finding it difficult to disipline a well behaved child

cheepskate_2

Is it only me........or do others feel the same.

DS, is very well behaved, NEVER been in trouble in school, with other adults etc. In fact he would be so upset if an adult told him off, and probably burst into tears

Now i found it easy to reprimand the others , but because youngest never really needs telling off, i do find that if i have to do it i feel guilty. I also feel that i make him really upset, this isnt a get out clause by him, but he genuinely gets upset when told he's doing something wrong. Youngest is very sensitive, probably too much.

Anyone else have this problem.

As a wee thought , maybe I should be asking how to make a child less sensitive.

londonsurrey

Sometimes, with that type of person, if for instance they've said something wrong to someone, I find it easier to say "People don't like being told that", rather than "That was really rude of you to say that".

The first way leads to a discussion as to what is preferable and "right" and them taking it in, the second way leads to tears and a defensive manner.

lucylucy

My daughter is just the same and I never had any trouble with discipline, as all I ever really had to do was remind her or tell her blah blah (whatever it was). I only have the one so I've never known any different.

She's 11 now and those mood swings are starting to show so there may be turbulence ahead!

I have no advice, sorry. But you aren't alone. Some of us have been given these sensitive little souls to care for.

Nicki

I don't have to tell my eldest off either. He is generally extremely well behaved and polite (not just me who thinks that, I've been told the same by all his teachers over the years and other adults who come into contact with him). If he does step out of line, I only ever have to explain why what he has done isn't acceptable and he accepts with good grace and tries not to repeat the mistake. At school, apparently, the worst punishment he could envisage would if a teacher said she was disappointed in him

System

Never had any trouble disciplining most of my kids. If i told them off they generally learned from it.

The ones who didnt are still learning from their mistakes.

londonsurrey

It think it's better to get this end of the sensitive spectrum. At the other extreme end, I know someone who is really thick skinned, and gets up to all sorts, grabbing everything he can. He even once got engaged to two women, ...on the same day. And no, he's not from a polygamous religion, he's nominally C of E, not that I imagine they really think he's a prime example. Lol.

suki1001

My youngest is the same and my oldest is the same as your oldest. He wouldn't do anything to get into trouble and if I do get cross, he needs an awful lot of reassurance that everything is ok. When he was really little he broke something by accident. He was terrified the police were going to come and arrest him. It is difficult disiplining a child like him, but he is so well behaved I don't have to do it very often and you know it sinks in if you have to tell them off.
I try not to beat myself up about it.

paidinchickens

yep ........ could have throttled the eldest and have never had to raise my voice at the youngest.

Eldest is a girl who went out with the worst lad she could find at the age of 13. Ran away from home, clubbing, wrong crowd etc.....skipped school even though I drove her EVERY morning :mad: she shouted all the time and kicked off constantly.

She has settled down with a lovely lad now and is 24, head screwed on and we get on really well.

Son is 15 and does not argue, he just says "hear me out first Mum and think about it for 2 mins before you make a decision please" (manipulative much?)

However it does work with me, I do think about it and then I raise what I am not happy with and DS will counter that with a level headed response.

I don't know why they are so different

londonsurrey

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paidinchickens

londonsurrey wrote: »

PaidInChickens, I just can't help but visualise this massive spread of gently rolling hills and vales, teeming with chickens, representing your earnings accumulated over a lifetime!

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

bigmomma051204

londonsurrey wrote: »

PaidInChickens, I just can't help but visualise this massive spread of gently rolling hills and vales, teeming with chickens, representing your earnings accumulated over a lifetime!

LOL - wish i got paid in chickens, if it means i could live on Prada Hill... Hell, even if i just live in the next street down (Gucci Close or Chanel Lane) i'll be happy! :beer: