Fathers right for regular contact

Kimberley

She is obviously not a good mum, she is hurting her son more then the father, shame on her and all the other mums who use their kids to get at their ex's :rolleyes:

Maybe court is the only answer, but if i were you i would just go with the flo, his son will soon see who is the parent at fault here, she cannot do this once he turns 16.

I know it's a pain now but as long as you and his dad do your best to see him and never show your frustrations on his mum in front of the boy then she will lose out in the end and stop giving her money on top of the child support, if the boy needs something then buy him it yourselves

kirsty1_2

Thankyou all for your support his son was really upset not seeing his dad at the weekend (he is only 4 and a half) and my kids where upset not seeing him too luckily his sister is only a baby and doesn't know any different. I don't understand how she can do that to her child; I wish my ex was as bothered about his kids the way my partner is about his son.

thesaint

Has he actually done anything about it?

knight-on-the-town

You have my sympathy. I've been there, done it and got the 'T' Shirt where Court orders and contact are concerned ... several 'T' Shirts in fact.

Apply for and getting a court order sounds daughting but its easier than you think and you do not need a solicitor. Always remember you are paying for your solicitors new Merc or BMW and it is in their interest to make trouble because they make money out of confict not agreement. Solicitors = Money Wasting Experts

Applying for a Contact Order is simple and you can download the form online form the Court Service Website.

Fill it in and send if off. Try to avoid criticising the ex and just keep to facts.

You will get a hearing. As always they are held behind closed doors but are usually informal (Okay so they are the UKs equivallent of Guantanamo Bay - because of the way some 'abuse' fathers - the Goverment are petrified that what really goes on there gets into the public arena so anyone who repeats anything can be charged with contempt of court). Remember too the vast majority of Judges have spent thier lives in the 'real world' of Oxford and Cambridge so us unworthy low lifes have to 'play the game'. But if you can do that you will get an order for weekend contact. Of course many mothers simply stick two fingers up because they know judges will not enforce their Orders - but deal with that when/if it happens.

I feel another soap box moment coming .... Interesting that the Goverment will name and shame and imprison fathers who do not pay maintence but will do nothing whatsoever to mothers who wont follow contact orders and deprive children of their fathers.

So if you can get you head around the Orwellian post separation world (all animal are equal but some are more equal than others i.e. mothers) and that your country needs your wallet (rather than you) the point is that your children need you is what matters. .

Responsible partenting is about doing the right thing for them. Hindsight tells us that we regret the things we did not do not what we did do and a contact Order is supposed to safeguard childrens interests where mother are not reasonable/responsible. It will take time so the sooner you apply the better

welshcakes

Hi kirsty

Just to add to all the good advise already given, a large minority of parents don't even use a solicitor for contact cases and you normally don't need anything more than sensible layman knowledge of family law to deal with the matter in court.

A lot of people who litigate in person (ie represent themselves) are put off by the thought of being faced with solicitors representing the other side but the family courts are not scarey places and the court staff are generally really helpful.

Unless your OH's ex is well off, she will most likely get a legal aid
solicitor to represent her in any potential court hearing however, having been through this, I can say trithfully that I did a far better job than his solicitor and I'm no legal eagle.

Masses of useful info on website ondivorce.co.uk