4 year old not dry at night

cottonhead

My daughter became dry by accident ! She was dry during the day but every morning would have a wet nappy so I never tried removing them. Then 1 day I just forgot to put one on and she was dry the next morning. I never mentioned it - just acted like nothing happended but the next night left it off again and she was dry again. Anyway I never put a nappy back on and she never wet heself. I think she just knew if the nappy was there she didnt have to bother trying to be dry. She was 3 1/2 when I did this.
Its normal though for many kids not to be dry at night - some until age 6.
Dont stress and dont even tlk to her about it. Just take it off one night and see. If she is dry carry on. If not put it back and try again a few weeks later. It will happen when she is ready.

minimoneysaver

My daughter is 6 1/2 and sees a paediatrician every 3 months. He's put her on little tablets which dissolve under her tonge, but it's made no difference. She sleeps so deeply, not even a full bladder will wake her.

onlyroz

My daughter is 3.5 and has been dry during the day since last september. In the last few weeks I've been trying her nappy-free at night and it's been a bit hit-and-miss so far. I'd say that she wets the bed around 50% of the time, but I'm going to persevere with it. When she wets the bed she's completely oblivious to it and will happily sleep on in sodden pyjamas.

I think that the double-bedding idea might be a good one to try because it is a pain trying to change a bed in the middle of the night whilst dealing with a very sleepy and tearful child.

I have noticed that when she does wet the bed it seems to be earlier (i.e. around 11pm ish) rather than later in the night, even if I've seen her go to the toilet just before bed. I was wondering about trying to lift her at around 10pm but I'm not sure if that will help or hinder her in the long run.

GemmaE

OP, my brother was still wetting the bed well into his early teens, usually when he was over-tired or stressed. He was a regular wetter until about 7-8. My sister too was the same, she didn't take as long to be dry as my brother, but she still sleeps really deeply, she has a giant comedy alarm clock about the size of a car tyre that she still sleeps through (at 22!).

Could your DD be too tired at bed time? Maybe that is helping her sleep so deeply. 4 is still quite young though so I wouldn't worry too much.

If you decide to remove the pull-ups good luck, hopefully it will make all the difference for you

netti

Late learners can run in families - but in my experience no-one will admit they ever had a problem!

cef66

One of my sons wasn't dry through the night until he was 8 but dry in the day from 2. I wasn't overly concerned as I was aware that it's actually quite common so didn't do too much about it. Intermittently I did some half hearted attempts at taking him to the loo when I went to bed but didn't like disturbing him and I did try without the pull-ups from time to time and he would go for a few days dry, then be wet which he found embarrassing so I carried on using them.
Anyway he just stopped when he was ready. One night he said he didn't wan't the pull-ups on and hasn't been wet since.
So I really wouldn't worry.
(I'm a year 3/4 teacher and know from going on residential trips with 8/9 year olds that a surprising amount still bed wet so please don't be
worried about your 4 year old - it's much more common than you think.)

saving123

netti wrote: »

Late learners can run in families - but in my experience no-one will admit they ever had a problem!

I was 4 and my husband possibly older so definately think this could be part of the reason

saving123

well put her to bed without pull ups last night. She wet the bed just before midnight but did wake up and came straight throught to tell us. After changing the bedding she went back to bed and got up twice for the toilet but no more accidents. Will keep trying and see how we get on. Feel this is a bit of an improvement as at least she woke up where as last time we tried she slept right through wetting the bed!

daska

saving123 wrote: »

well put her to bed without pull ups last night. She wet the bed just before midnight but did wake up and came straight throught to tell us. After changing the bedding she went back to bed and got up twice for the toilet but no more accidents. Will keep trying and see how we get on. Feel this is a bit of an improvement as at least she woke up where as last time we tried she slept right through wetting the bed!

That's a really good sign, it may well improve very quickly now. If it doesn't and it starts to upset her then stick her back in pull-ups for a few weeks before trying again.

Buttonmoons

Wouldn't worry OP. My little girl had been dry during the day from 2 1/2 (wouldn't poop in the toilet till 3 1/2 but that was another headache altogether lol) and I thought she'd never be dry overnight too, the times I had tried her without a pullup she'd just wee and not wake up either!
At about 4 1/2 it just clicked and her pullups were dry and she never ever wet the bed once I took the pullups away.

The only time she had a spate of bed wetting was during the summer holidays before she started P1 (so she was 5 and a smidge then) Soon as she started school, she never wet the bed, was anxiety I think.

She's now 6 and last time she wet the bed was @ my Dad's house, she was staying over with my little sister, and she thought his house was creepy so didn't get up even though she needed a wee, so obviously just let loose in her sleep.


Really wouldn't worry, my daughter showed ZERO signs of remaining dry at night and then all of a sudden she never wee'd again.