unsure what to do ??

thatgirlsam

Susie you seem to be struggling with the fact your daughter is growing up maybe?

The last thread you made was about the fact she couldn't keep friends, or was fickle with friends

Now you have her wanting to bring friends round and you're not sure!

thegirlintheattic

Nothing is going to happen with you both in the house with friends round. Let her but make it clear that bedrooms (or upstairs if you have a downstairs wc) is out of bounds.

At 13 most boyfriend/girlfriend relationships are just hanging around in town in a group and the occasional kiss.

susieanne

Wow thanks for all the quick replys , the reason i wanted everyone elses views was because i wanted to make sure other people would be fine with it or should i say its acceptable . We are fine with it didnt want to say yes to her then i get a backlash of the kids parents saying they dont agree , but thanks everyone

faerie~spangles

Lighten up and be grateful she wants to bring her friends home to meet her mum and dad.

You should be pleased with her that she's not sneaking about with boys!

My daughter had male friends from a very early age but oddly enough none of them were ever boyfriends. (I may have frightened them off from going down that route :rotfl:) She's 30 now and still in contact with lots of them

londonsurrey

Be more sure of yourself. If the other children's parents don't like it, then they don't send their children round. Their offspring, their choice. Simples.

cutestkids

I have two boys and they have a large circle of friend between them both boys and girls, my oldest is almost 11 and often has friends round, boys and girls to watch DVD's my house is always full and I think it is great that my kids get on well with both sexes.

Just curious what age are you OP as you say in your day you wouldn't have mixed with boys unless going out with one.
I am 40 and i always had friends from both sexes from being a very young child right through to adulthood and am still in contact with many of them.

The boys I was friends with were just that FRIENDS I didn't look on them as any different to my female friends

gibson123

My 13 year old has a lot of male friends, I have only just put my foot down about mixed sex sleepovers, they can still sleep over but the boys sleep on couches downstairs whilst the girls are upstairs. I trust my daughter and her friends not to do anything inappropriate but with puberty hormones raging don't want it too difficult. I think its really important that I know my daughter;s friends well.

DVardysShadow

susieanne wrote: »

Me and her dad will be home but im still not sure whether to just say girls only . I want your views please

Do this if you want to make a healthy situation a little harder to manage. If you say 'girls only' it will restrict her freedom with mixed groups and put her in the position of going earlier for an exclusive relationship with a boy.

lika_86

Gosh, if my mum had taken that approach she'd have been terrified from the time I was 6 and was the only girl to be invited to an all boy football party!

If you're genuinely worried (and you shouldn't be), maybe pop in at intervals, eg, nip in and offer to put pizza in the oven or hand them a takeaway menu.

Becles

My lads are 15 and 13 and a mix of girls and boys come round our house. Never had a problem with them either using the TV in the sitting room or going upstairs into bedrooms.

The younger one and his friends spent most of the last summer holidays up in our loft! They draped blankets round the beams and took some old pillows and stuff up there and made a sort of tent/den thing!

It's nice that they feel they can bring friends home, and also that the friends feel relaxed here. It makes it feel more homely.