wedding ceremony, a bride and a groom. Even rings aren't compulsory...it's all down to what you WANT and can afford.
Do you even know what sort of wedding your bride wants? Not all brides want the big church do - some might want something very small and intimate, others might want a massive country house do that can eat away thousands of pounds just to go up the driveway. I was totally set on the zoo and nothing was going to sway me from that. I really would hold off thinking too much about the planning details now, get her saying yes, talk about the sort of do you want, set a budget then take it from there.
Have fun

londonsurrey

ellay864 wrote: »

And the other 5% will take it anyway :rotfl:

Lol !