How do you get out of your shared house lease?

melancholly

some landlords only rent to students - it saves having to deal with council tax issues and guarentees them a year's worth of rent.

i think it might not be the best idea to take complete charge of her finances - she does really need to learn to manage for herself.

it's also not about whether or not the student house is cheaper - the rest of her house would have to agree since they didn't sign up for a new housemate just in time for the exam stress.

if he is a 'proper adult' with a regular income he really needs to start acting like it and start dealing with the situation too.

i really think you need to back away as much as you can because the more your try to make her do something the more she will rebel.

mhoc

Yes I did try to back away and leave her to her own devices.

Back in October she was blind drunk and was attacked on her way home by the taxi driver so we had to go up to sort things out, police, uni etc. After that things were on an even keel for a while until early December when we got phone calls to say she had spent everything, cheques bouncing, bills not paid etc so again I sorted stuff out and took over the bill paying. She went back straight after Christmas and it was very quiet for three weeks, never even came home and then she started having problems yet again. You can see the pattern cant you.

Its part of my nature to be a person who sorts problems out. Worst of it is that we have more than enough problems at home :rolleyes:

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kittiwoz

I'm not being funny but do you think it is possible that you have put so much effort into taking control and sorting all her problems out that you have never taught her how to cope with the world in an independent manner? One of my housemates was so "well looked after" by his mum when he was living at home that he never learned to wash up, do laundry, cook or budget and I can't help but feeling, though her intentions were good, she has infantilised him instead of preparing him for adulthood.

roses

I really feel for your daughter, I know how difficult it can be to live with selfish housemates.

I know this is naughty but can someone go into her room & take the heater away?

I can't believe the landlord is the one that found her yet he hasn't stepped in to help yet (assuming your daughter has already complained to him)!

mhoc

I dont think the house will ever get any better, it will always be the same messy state because the people in it wont change.

The landlord has relented and booked the plumbers to come back to sort the heating out but not until the last week of this month so the cold rooms have been cold now for over 28 days ie not habitable. Should not really be charging rent for cold rooms

I believe there was a very heated phone discussion regarding this matter between landlord and a very irate parent.

Dread to think what the winter electricity bill will be if they have had to rely on fan heaters.

Anyway all quiet at the moment so no crisis expected before Monday!
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Snow_Angel

mhoc wrote: »

Think I will email D, dont think she opens her emails though. Not talking to me now.

Why exactly? Sounds like you do an awful lot for her and she's a selfish little madam with no idea about problems in the real world. May sound a bit harsh but don't ruin your own credit rating or end up in court due to her.

mhoc

My thoughts exactly
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surfcat

mhoc wrote: »

I believe there was a very heated phone discussion regarding this matter between landlord and a very irate parent.

M

Look, this is the root of the problem. You are not letting your daughter grow up at all, and neither is the other irate parent. You need to stop reading her bank statements, and think of some way to phase out paying rent and bills for her, Your daughter's laziness is becuase whenever she squeels, you come running.

That may sound harsh, but treating her like a diva won't do her any good at all in the long run.

mhoc

Sorry you are not reading the posts correctly. there is no way of "phasing out the rent and bill paying" The max uni advises students to work is 16 hours a week so the ammount she can earn plus her student loan do not cover her expenses. We have paid the rent since september and the bills since December.

As I said the bank statements go to the student address and not the home address and no-one reads them, most definatley not mh daughter. i have third party authority so i can osrt problems out. For instance the bank made a mistake in december. D was working towards essay deadlines so it was easier and quicker for me to write to the bank HQ to sort it out.

I cant think many parents would be very pleased to be paying this ammount of rent and then find that the room that their daughter was in was unheated, had been since that start of the tenancy and likely to remailn so for a long time and that the landlord was not sorting the situation out. So you think it wrong for the parent to be angry with the landlord?

My daughter tends to do this with everyone she knows, gets everyone running around her, doing things for her, sorting stuff out, giving her lifts, meals , nights out, very manipulative

Blacksheep1979

mhoc wrote: »

Sorry you are not reading the posts correctly. there is no way of "phasing out the rent and bill paying" The max uni advises students to work is 16 hours a week so the ammount she can earn plus her student loan do not cover her expenses.

What's she spending her money on then?

Student Loans are £1350 every 3 or so months

In a 3 month time period (13 weeks) working at even £5/hour for 16 hours a week she will have earnt £1040 which is below the tax threshold so keeps all of.

so thats a total of aprox £2400 every 3 months or £800 a month.

Now someone on £12k a year takes home roughly £800 a month and lives on that....

If she is spending more than £800 a month she needs to be cutting back on something. Hate to say it but she is manipulating you and pulling the wool over your eyes.