Any help please x

McKneff

If you want/need help, we really need all the facts, otherwise any advice is meaningless.

Your original post did actually sound as if you were comming fraud to be honest.

hayley2012_2

im sorry but i wasnt commiting fraud ! i was caring for her for 3 months, then the claim ended as she wanted it to end, now she wants the money irecieved for caring for her back ,

McKneff

Sorry to have been blunt.

If you claimed carers allowance for her for 3 months, the claim ended and you stopped claiming, take the other posters advice, buy a new sim card or a cheapo pay a syou go and ignore her. Her brain is getting addled, with the alcohol.

Move on from her and enjoy your kids.

Icequeen99

It sounds like it isn't the Carer's Allowance that your MIL is asking back.

If she was claiming other benefits, she may have received extra for being severely disabled. You only get this extra money if no-one gets carer's allowance for looking after you.

So when you claimed the Carer's Allowance, that other money to her would have stopped.

Is that what she is asking for back?

If it is, then I don't think you have anything to worry about. If you were genuinely caring for her 35 hours a week when you claimed, then your Carer's Allowance claim is fine and you don't owe anyone money.

If she is asking you to pay her back money that she lost on her other benefits, she doesn't have grounds for doing so, so best that you ignore it. She can't get you in trouble as you didn't do anything wrong.

I would think twice about ringing Carer's Allowance, because it actually has nothing in the slightest to do with them, it is (if I am right above) about your MIL benefit claim whcih you had nothing to do with and if you don't explain it all properly CA might get the wrong end of the stick as I did when I read it originally and others have done.

IQ

anguk

hayley2012 wrote: »

im sorry but i wasnt commiting fraud ! i was caring for her for 3 months, then the claim ended as she wanted it to end, now she wants the money irecieved for caring for her back ,

She can't have it back because it was never hers in the first place! Carers Allowance is paid to the person who is doing the caring not to the person receiving the care.

It sounds like your MIL maybe received some kind of disability premium with her benefits and this could stop if someone is caring for you. I don't know why she's saying she needs the money because she can't live because as you've cancelled your Carers Allowance claim she'll be getting the disability premium again.

If you were caring for her you have done nothing wrong and it does sound like she's just being awkward and trying to cause trouble now. I would just leave her to it, what does your husband say about the way she's treating you?

bestpud

If your claim was legitimate, how do you think she'd be able to get you into trouble? What are you actually worried about?

Elvisia

Lordie this sounds familiar, I am claiming CA for my father, who I live with and I do care for well over 35 hours a week. He drinks and today I was told since I wasn't doing the things he wanted around the house I should be paying back my allowance. He was fussing I wasn't making his food the way he wanted, because apparently I also his personal chef.

Your original post really made it sound like you were diddling the system, I understand if she lost a bit of her benefit but she'd have known this when she signed to say you could get CA. Personally if it were my father then I would wait to see if he simmered down, then if not I would stop responding to the texts.

She signed a the form to begin with to say you cared for her for 35 hours, and if she felt that wasn't the case she needed to say so at the time. I suspect she wants the money to spend on booze maybe?

samroo

Could the op edit the first post as it is contradictory. It says caters allowance claimed in aug 2011 (as we had not seen her for xxx amount of time). Then later it says after not speaking for 8 months (aug to now is 8 months). Do when did the caring actually take place?

BigAunty

I agree with others that if the OP isn't getting harassed by texts by a drunk and bitter woman, the best policy is to change phone numbers.

Carers Allowance isn't something that gets paid to the person with the disability but to the carer so there is no basis for the MiL to ask for a refund and absolutely no basis for a complaint whatsoever if she received the 35 hours a week care for that 3 month period .

If it's the case that she's complaining about loss of some kind of related benefit (to me, it's not clear how this bit works), then once again it has nothing to do with the OP. The MiL can arrange to check her eligibility for benefits herself or improve her budgeting skills without demanding hundreds of pounds from her daughter in law that she is not entitled to (morally or legally).

The OP just needs to sever communication with this nuisance woman so it's not really a benefit issue but a relationship one.

Mumto3cheekymonkeys

samroo wrote: »

Could the op edit the first post as it is contradictory. It says caters allowance claimed in aug 2011 (as we had not seen her for xxx amount of time). Then later it says after not speaking for 8 months (aug to now is 8 months). Do when did the caring actually take place?

I was just thinking the same thing? To me the original post sounds fraudulent. If you hadn't spoken to her for years and started caring for her then the care must have been short and you surely would not have been entitled to back payment as from august to now is 8 months :-S So what are the dates you gave care and ended it?