Should i apologise to an Ex-boyfriend?

eliviajen

Recently, an ex-boyfriend friend requested me on Facebook. Our relationship (if you could call it that) ended badly, and having him on my facebook is making me feel as if i should apologise, but can decide whether i should, or he would think i was ridiculous bringing up ancient history.

I was only 15 when we dated, and he was a year older and he was a very busy young man with lots of extra-curricular activities, groups, strict parents that ensured he did all homework and a social life that didnt include me. this resulted in us spending perhaps an hour or two a week together. I had never experienced a relationship where i wasnt the centre of attention....!

Anyhow, things took there toll and i ended up "two-timing" !! i only did this in retaliation as every weekend he would go to another town to a disco, and every monday morning at school i would hear about what he'd apparently been up to

I am an exceptionally nice person in real life - although not always in my head, and this is the only public indiscretion i have made... I not sure if i want to apologise only to make myself feel better (if that makes any sense)

Oh if it makes any difference, the other guy i was seeing, is now my fiance with two children over 13 years on...!

What should i do? as its starting to bother me - surely it cant be healthy thinking about the ex!

raven83

Ermm, i would just move on and forget about it!!!! Why is it bothering you so much anyhow?

HappyMJ

Old news...forget about it.

sassyblue

You could if you wanted to, but to me it sounds as though it's the sort of thing that happens when you're 15

The fact that he friend requested you shows he's got over it, you will possibly both end up laughing over the incident.

I'm like you and would probably apologise ( l don't like things left 'undone') but it sounds like it's not needed!

aliasojo

eliviajen wrote: »

What should i do? as its starting to bother me - surely it cant be healthy thinking about the ex!

Absolutely nothing.

The ex is a bloke. He probably doesn't even think about things the same way you do now. Let it go, it would be embarrassing to bring it up after all these years I think.

balletshoes

theres really no need to apologise - you were 15 and it was yonks ago . Your old boyfriend clearly isn't holding any 13-year old grudges if he asked to be your fb friend .

tea_lover

Seriously? You were 15 at the time and this was 13 years ago? If you mention anything now you run the risk of looking like a crazy stalker who's been fantasising about him all these years tbh.

He probably doesn't even see you as an ex, just someone he knew from school.

raven83

tea_lover wrote: »

Seriously? You were 15 at the time and this was 13 years ago? If you mention anything now you run the risk of looking like a crazy stalker who's been fantasising about him all these years tbh.

He probably doesn't even see you as an ex, just someone he knew from school.

Exactly this ^ ^

You will just end up looking like a crazed stalker, christ if wanted to apoligise to all my "exes" from when i was a teen i'd be here all day :rotfl:

eliviajen

I havent been stalking him i promise!!!
Thank you for your thoughts, i knew i was just being silly!! x

peachyprice

Seriously?

You were a child at the time, that's the way it is when you're 15, it's all part of growing up. Just move on.

hazyjo

Wouldn't have even added him tbh. If I thought it was someone who'd stir up any sort of 'feelings' (whether the need to apologise, or someone I wanted to correspond with, or someone I never quite had 'closure' with, etc) I'd have blocked them and been done with it.

Harsh, but easiest in the long run...

Definitely wouldn't make contact. He will no doubt eventually send you a friendly message. I wouldn't read too much into it. He's either just being friendly, or going through a bit of a mid-life crisis and digging up someone he once fancied/dated!

Jx