When I asked for luck I didn't mean the bad variety!!!

*Robin*

Hello Lucky, :hello:

please-let-me-be-lucky wrote: »

Feeling meh today. There is no other way to describe it. No real reason, just fed up. DH has been bad tempered which is never fun and DS1 has annoyed me by getting a poor result in a test at school, not because he didn't know the answers but because he ran out of time which can only mean he was messing about. Neither of these things are the cause of my mood, they've just not helped.

Oh dear, (((hugs))) there's always something that niggles - don't forget your wobbly hormones won't be helping.

please-let-me-be-lucky wrote: »

In a bid to cheer myself up I shall list some positives
1) NSD #5 today.
2) Have avoided the heating even though it's freezing.
3) Been to gym and stuck to diet.
4) New pillows arrived that I bought v cheaply through Gr0up0n.

1) :T
2) ..Literally freezing? OMG.
3) Very well done - and on recent weight loss (you're doing much better than I am!).
4) Ooh lovely; new clean bedding and it was a good deal!

please-let-me-be-lucky wrote: »

Think that's it. DH has fallen asleep on sofa as I've been typing which isn't normal. Hope we aren't in for more 'fun and games'. Sigh

Do hope your absence this morning doesn't signify that you were right..
Re my comments the other day; I was wrong. It wouldn't be once every couple of months - but every time DH's behaviour worries you. Whether or not there is any bad consequence. Reckon that peace of mind would be very useful for you and Con too.
(Now promise I'll shut up about it - unless you choose to bring up the subject again, of course ).

ETA - Cross-posted! Very glad to know you're still at home although sorry you ended up having a disturbed night with DS2 (has he got a night-light?).

Have you thought of researching natural supplements, which can be a gentler way of calming the emotion caused by female hormones (than pharma stuff your GP may offer)?

please-let-me-be-lucky

Thanks Buffy and Robin for your responses. I feel a bit better just for getting it off my chest (and a bit petty and stupid after reading what I wrote!). All hugs are greatly appreciated!

I really hope my hormones are to blame because it means 1) I'm not cracking up 2) I'm not getting depressed and 3) my body is getting back to normal. Looking online it is normal for a period to be delayed after miscarriage, but everything I've read says go to docs if still nothing by 8 weeks incase of other complications. It's for that reason that I've made an appointment, but I'm definitely up for herbal remedies Robin. Xx

kissjenn

Hi PLMBL.

You are a bloomin' wonder. What a rotten run you've had, fingers crossed that there's something much brighter waiting round the next bend.

I can truly empathise on the OH front. I felt stuck between a rock and hard place and desperate for someone to notice who was left holding the whole world together with, for me, was the opposite of help.

I'll go and hit subscribe and in the absence of any practical help send lots of virtual hugs.

KJ xxx

satchmo1

Hi PLMBL,

Have you been in contact with the Carers Association? They support the carer, and in mho you need support. I wish I could give you a hug.

No matter what your DH is going through (and it's a lot), YOU need support, you have gone through SO much, that my heart aches for you.

Don't worry about your moods/hormonal reactions, no-one will remember six months down the line and it's mother nature at work.

Lots of love
Satchmo xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

debtfreewannabe321

Sorry you're not feeling great I didn't want to go down the anti d route again for my flying hormones and the agnus castus that EE recommended me has really improved my mood plus there are no nasty side effects as it's a herbal remedy. Perhaps look into it (am wondering if I'm repeating this actually lol did I already recommend to you? If so sorry for repeating myself I have a bad memory ) !!

You do so well looking after every one that I'd think it's normal really to have days like this I guess the trick is to watch that they don't last for weeks on end. Really hope tomorrow is s better day for you

amber03

Hi PLMBL, hope you soon start feeling better. In our village we have a Healthfood Shop. The owner is very good with advise for using alternative medicine if you want to give it a try before using conventional medicine.

