Engagement Ring Dilemma

mountainofdebt

mico62 wrote: »

I've got my Nan's ring that she gave me on my 21st birthday because she wanted to see my wearing it while she was still alive. It caused a lot of grief because as eldest daughter my mum had assumed it would go to her.

I intend to carry on the tradition (in many, many years) and pass the ring on to my eldest granddaughter on her 21st. As I haven't got grandchildren yet I might have to rethink my plan but for the timebeing that's who'll get the ring!

I was going to say I can't see why Blue's daughter needs to wait until Blue dies to inherit whatever engagement ring is kept whole - she could be given it on a significant birthday or even on her wedding day.

The other thing to bear in mind is what would be the reaction if for what ever reason the diamond was used was lost? Would it be a case of oh well it was only a diamond or would the loss be even more raw because it came from your grandmother / great grandmother?

Blue_Monkey

That's a nice thought - I could give her the ring on a special occasion, don't have to wait to pop my clogs I guess

Now to decide which ring. ARGH.

My grandma was born in 1920 and was the eldest of her siblings, so my great grandparents must've got married before that.

And just to really throw a spanner in the works, we're not 100% sure whose ring is actually whose! I need to dig out some old photos and try and fathom it out from there.

cheeswright

I wear my husbands great - great - grandmothers engagement ring
we had a wedding ring made to frame/ match it
this very much modernised the look - but kept the ring intact

I find the connection to previous generations, and thought behind it, more important than it "being my thing" - I would never have chosen it - but I would never part with it

are you sure you want to cut them up?
the diamonds themselves - no matter how they're cut - are probably only worth a few pounds ( I used to work in hatton garden - and retail price can be a long way from actual value on these)
the rings themselves - work - styling - heritage as original products of an era , will continue to be more and more valuable

where as cutting & remaking them will reduce them to scrap value

I guess I'm more than a bit biased - but hey - this is a forum

Errata

You are only the current keeper - pass them both on exactly as they are, which is how they came to be in your possession, not faffed around with or in the pawn shop.

countrybum

Could you use one (maybe the larger) in your engaement ring and the other in your wedding band?

mountainofdebt

being having a think about this and I know I'm going to sound like a doom merchant but.....

....what would happen if things didn't work out with mr bluemonkey-to-be?

if things didn't work out with mr mod then I know I couldn't wear my wedding ring (my mum got rid of hers !) so to me making my wedding ring out of something that was precious (whilst nice) to me would seem like a double wammy if it all went wrong (which I'm sure it won't)

Emmylou_2

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

And she can show your granddaughter a ring that her great great great grandmother passed down the family for over a hundred years, a ring where the owner sat looking at her beloved baby daughter - your grandmother - and thought 'one day, my baby will have this part of me, and one day, so will her baby or her baby's baby......'.

I'm lucky enough to be the current wearer of DF's great-grandma's engagement ring, and this is something that makes me all soppy, the thought of this ring going down the ages. His parents gave us the choice of this or his grandma's (WW2) wedding ring (he's the elder of two and the first to be engaged). It meant so much to me because I'd only met his parents for a couple of days before we got engaged.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

I'd keep the old cut diamond in its old setting. And use the modern cut diamond in your modern setting.

I love old fashioned jewellery and that would be such a beautiful thing to keep.

I love old-fashioned jewellery too, and as soon as I saw this ring on my finger (it fitted perfectly, too, which is a big sign) I knew that it was The One. I'd previously been saying I wanted a solitaire (which this isn't) or a very modern cut (which this definitely isn't), but I can't imagine being without this.

mountainofdebt wrote: »

being having a think about this and I know I'm going to sound like a doom merchant but.....

....what would happen if things didn't work out with mr bluemonkey-to-be?

DF and I have agreed that if we ever split up (hoping not to, obviously), then the ring goes back to his family - if we have children, it will be held for the first of those to be engaged (if they like it, of course), if not, then it will go to cousins/neices/nephews etc.

fluffnutter

joshadz wrote: »

Hi,

In my experience, www uniondiamondstore com has always been my fave. It's fast and has a decent range of rings and earrings. And being online, the price is better since you save on location, etc.

Do give it a try

Josh

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FatVonD

fluffnutter wrote: »

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Ditto............

FatVonD

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

And she can show your granddaughter a ring that her great great great grandmother passed down the family for over a hundred years, a ring where the owner sat looking at her beloved baby daughter - your grandmother - and thought 'one day, my baby will have this part of me, and one day, so will her baby or her baby's baby......'.

You big softie, who'd've thunk it