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sooty&sweep

To be honest I'd say take what she's saying at face value and try not to read too much into it.

From what you've posted you do regularly buy her things and shes just saying thankyou they're lovely but I don't really need them and I know you don't take me for granted whereas I bet there are things you need for your family even if its just the money in your bank.

Just carry on enjoying your friendship as I suspect thats the best gift you could ever give her

Jen

Hanging_by_a_thread

What lovely neighbours you are to each other. She sounds like a gem. It is tricky knowing how to respond to someone who is so generous. In one way it is lovely that she doesn't expect anything from you in return for all the thoughtful things she does.

Personally I would not feel at ease accepting a gift and not giving something back. However seeing as she has said that there is no need to reciprocate, just always say thank you and offer to do practical things for her when you see something that needs doing.

I have a little old couple living near to me who are so nice. They would do anything for anyone. Every now and then I invite them over for tea and cake and a catch up. I am not very diy savvy so cant help them in any practical way. I think having someone to talk to and spend time with makes a difference to them. You can show your appreciation of someone in all kinds of ways.

Judith_W

You say it is an older lady. At Christmas and birthdays my Grandparents always ask for very small token presents (small packet of biscuits) because they would rather we didn't spend money on them. I know we can afford more and usually get a fancy box of biccies rather than a small standard pack but the point is I know they don't dislike bigger presents per se, they would just rather we save our money.

I think your neighbour appreciates the gestures, but would get more pleasure from you spending the money on your kids than on her.