bullied at work

janey70

hi need some urgent advice for my daughter who is being bullied by her manager at work she is not in any union they dont have one she is in tears as her boss has been shouting at her and pointing in her face i want to go straight to head office but my daughter is terrified they will go straight to her boss then her life will be made a hundred times worse plz need some advice every advice line i have found is either not answering or answer machine ???

boobies

How old is your daughter? She can join a union without the employer "having one".

janey70

she is 20 ,21 this year worked for same person since she was 16

boobies

janey70 wrote: »

she is 20 ,21 this year worked for same person since she was 16

OK, so she needs to handle this, not you. I would suggest that she joins a union so she can be supported in raising a grievance against this manager.

Hmm71

Agree with what boobies said. Your daughter's employer doesn't have to have a union for her to join one. Try Unite or someone like that. In the meantime get her to keep a record of what her manager is doing and saying that is making her feel bullied, with dates and so on. I can understand her reluctance to tackle this through work, you never know how things will bounce back on you. Presumably as she's been there a few years she was previously happy there?
Unfortunately as boobies said she really needs to deal with this herself so just be there with sympathy, advice and a cuppa.

janey70

hi what i have done is ring head office and told them about what has been going off spoke to managing director and he has assured me it will be looked into without informing the manager

Twiglet0309

I hope it works out that way Janey70 but I am almost certain the manager in question will find out what is happening.

janey70

yes i dont doubt that eventually but at least they are aware of what is happening hes ment to be sending someone in over weekend to speak to my daughter as the manager is away for weekend so hopefully something can be done

Tiddlywinks

janey70 wrote: »

hi what i have done is ring head office and told them about what has been going off spoke to managing director and he has assured me it will be looked into without informing the manager

I don't think you should have called yourself - your daughter is an adult and if you want her to be taken seriously in her role at work then you need to be hands-off with her employer.

There is no way an effective (and fair) investigation can take place without the manager being involved. Otherwise, it would be a witchhunt - would you want your daughter to work for an organisation that took information from a third party and acted on it without speaking with the individual concerned?

The things that SHOULD have been done are:

- find out the company bullying / respect policies and act according to those policies.

- if no policy, your daughter should have spoken to her manager's line manager or to another manager and contact HR.

- keep a diary of all events that demonstrate bullying behaviour.

You should leave this to your daughter - yes, give her moral support but it is not professional for you to speak to her employer about this or for her MD to speak to you about your daughter's employment.

janey70

well the person who is coming to see my daughter is the person who deals with stuff like this i rang for my daughter as she is at work and in such a state i had to do something adult or no adult

moneypuddle

Sorry Janey I agree with Tiddywinks. I don't think you should have called on behalf of your daughter. No matter how upset she is, she's an adult and has been for nearly 3 years. You've got to support her, but let her fight it out herself.

It really undermines adults when their parents do something like this for them and makes her looks very unprofessional to the people she is tryng to appear most professional to. I know you were trying to help and some of the damage may already have been done but please please don't call them again!

You have been given some good advice on here though, so I'd follow that.