New job not going so well

falko89

duchy wrote: »

You are "wrecked" at the moment because you're not used to working-couple of weeks and you'll have adjusted . After all plenty of single parents work full-time and then go home and look after their kids-they manage. Also you're only working 5 days a week-that's two full days a week to study.

I used to finish a night shift come home-study for a couple of hours and then collect my son from nursery after lunch0at least with OU you can fit study time around your own schedule-but you do need to be motivated -and frankly I don't think you are at the moment !

Nope I couldn't work full time and do it, may be people could, I couldn't, my work is physically demanding as is any job I have done, when I come home at night I am fit for nothing, it won't settle down as I was always like this, so part time would be the only way I could make this work but even so I don't think I am motivate enough to study again. My biggest regret in life is that I didn't listen to my parents when it came to going to university.

princessdon

Sighs - This is what the benefits system has created!

Op - Lets have some truth here. If you left this job and got NOTHING not a penny (tax credits, child benefit), nothing would you stay? Your wife's wages remain as is.

BTW - You have help at home from your tiring job, many of us work 50 hours a week plus, have no one at home and still do our masters!

JethroUK

falko89 wrote: »

So day 1 in new job and I hate it, At the ...., think of a solicitor being stuck as a secretary as an example,..... I haven't sent in my JSA form yet, ....

solicitors dont collect JSA - like sooooooooooo many others - you just have very unrealistic ideas of your worth in the workplace

you are no better than your old friends who are working 'sticking it out' there

falko89

princessdon wrote: »

Sighs - This is what the benefits system has created!

Op - Lets have some truth here. If you left this job and got NOTHING not a penny (tax credits, child benefit), nothing would you stay? Your wife's wages remain as is.

BTW - You have help at home from your tiring job, many of us work 50 hours a week plus, have no one at home and still do our masters!

Yes of course I would, I have to feed myself and family, Its simply not fair that I work 42 hours per week and will hardly be any better of than I would be on benefits, Are benefits to high? Possibly but I'd say its more wages are to low and with some many unemployed you either suck it up or move on.

princessdon

My post above reads harsh and it wasn't the intention. The point I was attempting to make and badly is that you are not in a routine working yet (it does take time, but also settles down). There is a benefit culture and many fall foul to it. The decision to leave a job is made easier if they know they can "get tax credits and work part time". That isn't your fault - it's the system.

Many single parents work and study - stay in jobs they don't like to bring in money. You can do both - and look for alternative work (it's not a bed of roses for sure, but it is possible). You need time to adjust and TBH 1 week isn't enough time to make this decision.

Maz

Falko, can I ask, what exactly does your new job entail for it to be so physically demanding and wipes you out so much, what are your duties?

falko89

JethroUK wrote: »

solicitors dont collect JSA - like sooooooooooo many others - you just have very unrealistic ideas of your worth in the workplace

you are no better than your old friends who are working 'sticking it out' there

So all that means is that qualifications are useless, specifically apprenticeships, NVQ's / City and Guilds etc, they are something constructive to give young people to do while the employers receives a large subsidy for taking them on away from benefits.

princessdon

falko89 wrote: »

Yes of course I would, I have to feed myself and family, Its simply not fair that I work 42 hours per week and will hardly be any better of than I would be on benefits, Are benefits to high? Possibly but I'd say its more wages are to low and with some many unemployed you either suck it up or move on.

That is kinda my point - You'd work if you needed to feed your family, but you are also happy to not work (at least full time) and for myself and other rax payers to feed you and your family - Why should we? I know it's all down to the current system - but there is something fundamentally wrong when people consider leaving paid employment to rely on benefits. (not having a personal dig - just the way it is and you certainly are not alone - many others involved in this). I can't agree that it is ever right for tax payers to pay for people who chose to not have the same hard work ethic. Sorry but it's the way I feel

duchy

Why don't you stop making excuses ?
I feel really sorry for your wife.

Plenty of people (me included) work bloody hard at jobs that are far from ideal -but we don't whine and make excuses at every turn -we just get on with it ! Yes sometimes life isn't "fair" but most people work that out before they leave their teens and get on with it !

Perhaps you should think about what kind of example you are setting your kids with your lack of focus and work ethic.

falko89

Maz wrote: »

Falko, can I ask, what exactly does your new job entail for it to be so physically demanding and wipes you out so much, what are your duties?

Basically lifting lumps of trees onto a conveyor belt and cutting them down, try it for 9 hours per day, beats any gym