Husband Contributed to Saving Money

pelirocco

melancholly wrote: »

well i can kind of agree that for me, £35 would be better spent in savings than on flowers...... valentine's day doesn't need money being spent. you don't need to spend money to show that you care about someone.

i don't know if you should be 'pleased', but i don't think you should be upset.

I'm not sure what all the fuss is about for one day of the year .
You dont need to spend money to show you care , equally you dont just need one day a year to show it either:D

Murtle

Yes, I would be pleased!

I got a lovely card with lovely words and a that made me happy.

Did he get you a card?

Metranil_Vavin

I think £35 on a bunch of flowers is a waste. They'll be dead by the weekend!

Nice meal, bottle of wine and cuddles is a far better way to spend Vals Day

*Louise*

gallyw wrote: »

Husband contributed to saving money today...did nothing for Valentines....'what's the point of paying £35 for a bunch of flowers...'



Should I be pleased???

It depends....

If he has woken you with breakfast in bed or has written a poem or is going to cook dinner and trreats you like a princess EVERY other day of the year etc then YES you should be pleased.

If he has done nothing else for you and has written the day off as unimportant (when you obviously think otherwise) then NO you don't need to feel pleased and I think he should be made to suffer lol;)


I have to admit I would freak if my hubby spent that much on flowers anyway I am happy with a small bunch for £5 which still means as much in terms of thoughtfulness (they are just going to die anyway) It's more about some nice words in a card and spending time together which means more to me.

podperson

I do agree in a way - I hate how they ridiculously overprice things leading up to today and basically it is a holiday designed to make money out of people. OH and I have never really bothered with it, but we are both quite happy with that and don't see the point in making a 'forced' effort one day a year when it's more fun to do it randomnly throughout the year
However if it did matter to him then I would try and make the effort and I would hope he would do the same if I was bothered about it - certainly wouldn't spend £35 on flowers but doing something like making a nice tea and getting a bottle of wine in doesn't cost much.

pukkamum

DH and i have never really bothered with valentines BUT this year i woke up to a dozen red roses!!!
I cried for about an hour!
DH said it had been such a hard year for me he wanted me to see how appreciated i am.
Normally i would say it was a huge waste of money but this year i just really really appreciated it!

thegirlintheattic

Whilst he should've done something (unless like others here you've agreed beforehand not to) flowers are a rip off. I would much rather the money go into savings or on something useful for the kitchen (oh god, I sound like my mother) than on some flowers that will die in a few days.

I can guarrentee my OH will turn up with a card and a small prezzie whilst I've spent the day cleaning the house top to bottom, preping a nice meal and searching town for some nice long candles.

January20

Oravat wrote: »

Valentines day is just a money making scheme.
If he shows his love to you all year round, does it matter that he didn't buy you any flowers?

Best post of this thread!

Out of the £35-40 that people pay for a bunch of flowers on Valentine's day, how much goes to the people who grow and pick those flowers, and how ethical is it to buy them?

http://www.guardian.co.uk/environment/2011/feb/14/valentines-day-roses-kenya

What Frugal Queen wrote in her blog is my idea of real love: http://frugalincornwall.blogspot.com/

Pee

I think it's important to make sure that he knows what you expect of him. If you say lets stop spending money, he is going to assume that means Valentine's Day, too.

It depends really on what your finances are like. I would have thought that a bunch of daffodils could be factored in to almost any budget.

That said if my boyfriend surprises me with a three course meal somewhere posh this evening, I will be thinking about how that money could be better spent.

thunderbird

I don't think that buying someone flowers (or whatever else) because they are expecting you to, is in the least bit romantic.

I always thought that Valentine's day was about giving a card to someone that you secretly liked and that it was all anonymous - did I change somewhere along the line or was I lied to as a child?!