New job not going so well

Prudent

I was in a job I hated for a while. I saved every penny possible and saw it as a means to an end. It took me 18 months to move on because the recession had started and I live in an area with high unemployment. Looking back, it was not all wasted time. I gained new skills - in dealing with difficult people! I agree with the posters that suggest giving yourself a chance to learn to drive with the income. I became very frugal in my hated job just in case I walked out, but I stuck it and was later able to enjoy the money I had saved up.

gibson123

Hi Falko, all I can say is focus on the money and what it means for your family and make a longer term plan to retrain and move on from this. Time for your long term plan, do it NOW before you lose your energy. Write down 5 things you want to achieve in the next 5 years, including one job goal and then write down 5 steps to getting there. And keep looking for other jobs, set some time aside every week to continue with your job search. Finally good for you, getting any job in the current climate is a coup.

Prudent

Just an added thought. What about doing some of the challenges on MSE while you work there. You will have head space to think about how you will achieve whatever goal you choose and you will gain a benefit from the challenge.

dawyldthing

Like someone said you could do odd jobs and things around your hours as an additional income/ I once worked for a major chocolate factory making chocolates, packing chocolates etc. I did it for nearly 7 months and it felt like the longest 7 months of my life as some of the people were so rude, nasty and horrible (as soon as i mentioned i'd been to uni it started as i think they thought i was too good for the job, i ain't, i just wanted to earn money) and it was often physically demanding, mind numbingly boring and tiring, but then there were some of the people that were lovely that we would chat for hours for and helped pass the day. If you work alongside others you can make friends (i've left there a year but I regularly catch up with some and bump into others as there were alot of us working there). It helped me save up to go travelling, helped me save up money to buy my house and other stuff that I couldn't have done without that job. Plus it taught me things like being more patient and other skills that are transferable to other roles. It might seem rubbish at the moment, but it could turn out good as jobs are what you make of them.

lincroft1710

You started numerous threads about being out of work and there being no jobs and how life was unfair etc, etc, etc.

So now you have a job and the first thing you do is start another thread moaning about the job.

You have a choice. Move or commute to an area where there is a job worthy of your skills, go back to being unemployed and unhappy or get paid doing a worthwhile job (admittedly in your employer's eyes) and try and see the positive side of things. We all know the first isn't really an option for you and the second will probably depress you even further.

You should at least be congratulating yourself for getting a job when so many haven't.

jamiehec

I'm in the same situation however I'm nearly 3 months into the job and flipping hate it, has made me become a very grumpy and depressed person which is not me at all.

I'd say stick it out till at least your probation review and just think about the money. Look for jobs at the same time as its better to be earning whilst looking then being on JSA.

I've found thinking that you won't be there doing the same crap in 2 - 3 months time is good at getting through.

Also are you entitled to use your annual leave? Not sure if its for every company but I was allowed to use my annual leave the first month.. so if you can, book a week or 2 off and spend it going to interviews..

RobertoMoir

falko89 wrote: »

think of a solicitor being stuck as a secretary as an example

I suspect a secretary would take issue with the idea that their job requires "no skill".

You know what, I'm a qualified and experienced professional myself. When I've not been able to find work in my chosen profession in the past, I've taken on jobs as a bailiff, I've dug ditches for a industrial builder's company and I've worked as a gardener. And I'm still here. Those jobs didn't kill me nor diminish my ability to work in my chosen field once a job popped up. They might have even done me some good in terms of appreciating how easy I have it compared to others.

What you get out of a job kinda depends on what attitude you take into it. Same as anything else in my book.

DCFC79

How was today OP ?

Emmzi

buy a driving lesson every week says I

gibson123

lincroft1710 wrote: »

You started numerous threads about being out of work and there being no jobs and how life was unfair etc, etc, etc.

So now you have a job and the first thing you do is start another thread moaning about the job.

You have a choice. Move or commute to an area where there is a job worthy of your skills, go back to being unemployed and unhappy or get paid doing a worthwhile job (admittedly in your employer's eyes) and try and see the positive side of things. We all know the first isn't really an option for you and the second will probably depress you even further.

You should at least be congratulating yourself for getting a job when so many haven't.

WOW don't you feel this is a tad unfair? ... made redundant, young family to keep, very little going, takes the first job to come along, not great, making the most of it.... Don't you think that this is what these boards are for, so you can get things off your chest, get some support, and not burden your family with the stress!