April 2013 weddings

jtr2803

G love the flowers skoob!! You've been ever in crafty with your wedding bits and they look fab! You also seem so calm and organised, its scaring me a little lol.

Well, a week today for us. Having to do my last trip to my London department today which I really didn't want to do but I suppose it gets it out of the way. Got dentist tomorrow for a clean and polish and Friday will definitely be my last day in the office.

I need to do some work on my groom journal today while I am on the train as its the ideal time to make some notes, other that that I need to:

Make centrepieces for tables
Put all other table decorations into boxes ready for venue dresser
Get honeymoon paperwork together
Get a bottle of wine for best friends thank you gift
Get alcohol for the fridge for the boys to have wedding morning
Email make up lady about doing my friends eyes on wedding day
Write list of home items we would like as gifts for people at work
Print copy of my vows out
Pack my overnight bag to take to mums

Its actually not too bad, we are both off Monday so have decided to go out together and have a nice last dinner together before wedding craziness really sets in! I have waxing appointment Saturday, spray tan Monday and then nails and lashes Tuesday, things we do to ourselves!!

lil_miss_insanity

Argh!!! I'm in full-on panic mode! I'm so disorganised and there's no time! Everyone else is sooooooo organised and I'm a complete mess.

I'm not sure how OH is getting to the wedding. He was supposed to ask his parents for a lift up on the Friday, but they're travelling up on the Thursday night before now. His stag is that night. After today he has 1 more day off before then and is working 9am 'til 9pm every other day. He has no presents for parents/best man/ushers etc.

I had a trial run making cake pops for favours at the weekend. Took all day 'til 9:30pm and only did about half the number, and they looked a complete mess. Tasted great, but not really favour-quality presentation. Gutted - looks like we're without favours again.

Mum's getting annoyed with me for asking her to help out with Yorkshire things, like putting the order into Sainsburys for the cheese and crudites platters. I can't get up there in enough advance to do it myself as it needs ordering 5 days before.

I've lost my to-do list and I'm completely lost as to what hasn't been done. Most things are paid now, but I've not spoken to anyone. E.g. photographer paid but no list of groups shots given, DJ paid but no first dance/song list given...

I am trying to sort out solicitors and surveyors and mortgages for this new house we're buying, trying to book excursions for honeymoon, trying to not look like a complete flake at work to my new boss...

I CAN'T DO THISSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! *goes off and cries in a corner*

daisiegg

Noooooo lil miss yes you can! Just take a deep breath - it will all be fine and you CAN do it!

Your OH needs to figure out how to get to the wedding himself. If he is not worried, nor should you be - I'm sure it will be fine!

As for presents for best man etc, again, that is his responsibility. Online shopping is your friend! Amazon has loads of cards - order in bulk from one seller so you know they will all arrive together, card for parents, best man, usher, bridesmaids, etc - done. Amazon is also good for presents. I got personalised hip flasks from there. They have pretty much anything you could want! Or what's wrong with a nice bottle of wine/whiskey/their tipple of choice? Order it in with your online grocery shop (if you don't already do this I would strongly recommend it at this busy time!) and you're sorted.

Favours - sorry they didn't work out as well as you hoped I had initially planned to make personalised cookies as favours but eventually gave up on that when I realised how time consuming and stressful it would be! Do you HAVE to have favours? If you do have you heart set on it, how about doing what we did - little organza bags of love related sweets? All bought off amazon! Organza bags in your wedding colour - very cheap. Then we got mini love hearts, foil wrapped heart shaped chocolates (in our wedding colour), 'just married' chocolate coins and heart shaped jelly sweets to fill it out. It took less than an hour for my mum and I to put together 100 of these and probably cost around £40-£50 for all the bits.

Is it worth having a heart to heart with your mum and explaining how stressed you feel and that you really need her to help out with a few local things until you get there? Maybe she doesn't realise how much you have on your plate.

As for DJ and photographer - our wedding is on Saturday and we still haven't spoken to DJ, and we also haven't given photographer a list of shots (and probably won't, to be honest!). I think from what I understand, DJs tend to get in touch only a couple of days before the event so it is fresh in their minds. As for the photographer, give yourself 15 minutes, sit down, type out a list of shots and email it. Job done.

