can my ex husband become my lodger and still keep his benefits

Bollotom

Mara69 wrote: »

Not from me, no.



I did not suggest that he would be a danger. However, living with an alcoholic can be very difficult. The very nature of their addiction means that they often steal things to sell to buy alcohol. They can be aggressive, depressive, unkind, rude, maudlin, loud, thoughtless and inconsiderate when drunk. The behaviour of a drunk can be extremely disturbing to witness. Add mental health problems to this and you certainly don't have an ideal home life for children.

I am sure the OP is flushed with altruism towards her ex - I just wonder if she might be better off putting her children first.

1) Ask the children
2) Ask the Benefits agency
3) Ask your doctor
I lived with an alcoholic partner for years and our son suffered until she decided to go off with another drunk. Anything saleable was sold, anything breakable was broken. She had no thought for her child or me, just used to get drunk, bang doors, shout and scream and be a general nuisance for days on end, compounded by the fact our neighbour's children went to my son's school and he was taunted about his Mom being drunk all the time. A policeman once told me, have no sympathy for a drunk, they will see it as a weakness and exploit it.
Grim to ignore but could be grimmer if you accept. He needs PROFESSIONAL care and support.

chris1973

do you really think it is a great idea to have an alcoholic with mental health problems living with you and your children?

A little judgemental don't you think. What parents who smoke around children is this 'beneficial' to their health too?, doesn't this pose risks too?, or are you just been selective in your discrimination?

When you set out tar and feathering, where exactly are you going to draw the line eh?

Mara69

chris1973 wrote: »

A little judgemental don't you think. What parents who smoke around children is this 'beneficial' to their health too?, doesn't this pose risks too?, or are you just been selective in your discrimination?

When you set out tar and feathering, where exactly are you going to draw the line eh?

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A little dramatic, don't you think??

uponahill

minime6 wrote: »

can my ex husband become my lodger and still keep his benefits
hi, i have been separated from my husband for 18months, i work full time and recieve child tax credits for two children.
my husband is an alcoholic and has mental health issues and also has skin cancer( he is currently recieving treatment for all ). He claims ESA for himself, due to not being able to work. He needs somewhere for him to live and for someone to help him with his medication & generally look after him as some days he is quite ill. If he was to move into my home as a lodger, not as a couple,would his benefits stop.
please advise.

Separated - still married - ummm me thinks you had better run it past the DWP/Council first.

Sounds very sus.

However it could be entirely on the level, but you are going to have to prove it to everybody's satisfaction!

getzls

The OP states he is getting treatment from all of his illnesses including his alcoholish. It is in every way an illness.

Soapn

this isn't the same one you started a thread about who is DEFRAUDING the benefit system though is it?

iluvmarmite wrote: »

My daughter separtated from her Husband and they have 3 kids, they rent a flat privately and his name only is on the tenancy agreement because he got the flat before they were together, he has been there for around 8 years.

When they separated he moved out but had no where to go so was sleeping on friends sofas or at his place of work, he then got nasty about things and told my daughter he wanted to move back into the flat, she was claiming benefits by then, she couldnt stop him as it was in his name, he moved into one of the bedrooms and my daughter and the kids had the rest of the flat, he brought all his own food, did his own cooking and washing ect and put £5 per week into the gas and electric meters, she told the DWP what was going on, as they do have some very nosey neighbours and didnt want to get reported for benefit fraud.

The DWP told her there was nothing she could do, she couldnt force him out and he couldnt force her out and they will class him as being an independant adult living in the house, her benefits didnt stop and there has been no trouble over it, well actually HB stopped as he is paying all the rent.

I dont know if areas differ but hopefully your ex will be ok living in your home as he is there purely to be looked after and it shouldnt affect his benefits at all, but I think the only people who can really tell you is the DWP