In dire need of some sensible heads......

grandma247

KernowGael wrote: »

Hi,

Having our rent and council tax paid is a nice thought, however, we're not out for something for nothing This is not something for nothing, you pay tax don't you? you will continue to pay tax if you get these benefits so you are still paying into the system. It is a right not a charity handout.and OH is perfectly able bodied. I only went full-time about 18 months ago in order to give him a chance to spend some time with the children and (basically) have something of a life. Prior to that he had been working 60/70 hours a week and I was doing 20, so we had a bit of a role reversal.

I just need to know that we could manage the upset to a pretty tight budget and come out the other side. You will come out the other side just fine. I had two nine year gaps after my first family of four children and I was 44 when I had my last surprise. He is now 12 and we are doing better than ok. It was hard at first because it was pre mse but since I found out about this site our lives have made a complete turnaround. Take one day at a time but with your eyes on the future and just do what you can each day. It is enough for anyone. There are so many wonderful tips on the os board you will wonder why you were worried. I hope all goes well for you all.It's tempting to take that route but, we want our children to grow up thinking that the norm is to get up and go out to work If one of you is working your children will be ok. Sometimes I wonder if that's doing them a disservice looking at the state of things but...........that's a whole other argument!

I hope all goes well for you all.

KernowGael

Hi,

Thanks for your reply, it's heartening to hear from another lady who has had a child in similar circumstances. We have wrestled with this for nearly a week now and have today decided that we will go ahead, although everytime I look in the mirror I think I must be nuts but, having done a fair bit of research into the alternative I know it's something I can't do.

Am happy but quite frightened at the same time, will be glad when he/she is here and we can all move on.

Darlyd

Congratulations ... Am sure everything will work out for you all.

xx