Walked out of work because of bullying

sammyroser

About 6 years ago I left a job due to 'bullying' the manager would ignore me for days, snap at me for no reason and just had a way of making me feel miserable. I luckily did not have any major bills then so was able to leave without a new job.

When I went to the job centre I originally got job seekers allowance but it was removed after a couple of months after they investigated the bullying allegations. As I had left rather than trying to resolve the issue I was not intilited to JSA.

I hope things work out differently for yourself. Even if the behavior is not what others would call bullying its how it makes you feel that counts. And I do understand that sometimes you just can't return.

martinsmum

Its not your comment Eleanor it was another comment , My mum rang work and told them i am not fit to go to work at the moment my my husband and my mum have had to fetch my son from school as am am crying all the time.The girl in question is like it with a few people just not in front of the boss/ bosses she makes me feel like i am worthless and rubbish at my job. (when she first started work she used to say that i was so fast i was like a machine) i have even heard her say to her own sister that she looks horrible and ugly.its like she needs to crush peoples confidence to boost her own ego. I just want to go to work and do my job without been trampled on its not too much to ask is it.

Sambucus_Nigra

Which bit of her comments is making you cry? Why don't you tell her to shut the heck up and get on with her job and you will get on with yours? When she says these things, do you actually believe her? You know she is just being a complete b1.tch so just laugh at her and get on with your work. You don't report to her so why are you even listening to her?

wapow

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Which bit of her comments is making you cry? Why don't you tell her to shut the heck up and get on with her job and you will get on with yours? When she says these things, do you actually believe her? You know she is just being a complete b1.tch so just laugh at her and get on with your work. You don't report to her so why are you even listening to her?

Yeah why the heck are you crying all the time?
She wasnt dissing you was she?

She was putting down your work ethic.

Has she ever called you names? Slagged you off? Swore at you? Thereatened you?

If shes doing the above then what im about to say coesnt count,

However if its only to do with your work, then i say stop being a cry baby and move on. Let her say what she wants, the other staff know you and know how you work and they all know shes a cow, so just let it go one ear and out the other.

Put in a formal complaint to the boss and say you are leaving because of this.

Dont just leave without notice or anything.

Annisele

I'm hesitant to post this because I think it could be misconstrued and leave the OP even more upset than she is already. However, on the offchance it'll help:

I don't believe it's possible for anyone to "make" me feel worthless, or to "make" me feel that I'm bad at my job. My feelings and my confidence are my own, and I'm 100% responsible for them. I think it was Eleanor Roosevelt who said "noone can make you feel inferior without your own consent" - and it's true.

I have a job where it's not uncommon for the people I meet to decide I'm incompetent, or that I'm biased, or generally an idiot. If I believed their assessments of my character I'd be a wreck, but I don't. I do sometimes allow other peoples' comments to affect me, but I think the key word in that is "allow".

After some of my interactions, I end up repeating silently to myself "X, you're an unpleasant person, everybody you meet knows you're an unpleasant person, and so your life is unpleasant because you don't have the social skills to get people to behave reasonably to you. You have to put up with yourself for the whole of the rest of your life; I only have to put up with you for the few hours I meet you". That usually gets me in the frame of mind to feel sorry for X, and that makes X a great deal easier for me to deal with.

wapow

I think it was Eleanor Roosevelt who said

"no one can make you feel inferior without your own consent"

- and it's true.

Excellent.

This is so true. Most faults in peoples life can always be traced back to themselves. People are too ignorant to accept that it is THEM that are problematic and blame everyone else or life for their mishaps.

wapow

I have a job where it's not uncommon for the people I meet to decide I'm incompetent, or that I'm biased, or generally an idiot. If I believed their assessments of my character I'd be a wreck, but I don't. I do sometimes allow other peoples' comments to affect me, but I think the key word in that is "allow".

After some of my interactions, I end up repeating silently to myself "X, you're an unpleasant person, everybody you meet knows you're an unpleasant person, and so your life is unpleasant because you don't have the social skills to get people to behave reasonably to you. You have to put up with yourself for the whole of the rest of your life; I only have to put up with you for the few hours I meet you". That usually gets me in the frame of mind to feel sorry for X, and that makes X a great deal easier for me to deal with.

Ok i dont say negative talk to yourself is a good thing at all
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Also, if SO many people are saying something about me (new and old) then maybe I will reflect within and try to see whether what so many people are saying is inside of me. I wont be affected emotionally about it. Instead, reflect within. Then improve.

Lith

Walked out of work because of bullying

Well !!!!!! happens cry over it, find another job or get on the dole (dont let the jsa know you walked out..) otherwise you will be in a world of panic then.

thesoldier

martinsmum wrote: »

I have been working in a chip shop for the past 4 years, i have been very happy there the hours reasonable to suit my needs, I have never had a problem 3 years ago one of my bosses girlfriend started working at the shop, And for the past six months she has chipped away at my confidence telling me i am slow at the cleaning i am distracted and i make mistakes(my boss has never had a problem with my work) since she started to fry she has been talking down to staff(not when the boss is around) she has caused many problems with staff. on sunday night she snapped at me again and i had to go to the staff room as i was in tears again. the other staff member that was on told the big boss who owns the shop and miss bossy got away with it again, told us that he thinks we have a problem with her even though he wasnt there when she said it.I have not been to work since i am going to see my doctor as this situation as made me a nervous wreck. what can i do? any info would be appriciated Helen

1 x a baseball bat.
1 x Mobile phone (for quick ambulance call)
1 x middle finger (for the obvious.. lol)

Janey3

You've been there for 4 years, you know you can do the job and have no problems with other staff - why let her get the better of you? Your Mum has told them you're not fit for work at the moment, so get yourself to the Dr and get signed off and send the note in and keep your job. When you go back, you can then look round for something else, its better than being without work.