I really feel for you but please don't panic - it will all be ok!

Let us know if there is anything we can do to help...

Faith177

Hi All

Sorry I didn't come back to you after all your wonderful suggestions. I was thinking of only getting bridesmaids something small but didn't know if that would be ok but when I think I have made them a pamper pack for the morning already they have gotten quite a bit so I'm just going to get them something small and personal now.

I have given up on MIL OH is doing it now. I think my feelings about her were clouding my judgement a little. My mum however is all sorted I named a star for her just hope she likes it.

Feeling really miserable today it's 22 years since my dad died and I'm really struggling this year much much more than usual. I think it's because I suddenly realised how much he missed out on he was only 2 years old than me when he died

I always knew I was going to miss having him at the wedding but today has just made me realise to what extent.

I'll be ok but just want today gone doesn't help I'll be on my own tonight so I really need to keep myself busy.

A few other silly things are annoying me aswell at the moment but think thats because im tired so hopefully a good nights sleep will set me right

lil_miss_insanity

Faith177 wrote: »

Hi All

Sorry I didn't come back to you after all your wonderful suggestions. I was thinking of only getting bridesmaids something small but didn't know if that would be ok but when I think I have made them a pamper pack for the morning already they have gotten quite a bit so I'm just going to get them something small and personal now.

I have given up on MIL OH is doing it now. I think my feelings about her were clouding my judgement a little. My mum however is all sorted I named a star for her just hope she likes it.

Feeling really miserable today it's 22 years since my dad died and I'm really struggling this year much much more than usual. I think it's because I suddenly realised how much he missed out on he was only 2 years old than me when he died

I always knew I was going to miss having him at the wedding but today has just made me realise to what extent.

I'll be ok but just want today gone doesn't help I'll be on my own tonight so I really need to keep myself busy.

A few other silly things are annoying me aswell at the moment but think thats because im tired so hopefully a good nights sleep will set me right

Awww *big hugs* you've put my problems firmly into perspective. Sucks to be alone when you're sad. Hopefully you have plenty to keep you busy. My best friend had lost her mum 2 years prior to the wedding. The wedding day itself was a painful, but joyous occasion, as she was definitely there in spirit.

daisiegg

Aww Faith, poor you I am so lucky to have both of my parents alive but OH's dad is not with us anymore. He died about 14 years ago but really he had been lost to OH long before that (he was a raging alcoholic)

I was coming on here to post a crazy stressed rant but as lil miss says, Faith you have put my problems into perspective and I'll keep quiet and calm down!

Faith177

daisiegg wrote: »

Aww Faith, poor you I am so lucky to have both of my parents alive but OH's dad is not with us anymore. He died about 14 years ago but really he had been lost to OH long before that (he was a raging alcoholic)

I was coming on here to post a crazy stressed rant but as lil miss says, Faith you have put my problems into perspective and I'll keep quiet and calm down!

Thanks Daisie glad i could help :rotfl:

That's such a shame about your OH's dad my Uncle was like that and it was horrible to watch.

We lost my dad in freak accident with a train when he was out walking our dog so it was very very sudden.

daisiegg

Sorry to hear that Faith, that is awful I'm sure he will be 'there in spirit' at your wedding. We are remembering OH's dad and also my dad's mum (who died before I was born when he was just a teenager) in a small way by having one of the bidding prayers be about people who are no longer with us. Obviously that only works at a church wedding! I know some people have pictures of deceased parents etc on the top table or something...I think it is just important to pause and remember them on such a special day.

daisiegg

Ok, I said I wasn't going to but I can't help it, I just need to quickly...

AAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!

Faith177

daisiegg wrote: »

Sorry to hear that Faith, that is awful I'm sure he will be 'there in spirit' at your wedding. We are remembering OH's dad and also my dad's mum (who died before I was born when he was just a teenager) in a small way by having one of the bidding prayers be about people who are no longer with us. Obviously that only works at a church wedding! I know some people have pictures of deceased parents etc on the top table or something...I think it is just important to pause and remember them on such a special day.

We are having 2 drinks on the bar one for my dad one for OH's dad

daisiegg wrote: »

Ok, I said I wasn't going to but I can't help it, I just need to quickly...

AAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!

Ok spill what's up a problem shared and all that