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ChelseaGirl

caz2703 wrote: »

I AM NOT A VICTIM :j

Most on here have no idea what I've gone through and will never know as it's not something I'm proud of. I was always a happy outgoing person, the kind that when in a room full of strangers would be mingling and talking. After a few years with the ex however, I became the person who sat in the corner avoiding eye contact. Well I'm back to my old self and I will never be the victim of abuse ever again.

I was subjected to physical, emotional and financial abuse when I was with my ex. I'm so happy to be away from him and his controlling ways. Things are at their toughest right now for a number of reasons, but once everything is sorted out and when I'm finally divorced it will feel as though a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders - I know it will.

I can't wait for that day to arrive. I've got a huge amount of worry to deal with at the moment, so much I'm uncertain of. It's making me really ill right now.

However, I'm looking forward to the day that I can join you caz in saying that I'm back to my old self again. Well done. I'm glad you're there.

Just trying to keep myself from going under right now. Not sure I'm winning that battle.

minniemoneypenny

Thanks madmuppet5 - your pic has really got me giggling!! :rotfl: :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

caz2703

HappyChappy84 wrote: »

You know that advert where the father emails his daughter every day from the day she was born for her to read when she gets older?

I would do something like that. Set up an email address for the boys an email them every time something happens. Include screenshots of text message he sends, attach any emails he sends you. Detail everything, including you're responses etc etc. then when the kids are old enough to understand sit them down and give them a brief explanation of what's happened and then give them the log on information for their email account and let them decide if they want to read it or not. Kids being kids curiosity will get the better of them and they will read it. An it least that way you can't be accused of making things up etc etc.

I don't know why but that has brought tears to my eyes. Thank you

HappyChappy84

Just got 15 Valentines cards. It's left me completely breathless.



The security guard at Clintons gave quite a chase.

HappyChappy84

caz2703 wrote: »

I don't know why but that has brought tears to my eyes. Thank you

Awwwww :grouphug:

caz2703

ChelseaGirl wrote: »

I was subjected to physical, emotional and financial abuse when I was with my ex. I'm so happy to be away from him and his controlling ways. Things are at their toughest right now for a number of reasons, but once everything is sorted out and when I'm finally divorced it will feel as though a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders - I know it will.

I can't wait for that day to arrive. I've got a huge amount of worry to deal with at the moment, so much I'm uncertain of. It's making me really ill right now.

However, I'm looking forward to the day that I can join you caz in saying that I'm back to my old self again. Well done. I'm glad you're there.

Just trying to keep myself from going under right now. Not sure I'm winning that battle.

I might be there emotionally but there's still a long road ahead before I can turn the corner and get my life back.

I got talking to a lovely lady in Ts a few weeks ago. Somehow her daughter came up in conversation and she was saying about her ex, their child, his abuse etc etc. She said talking to me was like talking to her daughter. You know the scary thing? I realised after I'd left that I thought I knew her daughter. Managed to find the lady again and yes, her daughter and I used to work together. Her DD was the most timid but polite person you could ever meet. Never a bad word to say, always smiling, never angry. To know that she is a former shell of herself makes me so glad I got out when I did or that could have been me

It makes me mad that there are 'men' out there that get off on bullying women. It's not big and it's not clever and someday, karma will bite and it won't be nice.

Mrs_Jagger

HappyChappy84 wrote: »

Just got 15 Valentines cards. It's left me completely breathless.
The security guard at Clintons gave quite a chase.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Looby123

HappyChappy84 wrote: »

You know that advert where the father emails his daughter every day from the day she was born for her to read when she gets older?

I would do something like that. Set up an email address for the boys an email them every time something happens. Include screenshots of text message he sends, attach any emails he sends you. Detail everything, including you're responses etc etc. then when the kids are old enough to understand sit them down and give them a brief explanation of what's happened and then give them the log on information for their email account and let them decide if they want to read it or not. Kids being kids curiosity will get the better of them and they will read it. An it least that way you can't be accused of making things up etc etc.

although i get your point HC and can even understand the logic behind doing something like this, Caz I would urge you not to do this....its not fair to use children as a weapon in yours or the ex's battle, and its more harmful for the kids to do something like this. At the end of the day, he is still their dad, and in a previous post you did say that they deserve a father...if he proves his worth to his kids, then thats all that should matter now...if he fails at that, then the kids will see themselves what a fool he's been....but they shouldnt need graphic info from text message/photos/emails etc to prove this. Its not fair on them

HappyChappy84

Looby123 wrote: »

although i get your point HC and can even understand the logic behind doing something like this, Caz I would urge you not to do this....its not fair to use children as a weapon in yours or the ex's battle, and its more harmful for the kids to do something like this. At the end of the day, he is still their dad, and in a previous post you did say that they deserve a father...if he proves his worth to his kids, then thats all that should matter now...if he fails at that, then the kids will see themselves what a fool he's been....but they shouldnt need graphic info from text message/photos/emails etc to prove this. Its not fair on them

I agree, and it's part of the reason I said include everything, and by everything I mean anything Caz may have done in retaliation so it shows it's not all one sided.

I don't mean show it to the boys at 12, 17 or 18 would be better. Who knows, their father may have tripped homself up allowing his kids to see his true colours long before then.

APennysaved_2

Hello everyone and at the new thread title.
Woke up this morning to a lovely pork cider stew in the slow cooker a la Frequent and Miss Laid..thanks
Off to make the Mary Berry cupcakes now. Will also do some 62p stuffing balls and attempt sausage rolls with Jumblejack's pastry recipe.

Just a quick question for the folks who have had to contact Uncle Phil's office in the past- how long did you have to wait for a response? I mailed on the 9th and haven't even had an acknowledgement...just worrried that my mail might have ended up in their spam box