Job applications and disabilities

Fleago

No worries, Tobruk, a lot of people believe that there's still a quota system.

I'm positive that you will eventually feel well enough to think about getting back to work and will find something that you enjoy. But take it at your own pace and you will get there in time. You sound like you have an awful lot to offer an employer when the time is right

I wish you all the best. :T

Fleago

calleyw

TOBRUK wrote:

Anyway, good luck to you and to him - he is only a year younger than me, and it is difficult - I sometimes wonder if I will ever work again, and just feel useless etc.

My husband feels the same. But I suspect some of it is to do with him have spent nearly 4 months in hospital and he has been home for 2 months and of course at the moment can't drive and can't get out and about by himself.

And I am work at all day and he is at home all day..

You are not useless and I wish you all the best.


Yours


Calley

TOBRUK

calleyw wrote:

My husband feels the same. But I suspect some of it is to do with him have spent nearly 4 months in hospital and he has been home for 2 months and of course at the moment can't drive and can't get out and about by himself.

And I am work at all day and he is at home all day..

You are not useless and I wish you all the best.


Yours


Calley

Thanks calleyw, he is at home (alone?) while you go out to work, and he probably just sees everyone going about their business leading full lives etc etc. It gives him a lot of time to think, and also if he was active before it is extremely difficult. I live alone, I had bought a house where I am now before things went wrong healthwise, and as I hardly get out of the house, days can go by I don't see anyone, my only contact is the phone or internet. I speak to my parents every day over the phone or sisters, brother, and at times that's the first I speak that day!

It is very strange after being so active in work and social life and then suddenly your life comes to a sudden stop! I also live a hundred miles from home (I moved for work) where my parents live and family, but luckily I have one sister around 30 miles away.

He must be frustrated, but I am sure it's hard for you as well, and although you don't think he is up to going back to work, it is something you have to let him try, just be there if things don't work out as he hoped, but on the other hand he may surprise you! This time of year doesn't help either, the weather does affect people, and I have felt low the past few weeks and I am usually able to be quite positive! Hopefully spring isn't far away.
All the best, let us know how he gets on.

ohreally

Zara33 wrote:

TBH i would be upfront and honest, they cannot discriminate against a disability.

Not quite correct. Employers have a duty ander the act (dda), not to discriminate against disabled people "unless it can be justified".

Zara33

ohreally wrote:

Not quite correct. Employers have a duty ander the act (dda), not to discriminate against disabled people "unless it can be justified".

Oh right ok thanks for that

calleyw

TOBRUK wrote:

Thanks calleyw, he is at home (alone?) while you go out to work, and he probably just sees everyone going about their business leading full lives etc etc. It gives him a lot of time to think, and also if he was active before it is extremely difficult. I live alone, I had bought a house where I am now before things went wrong healthwise, and as I hardly get out of the house, days can go by I don't see anyone, my only contact is the phone or internet. I speak to my parents every day over the phone or sisters, brother, and at times that's the first I speak that day!

It is very strange after being so active in work and social life and then suddenly your life comes to a sudden stop! I also live a hundred miles from home (I moved for work) where my parents live and family, but luckily I have one sister around 30 miles away.

He must be frustrated, but I am sure it's hard for you as well, and although you don't think he is up to going back to work, it is something you have to let him try, just be there if things don't work out as he hoped, but on the other hand he may surprise you! This time of year doesn't help either, the weather does affect people, and I have felt low the past few weeks and I am usually able to be quite positive! Hopefully spring isn't far away.
All the best, let us know how he gets on.

Yes he is home alone most of the day. I leave at 7.30am come back at lunchtime for about an hour and then get home about 6.15pm in time for tea.

I have to work long hours to earn money to be able to afford to pay all he bills. As I will not take his IB to pay the bills. Which is all he gets benefit wise.

He was fit before hand always on the move. So for him to have a stroke knocked us both for six.

He has started this week going up the shop to get a paper so that he can do the puzzles. And help his brain functions. The last few days he has been more upbeat.

But I have seen him getting upset over his inability to get a spreadsheet correct. Also his memory and concentration is not great. And before his stroke he was very calm and placid. That is why I concerned about him going back to work. As he is not ready.

If you saw him sat down you would not think there was anything wrong with him.

I wish you all the best too.

Yours

Calley

Savvy_Sue

Calley, have you found Different Strokes - a charity for younger stroke survivors? You may have done because one of the regulars here works for them, but they may be able to help.

Certainly some employers - especially local authorities - will guarantee an interview to anyone who says they're disabled, as long as they meet the basic job spec. That means that filling in the application form needs to be done carefully, to make sure you're not rejected on a technicality, eg if the form says "experience of using Excel" you need to set out what experience of Excel you've got, not just say something vague like "experienced spreadsheet user".

Morglin

If it turns out that his health does prevent him from working in the future (the position I'm in), he might find that doing something along the voluntary line might help him feel more "useful" to society.

I felt like that (I don't know why, I couldn't help the disability, but I did), so I contacted the local Voluntary Services co-ordinator, and they found me things where I could be very flexible with what I did and when I did it - but, it's difficult to hold down any sort of job if your health is all over the place.:(

I don't get any pay, but I enjoy what I do.

Anyway, good luck to you both, whatever.

Lin

calleyw

Morglin wrote:

If it turns out that his health does prevent him from working in the future (the position I'm in), he might find that doing something along the voluntary line might help him feel more "useful" to society.

I felt like that (I don't know why, I couldn't help the disability, but I did), so I contacted the local Voluntary Services co-ordinator, and they found me things where I could be very flexible with what I did and when I did it - but, it's difficult to hold down any sort of job if your health is all over the place.:(

I don't get any pay, but I enjoy what I do.

Anyway, good luck to you both, whatever.

Lin

Lin,


It is not easy when you have ill health and a disability, people think it is easy to get on with it. Well it ain't. And in my husband case it is not just physical but mental functions as well.

I personal can cope with the physical disability as there are tons of things out there to help us.

But it is the hidden ones, such as thinking processes that are harder to cope with as you can't see how much of a problem there is and know what to do to help.

You are doing something worth while. I will suggest that to him as well. The more options I can offer the better.


Yours


Calley

beanielou

The voluntary route would be a great start.
YOur hubby would be able to offer something really useful.
Hope it all works out for you both
Take care