Would u say something??

daisiegg

Sorry just wanted to add, the reason I would say nothing in the first place is that I wouldn't want to have an argument/create bad feeling with people I have to go on living next to. I would of course have a different opinion if it was costing me money to have them there!

purple.sarah

They are being rude by ignoring the names on the invite. It was nice of you to even invite your neighbours, they cannot invite people to your wedding! I would definitely say something. Rather than making it about the budget I would say you want to know everyone at the wedding so it's more personal.

Elvisia

What a bunch of scroungers! Booking a mini van to get them all there...I have this vision of them rocking up and just eating their way through the buffet and drinking the bar dry. It's really rude to just invite extras to the dinner!

I would say sorry the venue can only cater so many, so they can't bring partners. If they've hired a van tough tits!!

Excuse my attitude but they've really narked me!!!

Hollie84

Lol thanx everyone,very mixed views.im going to mention to my other half what has been said on here and see what he thinks is best,they are good neighbours,always there to help if needed,there maybe a little un educated at times.I just see it as i dont really know the other two and cant see why they would want to come anyway when they dont know us.will have a chat with OH.thanx for every ones input

katie1812

Hmm, that is tricky. Very cheeky of them to just assume, I'm sure more polite people would probably ask first before assuming! I would either just leave it and get over it (although I couldn't do that but saves the hassle lol!) or just say that sorry for the confusion but you don't have the space for their other halves. You wouldn't need to say anything else , ie. about the food or whatever would you? Everywhere has a maximum and you don't need to go into your budget etc to anybody!

Good luck

wanchai_2

Idiophreak wrote: »

Unbelievable!

I'd avoid lying about it, as these things always come back to bite you, but I'd definitely pull them to one side and say "hi, this is really embarrassing, but..." - if they're in any way decent, they'll be mortified at how presumptuous they've been!

I don't think that they would actually, if the BBQ gas is anything to go by! :eek:

daisiegg - you could even say that you can't invite their partners and not other people's kids' partners - that might work!

Have to say, I think Elvisia is right...

Maysie

With the 5 that didnt arrive. 2 plus baby who was only weeks old and i had said not to worry if they have a bad night the day before i would understand and i did. They were only evening anyway. It was a couple who were expected and we had spoken to 2 days before. They said they had a hotel booked etc. They were part of a group and the group kept asking us why they were not there. It was quite embarrassing as we had no idea why. They had introduced me and hubby as well. We had a convo via facebook after but it was all very unsatisfying and they went silent on us after that so stuff them. We are still in touch with the group and they don't speak to them either any more they just cut themselves off and no one knows why. We were nice about them not turning up as well.

From what you have said it does sound like the neighbours seem oblivious to your feelings abit.

What did you decide in the end?

Actually the other thing that never arrived was the car! The chap we had booked through subcontracted to another who did a runner with the money. Got a double the money refund so softened the blow. Poor bloke was horrified when he was informed the next day. htb had booked it so i didn't have a clue who to ring on the day. I insisted on going home quick after wedding and getting the number to check hog roast meat was going to turn up as we were paying cash on the day and they didn't even want a deposit. They were surprised at our call but i could relax then.

I got squashed into my bil car with 3 bridesmaids so embarrassing and i was half and hour late. The vicar was surprised i was so calm about it and smiling. I kind of had the impression he had dealt with hysterics and bridezillas in the past lol. Which meant we only had about ten minutes for photos as next wedding party was turning up. Annoying as the vicar had said they only usually do one wedding a day and we were the only ones when we booked only 6 months in advance.

We had quite a few things go wrong but i was so happy it really didn't matter on the day. Hopefully on the day you will be so happy anything unplanned will pass you by in a happy daze.

wanchai_2

Evening guests not turning up is not that much of a problem, but DAY guests??? I'd expect at least a text or call! If 5 of our guests didn't show, we'd be out £300! The venue charges for final numbers (which need to be confirmed 2 days before).

Hollie84

Hi,OH thinks we should just let it go but has said he will speak to our neighbour and say we need a definet answer as to whether the 4 of you will be coming,and wait for the reply from that,he may not even achknowledge OH said it or her may say is it possible for the extra 2 to come? OH can either say yes or her can say TBH we hadnt catered for them.