How to give dd confidence???

Candy53

I've had 4 children, all grown up now, and I found that you can't shape them into what you think they aught to be. They are who they are.

My youngest has also always had problems with shyness and self confidence. What I tried to do was talk to her about things 'she' was interested in, and what she likes and dislikes etc, so I could work with her on the positive things in her life that she enjoyed and felt happy and comfortable with.

Does she have a gift at doing anything? If she has, you could encourage her, which will help with confidence if she's good at something.

Shyness with other people, she could grow out of it. My DD is improving, the more her social life gets going. Going to college did her good.

Best Wishes,
Candy

Dunroamin

Who said that being "confident" is the only acceptable character trait and that everybody else has to be moulded to fit this? I can't see what's wrong with a child being shy and retiring as long as she's happy and doing well at school.

I also think that many children could do with being a lot less confident than they are but that's another thread.

jackieb

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I have asked her and her reply was that she just didn't want to!

I will keep working on this has I hate bad manners.

Thanks to you all

I always thought my daughter was very shy. I suspected she had selective mutism, as she can talk the hind legs off a donkey when she's with me! But usually she doesn't talk to anyone, and then only because she HAS to. She's been with me and people have talked to her and she' just blanks them. It was embarrassing and I felt as though people just thought she was bad mannered. Turned out she has Asperger's.