Ectopic pregnancy

busiscoming2

I had an ectopic way back in 1989, it was a horrendous experience, but that's another story!
I already had my dd and went on to have ds1 just over a year after the ectopic and then ds2. i had no problem in conceiving even with one tube.

Silver-Cat

In 1995 I also went through the trauma of an eptopic pregancy and spent just over a month in hospital ward right next to the maternity ward which was horrendous bad luck. My mother was the staff nurse on the ward I was on which in some ways was nice but in other ways made things difficult when I wanted to be left alone and some privacy.

I was at work and collapsed and had no idea I was pregnant. But that doesn't make the loss any easier to bear.

I had one tube removed and have been pregnant since with no problems 10 yrs later. They think the tube may have been blocked or scarred but sometimes you know its just one of those things that you can't get the answers for even though for me I was desperate to know why it had happened. I suspect they told me what they thought might have caused it due to the state I was putting myself in.

I remember my sister visiting me and telling me she was pregnant and I just wanted to slap her, but I do love her and my neice is adorable.

I spent a lot of years after speaking to a charity caled SANDS for neonatal deaths as I had no idea who to call. Recently I've just found out is run and telephone manned by people who have gone through the same thing and it was a volunteer called Patrick that saved my life as I was extremely depressed. This was as I found it difficult to let go of the trauma I went through and move on as I had a habit of replaying the events which is not a healthy thing to do.

Candlewax

Hi thanks for replying. I was told by the hospital and my GP to wait 2 months before we should try again but after doing some research the advice is to wait 2 full cycles, or 3 months. That would mean we shouldn't start trying until March. But I really want to start trying in a couple of weeks time. It will only be about 3 or 4 weeks early. Not really sure what to do but really don't want to wait any longer.:(

starfish1975

I just thought I would share my story - I had a Ectopic pregnany in Nov 2010 - it was diagnosed on my 35th birthday.... I had a real rollercoaster of a year afterwards - it was honestly the worst thing that i have hadt o come though - it effected every part of my life, relationship, family, friends, work etc... I withdrew from the world. Thankfully after the support of my partner and counselling I have can look forward again.. I found great support from all the ladies at the http://www.ectopic.org.uk/ they were a lifesaver for me after my experience and my TTC journey. I would recommend them to anyone who has experienced an EP.

I am currently 26 weeks pregnant - and looking forward to the arrival of my baby at the start of May..

kathyb1230

I'm so glad this thread is here - I really needed to read these posts today.
I have an 8 month old little boy, and found out last week that I was pregnant again. I didn't want to be expecting again so quickly, I argued with my husband, I shouted, I cried, I acted horribly really. There was however no way I could have had an abortion, although I was secretly hoping for a miscarriage.

Turns out that it was an ectopic pregnancy, and two days ago I had surgery and came home minus a tube.

Now, I'm beside myself. I can't stop wondering what my child would have been like. Would she/he have been best friends with her older brother? Would she have brown hair like me, or blonde like her brother? I feel so horrible that I was hoping for a miscarriage, I don't think that I'm being 'punished' or anything, but I just feel so so sad.

It's great to see that there is hope for another pregnancy a little further down the line. My husband and I were planning to start TTC in June or July, so with a bit of luck we can still aim for that.

Sorry, that's a bit of a ramble, I think I really needed to get that off my chest. Thanks for reading xx