I have been feeling abit low recently which is not like me ,mind you I have had a lot on my plate lately. Hopefully the next couple of weeks things will ease off. Anyway on talking to the owner of the shop ,he started to question me abut being a certain age and going through "the change", which surprised me cos even though I am approaching that age I didn't really think I had any symptons but know he has got me thinking. He has given me some herbal tablets to take which he has said should help pick me up . Anyway I will give them ago as I hate feeling like this.

Hope things improve for you, you could do with a break.xx

please-let-me-be-lucky

Thank you so much everyone, you are all so kind.

It's been a really busy shift at work tonight, no time to feel miserable, so in a way it's been great. I still feel a bit down but not as bad as I did this morning.

You are all right. I need a break, I need to look at herbal stuff/vitamins and I need to look again at the Carer's association. I need to tell people in RL that I'm struggling. Everyone thinks I'm ok because I'm always ok. Right now I don't feel ok. MIL and my Mum will do practical things like look after the boys when I'm at work or DH is at the hospital but they don't watch them so I can some time off for example. I'm tired.

Hopefully it will all seem brighter tomorrow. Thanks again for your support Xx

Eager_Elephant

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

hello hon XX

I do know my hormones are an utter bloody nightmare, the week before my period I get so depressed, life is awful, I am lonely, sad and never going to amount to anything.

Then I get my period and hey presto feel better and everything looks better. I hate it tho and am trying to find a supplement or diet "style" to help limit this horrible see saw.

I would imagine in your situation it will be a while both mentally and hormonally till it all settles and with all the worry of DH - sorry am sure you know this. I wish more than anything I was coming over to visit and have a cup of tea with you.

Huge hugs XXXX

DFW has already mentioned Agnus Castus - these are like my new best friend. I have been taking them for ages now and I really notice when I haven't (and so do the family:rotfl:)

They help regulate your hormones and sort everything out.

I take 1000mg per day (this is a lot but they were the ones my health food shop had but I know H & B only do 400mg - I daren't lower what I take though).

Hope this is not TMI but I used to have really heavy periods and get cramps and all sorts plus the week before my period I was like a really evil witch - I would shout at the kids and DH, be really horrible to DH and cry all the time. They were relieved when my period came :rotfl:

Now my periods are normal(!), I only have 1 heavy day and the rest is really light and I am so calm it is amazing:T:A:A

Even when DH narks me (which is often) I remain calm, and when he spends money we don't have and I would usually have cried I don't.

As I said before if I don't take them and get narky, they all ask 'did you take your tablets':rotfl: and usually I forgot.

I think all women should be on Agnus Castus and I wish I had not wasted years of my life being all moody and horrible for 1 week every month when this tablet could have sorted me out.

Can I just say I am not paid to say all this although it sounds like I am :rotfl:

please-let-me-be-lucky

Cheers EE, I will definitely get some!!! I feel like I need the whole pack!

Had the grand total of 2 hours sleep last night thanks to another bad night with DS2. Had to be up early to go stand in the freezing cold to watch DH do the charity obstacle race. In all fairness it was good fun apart from how cold it was, I'm mighty glad to be back home now with the heating on.

I put a facebook status on through the night about how I was suffering from lack of sleep and someone told me I wasn't being compassionate. :mad::mad: It really narked me. He's the DH of an old school friend and his opinion doesn't matter but I'm upset that someone would call me that. Twonk.

Eager_Elephant

please-let-me-be-lucky wrote: »

I put a facebook status on through the night about how I was suffering from lack of sleep and someone told me I wasn't being compassionate. :mad::mad: It really narked me. He's the DH of an old school friend and his opinion doesn't matter but I'm upset that someone would call me that. Twonk.

I agree he is a Twonk.

The thing is we should all be able to have a moan whenever we like but the problem with facebook is that any of your friends can reply and not many think about what they are posting.

The problem with men is that they very rarely run a house so don't realise how difficult it is and then having a poorly partner to care for as well as the children and going to work make it even harder.

((Lucky))

I would just like to say how fantastically well you are doing coping with everything - if a moan every now and again helps you cope with everything then I am all for it.

It is hard being the carer for the person you want to share your life with - it's not what anyone would want.
Are there any support forums for your DH's condition that you can post on - at least people there would be supportive?