what reason can i give to stop carers allowance

earwig

hi i want to stop claiming carers allowance for my son he is still in need of care and i will contune to give it to him but it dosnt sit right with me claiming carers allowance for him but i dont know how to stop it and what reason to give to stop the claim any ideas please thanks

irishjohn

Its a benefit you have claimed and are entitled to - especially if your son continues to need care because of his disability. Why should this benefit be less comfortable to claim than the other benefits you receive? Is it affecting some other benefit you are receiving?

earwig

thanks no its not affecting any other benefits i claim its just his my 7 year old boy i have to watch him like a hawk make sure he dont do anything what can cause him and other harm but dont all mums have to do that anyway just dont feel right beeing paid to care for my own son im not knocking anyone else what dose claim for their children fair play i just dont want to claim it anymore didnt want to in the first place but everyone was like have it it there to be used but like i say just dont feel right to me

Mojisola

earwig wrote: »

thanks no its not affecting any other benefits i claim its just his my 7 year old boy i have to watch him like a hawk make sure he dont do anything what can cause him and other harm but dont all mums have to do that anyway just dont feel right beeing paid to care for my own son im not knocking anyone else what dose claim for their children fair play i just dont want to claim it anymore didnt want to in the first place but everyone was like have it it there to be used but like i say just dont feel right to me

No, children with special needs require more care and attention than other children of their age. That's why they are awarded benefits.

If you can manage without the money, put it in a savings account for your son. He may be able to use it in the future to make his life easier.

You could use the money now to pay a carer so that you have some respite. Caring for someone year after year can be very debilitating.

If you really want to stop, you don't need an excuse. Just tell them you don't want the money any more.

winterwhite11

don,t stop , keep it unless you are mega rich..
you are watching like a hawk with prob no spare time . you are entitled

jennie-jack

they stop the benefit if you are a full time student but you dont need to lie. i agree with above who said put it away it might come in handy if you ever need to stay in hospital or you need to hire care for any reason.

stiltwalker

Kinda know where you are coming from in a way as I have just come to terms with the fact that my nearly 3 year old requires so much more care than her peers that I have filled in the DLA form for her, just waiting for one or two supporting docs to submit it later his week. It has taken me nearly 9 months and more crying jags than I would care to 'fess up to even to a load of anonymous bods on a forum (sorry guys).

Most of the time I just poddle along and as she is the most wonderful, full of fun, adorable little girl I can almost convince myself that all is ok, until of course, I meet up with my mummy friends who have kids the same age who are doing so many more things than she is (even if she has one over them on a few things mainly involving concentration and determination) and who I can understand when no one but me and very close friends/family can understand a word my DD says even if she deigns to speak to them. I wouldn't swap her or this particular experience of parenthood for the world but for sure some days it is mighty hard, even if half the time (or more) I don't even realise how hard until I stop and compare. I try not to compare too often - that's how I get through, I also often say - and did today to DD's physio - that if my children (I have a little man of 8 months too) weren't so blummin nice I'd have been sectioned long since!

I think what I'm trying to say is that if you really want to give up this money then do but don't for one tiny little second underestimate just how much you do, just because it feels normal to you and you 'signed up for it' doesn't mean that you don't need a little extra care and consideration too. If you decide to keep the money put it away and treat all of you to a break away every so often or leave it in the bank as a security blanket for if you ever need to pay for someone else to watch your little one 24/7 if you are ill. Maybe spend the odd little bit on a new book and a fancy bath bomb and lock yourself in the bathroom for an hour while your OH (hope you have one) watches junior so you can de-stress and relax and recharge those batteries for tomorrow.

Whatever you do - keep on fighting the good fight and enjoy your little one, quirks and all.

Richie-from-the-Boro

earwig wrote: »

thanks no its not affecting any other benefits I claim, its just his my 7 year old boy I have to watch him like a hawk make sure he don't do anything what can cause him and other harm but don't all mums have to do that anyway just don't feel right being paid to care for my own son I'm not knocking anyone else what does claim for their children fair play I just don't want to claim it any more didn't want to in the first place but everyone was like have it it there to be used but like I say just don't feel right to me

Dejà vu - do you remember your own previous posts on this forum earwig ? if not you, like the rest of us can 'trawl' back and read every last one of them.

DorsetGirl_2

I rand and told them I wanted to stop my claim - they did not ask for a reason.

rotoguys

earwig wrote: »

thanks no its not affecting any other benefits i claim its just his my 7 year old boy i have to watch him like a hawk make sure he dont do anything what can cause him and other harm but dont all mums have to do that anyway just dont feel right beeing paid to care for my own son im not knocking anyone else what dose claim for their children fair play i just dont want to claim it anymore didnt want to in the first place but everyone was like have it it there to be used but like i say just dont feel right to me

Yes, it does happen! Some people and some organisations do make you feel 'abnormal' or uncaring' if you don't claim benefits. It happened to me too!

marleyboy

Stopping the benefit is the easy bit, just tell them you no longer want it, you dont need a reason to NOT want it. It seems strange if you are perfectly entitled to it, to turn it down.

My Son has special needs and I get a carers allowance for looking after his needs, I am neither ashamed nor embarrassed to be claiming for it.