can anyone help PLEASE

df03

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first thing to do is chuck him out,if he wont leave ask the police to help
second thing will be to sort out the benefits

McKneff

Gotta agree with Woodbine.

Get him out, cancel and reclaim, the sooner the better and dont worry about getting into bother, it will sort itself out in the fullness of time.

What a terrible situation for you and the children to be in.
Good luck.

anguk

I agree with Woodbine too. Firstly chuck him out, if he won't go get the police to remove him (I'm guessing it's your name on the rent book). Then get in touch with the benefits office and explain the situation.

As McKneff said it will sort itself out and your priority now is to get him away from you and your children.

gingergee

http://www.adfam.org.uk
get in touch with these. Once one thing is sorted (ie partner) the rest will follow.
Get help asap xx

Ellejmorgan

Call the police, tell them your scared of him..wait until he's on drugs then they will see..
I'm a single mum i know it's easy to feel lonely, but I can't help thinking you didn't know this bloke that well before he moved in..
Maybe being a bit more choosy next time will save some heartache...

moneysavermum_2

wait till he goes out....put all his stuff bagged up outside and lock all the doors so he cant come back in. Then tell him to go.

df03

Ellejmorgan wrote: »

Call the police, tell them your scared of him..wait until he's on drugs then they will see..
I'm a single mum i know it's easy to feel lonely, but I can't help thinking you didn't know this bloke that well before he moved in..
Maybe being a bit more choosy next time will save some heartache...

he is actually the father of all 3 of my children, we have had an on/off relationship for over 20 years, this includes a split for 10 years during which time he turned to ALL drugs, but then after all those years he cleaned up his act and we got back together 4 years ago and had the baby,
If Im honest the loneliness never really bothered me..until we got back together, then I realised how lonely I had been all those years, but having said that, this life Im living now is in no way worth having company,
its amazing just how easily he could hide it before he moved in, Im sure that now he has moved in and Im stuck in this money situation he just thinks he can do whatever

df03

nje24 wrote: »

wait till he goes out....put all his stuff bagged up outside and lock all the doors so he cant come back in. Then tell him to go.

this is what I plan to do

Ellejmorgan

df03 wrote: »

he is actually the father of all 3 of my children, we have had an on/off relationship for over 20 years, this includes a split for 10 years during which time he turned to ALL drugs, but then after all those years he cleaned up his act and we got back together 4 years ago and had the baby,
If Im honest the loneliness never really bothered me..until we got back together, then I realised how lonely I had been all those years, but having said that, this life Im living now is in no way worth having company,
its amazing just how easily he could hide it before he moved in, Im sure that now he has moved in and Im stuck in this money situation he just thinks he can do whatever

Tis the story of me, just split with the father of my 2 kids, similar story..
But i still stick with what I said, you didn't know him because i'm quite sure you'd thought he'd changed and he hasn't..
Sorry but life is easier without destructive behaviour, my ex was the master and now 2 months on life is better..

Lone parenting is lonely but it can be very rewarding and does get easier the older the kids get...
my eldest stays up quite late now so i don't notice the emptiness, and I don't have time to notice anyway..
You need to act though, he can still be a father..

RAS

re food - check out the Trussell Trust - they may have a food bank near you. I think they will take a letter from your GP as evidence of need.

and you do not need telling to keep all money away from anywhere he can access - preferably not in the house.